guys just want to hook up with me but they never want a relationship. i've had enough! i want to know whats up? the last straw was today. my exbf said "i was really sexy, have an amazing body and im badd that i make him think dirty and how he loves kissing me and how much of a great kisser i am" but the thing is thats it. he doesnt want me as a gf. but every guy that im with says "how come you don't have a bf..you are amazing" HA. obviously, how come you dont want a be my boyfriend if i am "so amazing"?
why do you think?
2007-08-26 14:46:12 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe u should hold out on getting physical with a guy. Let him get to know u. Maybe the other guys who say ur awesome aren't attracted to u, but if they were, u'd be gf material for them. Obviously, ur bf just thinks of u as a trophy. Show ur better side. Hide ur physical attributes a little, and make a guy earn a kiss. Guys like to work for things. If it's easy come, easy go, then they'll use u and move on, and u'll have a rep amoung them for being easy. But if u let them work a bit, then they'll respect u more, and u won't just be a good kisser, but u'll be an awesome person too. How much work a guy will put into a relationship w/o physical affection however, depends on the guy, and the more he's willing to work for u, the more worth it he might be. And u'll feel better too.
2007-08-26 14:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll bet you've gotten a reputation for being easy. Maybe because you never try to have a relationship after you hook up and you wait for the guy to ask you to be his gf. You need to take a more active role in creating a relationship. Guys think you aren't interested so after a while word gets around that you don't want a bf so no ever asks you out. Next time you hook up with a guy call him the next day and invite him somewhere. Good luck.
2007-08-26 14:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay let's go with the obvious. Guys think with parts instead of brains.. I can say this being one. But after time and age you start to think more instead of just wanting to have sex all the time. It's a little twisted but you need to find an older guy not my age might be a little extreme. You just need to find a guy that has a good head. Good things to look for. Stable job, someone that you don't see in every bar in town, clubs are a breeding ground for dogs if you need a guy that despirate I'd recommend a pound. Don't lose complete hope. Don't date for a little while. See people for fun, you know, hang out. You are gathering all the information about guys you don't want. Write them down and stick to it. If you go back to the same routine you only have yourself to blame.
2007-08-26 14:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by Drew _ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you see yourself? If you see yourself as a sexy woman, than the men in your life will also see you as a sexy woman. If you want to have guy take you more seriously, when a guy starts to hit on you, ask him how many kids he wants, or if he likes changing diapers. This puts the sexy eye candy into perspective for most gents.
Another trick, don't giggle or laugh at stupid jokes. That just encourages us to keep doing them.
The best way to keep a guy in line, is to not give him what he wants. Play a little hard to get and they will tow the line.
2007-08-26 14:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by wildwillyinva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they look at you as a slut... no offense to you at all. I'm not saying you are. But if guys are just trying to hook up with you and saying your hot but not my gf. I think you should blow off guys that think you are that way. Since you posted this question I can tell you want a serious relationship and are deff not a slut. The guys you know are dogs. Find someone who deserves you!
2007-08-26 14:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
All guys dont just want sex. You're obviously hanging out with the same type of guy over and over again so you are getting the same response. Next time try someone with a different age, background or interests and and make sure you know what they are in it for before getting physical. I'm sure you'll get your desired result.
2007-08-26 15:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Raquel G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you certain that guys only want to hook up with you? Some guys, you may not have noticed them, may be interested in getting to know you as a person as well as or instead of just hooking up.
Sometimes when we look for a partner we don't see what kind of partner we're attracting to ourselves until we've gotten involved with them.
I wish you all the best!
2007-08-26 14:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your day to have a boyfriend is right around the corner. Wait for a date and it will come. Don't just go home with guys.
2007-08-26 14:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because you give everyone a piece of you? Guys take girls seriously that are innocent, respect themselves, and save themselves in every way for only a boyfriend.
2007-08-26 14:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by Line 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how about this, show your brain. Discuss things that are of intellectual value. Discuss art, psychology, philosophy, things of that nature. When you show people that you have a light saber as a brain, something that can slice through anything, they tend to respect you more.
2007-08-26 14:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Aggin Tad 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋