Why do women always have to cry or solicit sympathy in relationships?

Question

I know that people get emotional about things and in many cases it's justified. However, what I don't understand is why women seem to use their feelings/emotions as a weapon in relationships.

It seems that in order to solicit sympathy and win arguments women will summons tears when they are in a confrontation and especially when they are going through a break up.

Therefore, why is it just expected that women get their feelings hurt and have a right to cry when they are stressed/emotional but if a guy does the same thing he is seen as a weak-a%& male and emotionally unstable.

It seems that too many women use this double-standard to their advantage in order to get their way. Especially in romantic relationships and with their husbands. Come on ladies please tell me why you use tears as weapons instead of just talking through your problems.

Someone mentioned that it's a stereotype and I agree. Unfortunately, it's a stereotype that society unjustly provides to men and women, not that I manufactured for pleasure. If you don't believe me, just think of how acceptable it is for men to cry after winning sports events, going through pain/death, or some other challenge. However, men are not expected to get as emotional, depressed, and upset to tears as women when it comes to losing a job, relationship breakups, and other disappointments like having a car stolen and etc. So please get off the pious high-horse and acknowledge the shortcomings of our societal conditioning for what it is!

I disagree with the statement that it's a "natural defense" for women to cry. Why? Because if during that crying spell someone was to legitimately offer a woman crying $1 Million dollars to stop immediately, they would stop. This indicates that it is a choice and not a reaction or conditioning. Now please don't get me wrong, I'm not bitter or angry about it...I just wish that women could admit when they manipulate the situation using emotions.

Just like guys have to admit that they are wrong for being abusive, angry, and saying hurtful things. These actions can be controlled and they are choices not responses.

Why? Because no one who wants to keep a good job goes to work and engages in the same behavior because it's not accepted and they would be terminated immediately. Again proving it's a choice not response, even for emotional women!

Answer 1

I have two female friends who fully admit that they use tears, as they put it "like a gun". Any time they're in 'trouble' whether it be in a relationship or work they both agree that they can draw them like a gun to put an end to disagreements and more importantly win and get their way.

You can see this in children also. They can turn the tears on and off at will. It's possible men are forced to grow out of this and 'some' women never do.

I don't necessarily believe all women do this but my female friends did teach me a very good lesson and allowed me to catch at least one woman I was dating attempting to do the same.

I caught her red handed as it were planning to cheat on me and she let the water flow but I decided to simply let her cry and the big faker turned it off like a switch and immediately tried a different tactic.


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Answer 2

Engyma, clearly you do not understand female emotions. Females are fiercely defensive, and for many of us, our emotions are a part of this defense. It has arisen over time; very few males find it hard to argue with a woman who is crying. I understand that sometimes it must be awfully hard for men, but it's just a natural defence.
I don't think women use tears to get their way - young children, sure, but grown woman - she'd have to be extremely manipulative to do so.
And for your own piece of mind, in my thoughts, a man is not emotionally unstable when showing emotions. For many women, this is incredibly sexy, and whilst other men may not understand, consider yourself lucky to be so in touch with your emotions. Often not being so can bring your life totally crashing down around you at the drop of a pin.

Answer 3

oh boy is that a stereotype if i ever heard one . I dont think men that cry are weak cause they are showing emotion . I dont use tears unless I have really lost it or really stressed . and believe my husband knows when I cry I have a reason to cry not a weapon . Poor you ,you dont know the difference . good luck .

Answer 4

sometimes we feel trapped and that is when we cry it isn't meant as a weapon. you also have to realize that the person them self depends on whether or not they cry. many men that beat their wives say they love them and that makes the women forgive them. so a women's emotions can be used by or against them. it isn't used for sympathy sometimes it is the only way we can express ourselves at that time. and dont generalize because some men do the same thing. as i said before it all depends on the individual and also the strereotype weak men cry is reflected that all women cry because they are weak.

Answer 5

It's hormones dude. Thats how they were made. And most girls i've known (the good ones) actually like a guy that can shed some tears every now and then. Not to much though that's just creepy to everyone.

Answer 6

actually girls are emotional in any situation. That is how girls are, we let out through strong emotions. Guys use anger or hate etc., its just in our DNA>
My tip: Learn to live with it, because whoever you date it will be there, and you cant change it.

Answer 7

Girls really need someone to rely on. When they have troubles there is always someone to come to.