I have been in a relationship for the past 2 and 1/2 years. He is a great guy, my only complaint is that the passion has fizzled a bit and he is predictable. However, there is someone else who has been in my life for 7 years. He has been my close friend and we used to be a little more than friends, but we never could work it out to be together. I have always had strong feelings for him which is why we remained friends after I started my new relationship. I couldn't wait around anymore. I haven't cheated at all and don't intend to. The problem is, I find myself thinking of the other guy lately. I have dreams about him. Then, strangely, the other day he confesses that he wants me to be with him. I should not even be considering this because of my current relationship. I care for them both I guess. I don't want to be a bad person or screw my life up. But there has to be something wrong if I can't get it off my mind. Advice? Please be kind, I have had it rough lately!
2007-08-26 13:24:09 · 11 answers · asked by putnam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey, i know exactly how you feel, i just went though this myself, and sadly it`s hard to be in that spot, but i was with my boyfriend for 2 yrs and then eventually found myself very attracted to someone else, constantly thinking about him and wanting something to happen with him, but i also never cheated and never would to that, so we broke up cause the passion and sparks just wasn`t there anymore and seeing how i was feeling toward someone else made me see what i wanted and what i was missing, i think you should think about your happiness and who you really want to be with, cause maybe your friend is the one for you, don`t miss out on something that be great and special.
2007-08-26 13:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Goth Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people have the same exact problem. i think it's becuz everybody wants a partner that has everything. like your current boyfriend may not have some things that your long time friend has. like for example, you and your 7 year relationship friend could probably talk about anything in the world and you guys are still caring but on the other side, your boyfriend may not have the same things that he does. it's really your choice, i'm not saying to break up with him or anything but what i do is i write down all the good things of both of them and see which ones longer and better. or write all the bad things and see which one is shorter. so.. i hoped i helped you in any way.
2007-08-26 20:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by *EM* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call both of them and meet at your place, make a nice dinner, all sit down to eat and get to know one another, when through eating the 3 of you take you dirty dishes and put them in the kitchen sink, after you rinse them off of course. Go back to the table that is cleared off and have the 2 guys sit on opposite sides of the table. You jump up in the middle of the table and do a little strip tease for both of them. Any sizzle yet, alright then. Rub your naked, sexy body on each of them but tell them they cannot touch anything until you say they can. Sizzle yet? Lay down on the table and tell them it is time for dessert that will get a sizzle going, or it should, if it don't someone on that end has a problem.
2007-08-26 20:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help who you love .... You can't control your heart... and about a dozen other "cliches" :)
Look, your best bet is to sit down quietly and think long and hard, making a list is the best choice.. Think about why you are with the current guy, what you like and don't like about being with him... and then do the flip for the other guy....
Decide which is the best choice for you to make... If you are only with your BF because you are afraid of hurting him, etc.. and spend the rest of your life wishing he was someone else it isn't fair to you or him.... Make sure it is a choice that you wont spend the rest of your life regretting...
Good for you on not cheating btw!! :) Good luck, I hope you find happiness no matter what your choice may be...
2007-08-26 20:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by CheyMarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there arent big problems in your current relationship, then try to save it. 2 and 1/2 years mean much. maybe going on holiday alone and be apart form both guys for a while will make you feel better. you just need a change, some excitement in your life, etc. so dont ruin your relaitonship for a temporary desire.
2007-08-26 20:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the one who makes you feel the best, I mean all over. The one you can talk to about everything and the one who makes you feel safe and does little things to cheer you up
2007-08-26 20:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by bran816 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a chart or positives and negative aspects of both. look at the negative aspects of each and compare them to each other, choose the best one for you. you, this is what it's about, so make sure that you know you'll always be happy with the chosen one.
good luck boy!
~cj
2007-08-26 20:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Corrector Inspector 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember you can have only one so if you date both of them and stuff but you shouldwatch to see who calls more and stuff and kinda seems to like you more then i think you have a good match!! P.S you can date more than 1guy but you can only marry 1!!!! :) ^_^
2007-08-26 20:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to decide which one- unless they will accept each other- then you can have both. 99% chance that won't work with 2 guys.
2007-08-26 20:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
choose one quickly, even if its by the flip of a coin.
Then, be very honest with the other one.
This method will avoid a lot of long term heartache.
2007-08-26 20:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋