obiously noone else would understand b.c they just wind up making fun of me or yelling at me for it. anyway is it possible to just stop, i mean ive been doing it for a yr my family found out. i stopped for 4 months. they found out again. they just yell at me. i recently started again. i just cant stop i NEED to cut myself. its the only thing that makes me not depressed. im only 14 btw.
2007-08-26 12:45:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Look up Histrionic Personality Disorder to see if that's the problem.
2007-08-26 12:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by orderly logic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something that is distracts you from cutting like drawing, knitting, or reading. They helped me a lot so when you feel like cutting just try to find something to do with your mind and hands and it should help a little. And you should tell your parents that its really hard to stop and they shouldnt yell at you in the first place. You dont NEED to cut yourself. You prolly think you do to get rid of pain but what i did was just think "why would i cut myself" then think about so much that you really do wonder why out of all the things you can do to get rid of pain that you chose to cut. i started when i was 13 now im almost 15.
2007-08-26 21:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When things were really bad for me on the inside, I would take it out on myself on the outside, because it distracted me from the inner pain. You would be upset if someone you loved dearly was doing this to herself, wouldn't you? And you'd want to love her and take care of her so that she had a friend to turn to when the pain got bad inside, yes? Well, treat yourself like the person you would value and want to help. Love yourself. Tell yourself that you're a good girl, and you deserve to be loved, and you don't deserve this awful pain, and then tell yourself not to hurt yourself because you're a valuable, lovable person and you don't deserve to be cut and mutilated. At some point, try to find an online support group, and then someday when you're on your own, find a counselor who can help you talk about your inner pain. Just remember, you are a beautiful girl, you have a beautiful body, and nobody has the right to injure you. Take care of you, you're the only you there will ever, ever be.
2007-08-26 19:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most I can tell you is get a good support group and stay away from anything you might use. Whenever you feel the need, just write or turn on some hardcore(Underoath, Becoming The Archetype) or talk to someone you trust. I really hope that this helps.
2007-08-26 19:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by Leandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a cutter; I do not fully understand the reasons, but I am learning. My fiancé was one for many years when she was around your age. She graduated to other, more self destructive, activities and it nearly killed her. She lost several friends to drinking and driving, drug use, and disease (AIDS).
As I understand it there are several reasons for cutting not just one.
The primary reason, depression, is the most important one to get treatment for. Though it is not uncommon for the teen years to be very trying, long term depression is not healthy. Seek therapy or counseling, preferably with a specialist.
Related to the depression is the search for sensation. Some people cut to cope with the natural human feeling of numbness (sometimes caused by loneliness or feeling like you do not fit in). Depression can be deepened by inactivity; it can he helped by being active and participating in events.
Join an after school club. Write poetry at the park. Go hiking. Get involved in sports; instead of hurting yourself, exert yourself (gets some cuts and bruising from PARTICIPATING; try something physical like hockey or fencing).
Cutting is, also, a habit. Like chewing your cuticles or picking your nose you start to associate it as something to do when you are "bored". REPLACE the habit with something less destructive but that still occupies your hands: snap a rubber band on your wrist, chew on carrots, play a musical instrument (try something exotic like the Dum-bek [Middle Eastern drum used for belly-dancing]).
Exert yourself instead of hurting yourself. I have heard that piano lessons are painful, how is that worse?
ADD: There does not have to be something horribly wrong to be depressed; being a teen is enough (being alive is enough). If there is something horribly wrong going on (abuse) then you need to get help for that as well.
2007-08-26 20:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you believe in God, but I know that He can help you. I was terribly depressed at one time also and not wanting to go on. I tried to commit suicide and just before I took the bottle of pills I called out for God to help me. This peace came into the bathroom that was unreal and I threw the bottle of pills down the toilet. You are being tormented and need to be set free. I will be praying for you. Call to Jesus to set you free. He will do it for you. He loves you and has better plans than this for your life. I have been there and I know how you feel.
2007-08-26 20:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can say is try to get help or talk to someone you really trust. If you know what the issue is think of what you can do to help it. A lot of people do it for reasons when they get depressed. If there is no actual issue to solve you have a serious problem.
2007-08-26 20:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Santana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cut for like 2 months cuz i felt like a looser and for everything that whent wrong in this one person's life i blamed myself and cut myself to pieces! I cut in my sleep! I drempt that i did and sometimes i did and i dremp that people in my sleep cutt me and it was bad!! But anyways i know that it is NOT easy to cutt when i tryed to stop like a 2 months ago i just couldnt and i needed to do it to be able to even sleep!! But after i told that one person that i did that and my reason i just put the knife down cuz of the love for them and i couldnt handle hurtin them! But now i dont cutt cuz that is how much i LOVE them! I cant NOT think bout them in anything that i do so i see them in that desission and i CANT hurt them! I wont hurt them! And that is how i stopped! I mean it has been bout a month sence i cut but that is how i stopped and i still have major problems with it but i wont give into it even tho i am still addicted to it and i want it all the time but ya know what.. no matter how much u cut it never makes anything any better its all in your head! Well umless your addicted to pain like i am! But most people arent so i wouldnt worry bout that! So just put yourself in a situation that i did and go with it!
2007-08-26 23:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may not be a cutter, but I've had the urge to do it in the past. there is a website run by a person who used to cut but was able to stop. it has alot of good information on it and may be of some help to you. the addy is http://www.self-injury.org/
2007-08-26 20:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by Tim T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess what i still have scars and all i am is embarrassed that they are there because it is so wrong to hold so much pain in that you can only show it that way. no one should be yelling at you or making fun of you. i think you should explore some kind of other outlet, something that makes you tougher like martial arts or death metal mosh pits. please, for me? i want you to add me to your friends list and when you want to pick up a razor blade, talk about this ok sweetie
2007-08-26 19:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋