SERIOUSLY! Please, please, please EVERYONE answer? What does he want from me?

Question

my ex-boyfriend and I are still friends. we talk to each other often. I broke up with him even though we both still liked each other (it was too complicated for me to keep seeing him) and he didn't want us to break up but he accepted it. this was at the end of january. ever since then, about at least once a month I hang out with him and he always initiates it (calling/texting/IMing me to hang out with him). whenever I hang out with him he always tries to kiss me and I tell him I don't want to because we're just friends and he responds, "we could be more than that" and tells me that he wishes we never broke up. lately (for I guess the past 2 months) he's been telling me he really wants a girlfriend and my response usually is "i'm sure you'll find one" (what else would I say, you know?). whenever he texts me, he tells me he really wants to hang out and told me twice that he still liked me and that he wanted to go steady with me. Now, I would think this would mean he does like me but...

...at one point during the middle of him telling me he wants a girlfriend - he asked me if I had any friends he could hook up with! I mean...that COMPLETELY threw me off track! Why would he ask that?
I guess my questions are:
1) Does he really like me or...no?
2) What does he want from me - exactly?
3) Why did he say the 'friend' thing?

Answer 1

Because he's getting frustrated with your rejecting him and he doesn't want you to think you've got him on permanent "hold" (but you actually do). If he really wanted to hook up with someone else or move on he'd have done so by now, and he wouldn't have needed to ask you a thing. Are you sure you can't give him a chance to work things out with you? (No guy in his right mind would let an ex fix him up with anybody for real...)

Answer 2

FIRST its never kool to have an ex as a friend.TRUST ME I KNW.It never works out.SECOND well its kinda hard 2 tell if he likes you or not because i dont fully understand why you guys broke up in the first place if both of you still liked each otha. But by what u are saying i think he still does. Maybe he does want you as a girlfriend but if u think he wants more than that (like to ****) than go out with him but dont have sex with him, u knw. It sounds like he does want to go back out with you because he does like u. Oh and about the friend thing he is trying to see if u still care about him, like if he realized that u would get jelous or uneasy about him asking u that, then he would knw that u still feel somethin for him u knw.So dont trip out about the friend question, he dosent mean it. Well yea thats all if u need more advice just email me at>>> [e-mail] >>and i'll be glad to help. I knw a thing or 2 about relationships.

Answer 3

He said the "friend" thing for this exact reason! To throw you off track. I'm thinking he still likes you and if you're uncomfortable with that then maybe you shouldn't be such close friends anymore. I know it's hard, and you're really confused but you'll get through this!

oxoxx!

Answer 4

i'm an atheist,I say that so which you already know the place i'm coming from. you're making the element in extra info" i'm no longer mad on the people via fact of what they have self assurance, i truthfully do no longer care what everybody else believes" you do no longer care the 9 11 hijackers believed they might get seventy two virgins in heaven. you do no longer care catholics believes that condom use is an greater evil than aids you do no longer care that fundie xtians have self assurance they have not got any cares with reference to the planet via fact they are going to be raptured as much as gods kingdom any day now. faith ought to end to make certain that people to prevail and you do no longer care

Answer 5

1. He really does like you and more than just a friend
2. He wants for you to be with him exclusively
3. Since he knows that he won't get you the way that he wants, he'll settle for using one of your friends in order to get to you, which is sort of insulting and a bit creepy. But at least it's one way for him to have some kind of contact with you even though it make him look like a tremendous jerk.

Answer 6

I suspect he said the friend thing in an attempt to make you jealous. He possibly hoped you would refuse to set him up with a friend...thereby giving him proof that you still liked him. I don't know why he would persist if he didn't like you..

I can only really speculate on this as I don't know the guy.

Answer 7

He does like you.
He said the friend thing because he has either accepted the fact that you just want to be friends. OR he has gotten bored OR he wants you to get jealous.

Be careful with this one. Don't let anything he does get to you. treat him only as a friend and no more and he'll get the message.

Answer 8

ha ha... ok, honey, he waas trying to gage your reaction. meaning, he wanted to see if you would get jealous. the best thing to do is not give in. if he is really worth you time he will keep pursuing you when you become a challenge. if you can see he really cares enough about you to pursue you and stuff, then maybe you can go back to the way you were. but make sure it's not just physical attraction. good luck!

Answer 9

I think he wants a girlfriend. Why is it too complicated? You'll just be hanging out.

Answer 10

thereason y he ask u if u have other friends that u can hookup with him is bcuz.. he knows that u already broke up with him... not if u still have feelings 4this guy.. and that he shows that he has 4u2.. then y not get back at each other.. tell him... open up to him... tell him..."y do i need to introduce u to my friends .. i'm here.. and i like to give our relationship another chance..." then he'll think twice... so ask him...