ok.. well i have a boyfriend of a year and 2 months and i love him with all my heart. we know we're right 4 each other. the thing is he's 17 and im 15 and we both want a baby really badly. we know we're young but we love each other enough that we feel it would be right to. but we dont know if we should or not cuz of respect that might be lost and his career. we need some advice plz!!!
2007-08-26 15:30:28 · 23 answers · asked by crazygurl17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh hun my advice would be to wait till later on in life.
I also was in a loving realationship at around your age and i also had baby thoughts running through my head all the time, i am now not with him anymore and i'm glad that i decided not to go fourth with my decision to have a baby at such a young age. im not trying to say that you and your partner will brake up, hopefully it goes out well for you but you have your whole life ahead of you.
i know a baby is a bundle of joy but sometimes you just have to think about the negatives. you dont really want to be tied down with a baby at such a young age. Your teenage years will be lost. and trust me you need to live your teenage years to the fullest.
You wont only have to think about yourself anymore you will also have to think abou twhats good and safe for your child.
i stress the fact that you may regret it if you do and there's no way in going back.
2007-08-26 15:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by SVETLANA B. R. FROSTS PROUD MOM! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, no HELL NO. No matter how much you want a baby you are not ready for one believe me. I was a teen-mom thats how I know that a baby this early would not be a wise decision. First get through college cause girl I did it with a baby and some of the time I was working full-time and going to college full-time and raising my baby girl and let me tell you my plate was full, I barely had any time for her I was so busy. I did it and now am a nurse. Girl get through your teen years first, it is not fun sitting at home with the baby all night when you know that all your girlfriends are out partying with their boyfriends. What if your boyfriend doesnt hang around with you and leaves you with the baby? Then he will be at the partys by himself and you will be at home alone careing for your child. When you get pregnant your body will change and you will certainly get stretch marks and you may end up getting fat (at least fatter than the other tiny girls at your school) and i was once told that your hips WILL NEVER go back to the way they were before you had a baby. Please girl just wait until after college then you can enjoy your self through school and prom and homecomming and all that, plus if you wait until after college then you'll be able to support the child without scrambleing from paycheck to paycheck. E-mail me if you want, girl.
2007-08-26 15:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by juniper555 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This one's easy. You have no idea how expensive a child is. Plus yeah you love eachother give it time. A few years. A child is a wonderful thing, but you can't reason with one. You can't say no, you can't take a day off, you can't enjoy a quiet weekend. You lose a lot in the beginning. Enjoy your life and live it to the fullest. Do not through another life into the mix until you're sure your financially secure enough to take care of that life. You will be responsible for making sure they are well and taken care of. Going to school and getting your education so you can provide for yourself should be number one priority.
2007-08-26 15:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Drew _ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! you are way to young, you don't have anything settled, you don't have the means to take care of a baby. it's a wonderful thing to want a baby, but you are still in high school, and although you are emotionally attached right now, it's not real love, though it can grow into real love, but most high school relationships end when high school does or before. and do you really want to raise a baby, and try to finish high school, and then try to go to college? I've known people who tried. they work all week just to support their baby, and don't have the money or the time to go to college so they can get a degree for a better job. wait until you are out of college. babies are a wonderful thing, and you should have all the time you can to devote to them, and you can't do that in high school or college.
2007-08-26 15:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was worried about having a second child but we did. I now have a 4 year old and a 10 week old what a blessing. Just to watch my oldest love on his little brother is a whole new and wonderful experience. On the other hand if you husband might be deployed again it would be hard to do 2 kids alone. As far as gaining weight the younger you are the easier it is to loose the weight. If your already fit and continue exercising you should loose in no problem. I actually lost my weight easier the second time. Good luck
2016-05-18 22:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you will hate my answer but here it goes.
It has nothing to do with respect. It has something to do with the fact that the two of you are not ready to be parents yet. You said he might lose his career. What career can he have? He is only 17.
Why do you want to have a baby? Do you really know what come with having a baby? The two of you won't be able to finish school or go to college. You won't be able to just go to the mall anytime you want, or go hang out with your friends or even go anywhere anytime you want. It is EXPENSIVE to have a baby, can the two of you afford that without a college degree? Diapers, formulas, medicines, medical insurance, clothings, etc. You can't say that your parents or his parents will be paying for it. Why? Because it is YOUR baby. You are the one who decides to have the baby and not your parents. If you depend on your parents to cover for the expenses, then, you are not ready.
When you are pregnant, it won't an easy experience. You will feel sick a lot of time, you will feel tired, you will get sick to the smell of different things, you won't be able to sleep much, your will be get bigger, etc. You won't be able to consume anything that has caffeine in it. So, no soda and no coffee for you until you give birth and after you are done with breast feeding. You can't smoke or be around people who smoke. You can't eat different type of fish because they contain high level of mercury. You can't eat or drink anything that is unpasturized. You can't eat anything raw or under cook. The list goes on and on.
Your friend will feel weird around you and most likely you will lose all or most of your friends. You will become very emotional and having no friends to talk to doesn't make it any easier. Then because of your emotinal imbalance most likely you will go off on him. The two of you will fight and you will cry and then you will say that it is a mistake to have a baby so early.
If the two of you really love each other then the two of you can wait. Finish your school, go to college and get a degree, get a decent job, get married, and THEN have a baby.
Think about really carefully. Whatever the two of you decide will be for the rest of your life.
2007-08-26 15:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should definitely wait i am a senior in high school and a bunch of my friends just had babies and i know that you both say you love each other very much and i dont want to sound like your mother or something but a baby can be a lot of work and also can change any situation. seeing my friends babies really made me want to have a baby too and the guy i am seeing wants to have a baby but you cant get caught up in the moment i decided to wait till i am emotionally and financially ready. good luck!!!
2007-08-26 15:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by ivy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First piece of advice: Your too young to be thinking about a baby.
Second: Finish school first before even thinking about becoming pregnant.
And third: It's only been about a year. Right? Give your relationship more time to blossom. To feel each other out more. To get to know one another more.
Good luck.
2007-08-26 15:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by tasha7682 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Babies are a HUGE responsibility and they are very expensive. Have you ever thought of how you're going to pay for all the medical bills and diapers and everything else babies need? You're not even old enough to get a job, and you probably aren't even out of school yet. Heck, you can't even drive a car legally.
At least wait until you're out of school and have a job. You may think you are ready, but you are not.
2007-08-26 15:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by Your Highness 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well being honest with you, you both not ready for a baby, ... why? for the reason, you both still young, an not even did anything with your life,, a baby, need a lot of care,, an even tho, you both think, you ready, you going to find out, ,like you want to say go out, but with a baby, you cant, not only, will the baby, need thing, for every dollar you get, will go on the baby,
2007-08-26 15:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋