I met this guy that I like a lot. I'm 22 and he's 33.We have fun and get along great. But he makes jokes about me being so young, like when I was 22 you were 11. And his friends make jokes too. They really like me, but it bothers me. I told him how I feel , and he says he understands. A lot of the time I do feel young, because some of the stuff he talks about and things like music and shows his friends grew up on; I don't know what they are talking about. Does anyone have any suggestions?
2007-08-26 13:05:26 · 14 answers · asked by lilyjane_2184 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depending on the guy and the girl it doesn't have to be. Unfortunately, in U.S. culture age is much more of a factor than in European and other Asian/Mid-Eastern cultures.
Therefore, if you have two people who sincerely care about each other and are mature enough to positively handle the questions, criticism, and intrigue they may face about their age differences, then they should be fine.
However, if the individuals are not yet self-actualized and aware about who they are then they may have difficulties maintaining the relationship through the challenges.
Nevertheless, most people usually experience some significant growth and changes during their younger-mid twenties, so if one person has already matured past those changes and the other member of the couple is still going through the maturation process, they may experience added age-related difficulties.
My advice is to consider the initial relationship and the strength of it. Then after determining if it's only temporary or serious talk it over and discuss some strategies to help you maintain the relationship or determine how you can respectfully breakup and maintain a cordial friendship.
The key is to treat the relationship serious and not as a novelty. Then once you convey your feelings to your family, friends, acquaintances you should experience less resistance to your being together.
Good luck and try not to worry!
2007-08-26 13:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by Enygma 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age and experience go hand in hand...
15 and 18 can be a world apart...
22 and 33, is not as bad, but at the same time... Like you said, there are a lot of things about him that you cannot understand because of the experiences he had...
My issue with it is... he & his friends are not dealing well with the age difference, and although most 33 y/o men are the same mentality as 20 y/o women... They obviously have a problem and that can cause more problems than you want in a relationship...
Find someone you not only get along with and have fun with, but someone you have a good strong connection with both metally and physically... Find men you have things in common with...no matter what the age (legally of course :)) ... If you are just in it to play around and goof off.. then let it run its course, but if you are looking into it for the long haul.. think really hard before you do this....
2007-08-26 20:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by CheyMarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age it probably does hurt. My husband is 76 {very young 76} and
he teases me that if he were 25, I would have been 15 and jail bait. In that
case, yes it does make a difference. But 22 and 33 are not bad at all.
2007-08-26 20:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think age is only as big of a deal as the two people make it.
If you guys really like each other, your 11 year age difference won't make a difference. In fact, you might find that both of your lives are better and more interesting because of it.
Think of all the things you might learn from him, and vice versa.
And if you're worried about it, find out what he enjoyed listening to and watching in his youth and look some of it up on the internet, then when it comes up you won't feel so left out.
2007-08-26 20:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by T the D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The relationship sounds like it is going well....maybe do a little checking on the Internet and come up with info you can use in conversations. You may really impress them.....and they are all joking around because you are a great person.
2007-08-26 20:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think age difference matters..im 23 years old and im with someone who is 5 years younger then me.. If your happy with the person then who cares how old they are
2007-08-26 20:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by NicNak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats kind of a bad age between.i mean you were 11 when he was 22?so maybe u can only be best of friends.hope this helps!
2007-08-26 20:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Diana M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont dwell on the age difference ---as long as you get on well and keep being attracted to each other then age does not matter ---- best wishes
2007-08-26 20:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you love each other, its fine! Age doesn't matter, feelings do.
2007-08-26 20:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by I am the next American Idol♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is 10 years older and we're fine.
2007-08-26 20:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋