ok so there is this guy haha i bet tons of questions start out this way but anyways
so i have known him for seven years. he is so sweet and adorable and handsome and kind and mature. the only problem is we arent friends outside of our church youth group. we go to different schools and are involved with different things.
the thing is he always makes me laugh all the time he knows how to "push my buttons" and just make me burst out laughing. but i dont even know if he has a girlfriend or anything.
the problem is we are having a dance at school soon and id love for him to be my date. i like him a lot but i understand it might be best to be friends. id love to ask him to be my date - just as friends but i am too scared. in my opinion its the guys job to ask a girl out. i just want to go us friends but im scaring myself i mean what if he says no or thinks im too foward or doesnt even like me and takes it the wrong way.
what should i do and say????
2007-08-26 12:10:29 · 13 answers · asked by MissSamanthaAnne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well number one hes from church...good eye :) second you should ask him to the dance and say "just as friends" since your not really asking him on a date. after the dance he will most likely make it clear if he wants to have a romantic relationship with you. and also you should find out his relationship status before asking ;)
2007-08-26 12:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by Diane D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have known him seven years and it sounds like you two have a great friendship and lot's of fun together.
There is nothing wrong with asking a guy to a dance.
Next time when you both are talking and laughing just say "You are so funny I love a funny guy"! "By the way you haven't told me, probably because I've never asked, do you have a girlfriend?" If he does you will know to not ask him to the dance. But if he says no...just mention the dance and ask him if he would like to go with you as friends.
From everything you said it sounds like he really likes you and he may just say YES !
Good luck !
2007-08-26 12:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by maryv2013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief girl !!! This is 2007. It is perfectly OK for a girl to ask a boy out, especially if it is to a dance at her school. He can't ask you to a dance at your school. You've known him for 7 yrs. You have a lot more history with him then most people do when they ask some out. I know it is scary, but guys have been going thru that scary part for centuries. (I remember asking my 1st crush the first time. I think I started to dial her # 6 times without completing the call. My stomach was churning and I thought I was going to puke. I took an Alka Seltzer, waited 10 min, took a deep breath and made the call. She said she'd love to.) Even if he just wants to be friends, it's always nice to go to a dance with a friend. Good luck with your call.
2007-08-26 12:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I'd do, if I could manage it: tell him about the dance and say something along the lines of "I think it sounds like fun, so me and some of my friends are going. Do you wanna come, too?"
Then, he'll either decline, accept, or question your motives (which is probably when if he has a girlfriend or not will come into play).
...I don't think this helped much, did it? Sorry, it's the best I can do. :D
Good luck!
2007-08-26 12:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this is the 21st century. Guys should opne doors for the women they are with, whether it is romantic or not. But if she gets there first and opens it, then they graciously go through and say thank you. Goes the same for dating. And friends can go do things together. There is nothing wrong with that. So....ask him. Go as friends. And wiggle your butt like there's not tomorrow (dance like no one is watching).
2007-08-26 12:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Phineas P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you're afraid to do. I think Mr. Ed, the horse would agree. Go to the dance with him. If he asked you to the dance, say, yes. We're in the 21st century, the girl can do the asking out, be usually doesn't. If he takes it the wrong way, there's something wrong with him. If he says no, go to it with someone else.
2007-08-26 12:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are friends it shouldnt be that awkward. Just say something like 'hey there's this dance at my school and I really want to go with someone but I couldnt find anyone and I was wondering if we could just go as friends.' hope this helped! Good luck!
2007-08-26 12:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by bringmemorenives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You: Hey, you know there's this dance....
Him: Oh, yeah?
You: Do you dance?
Him: (insert yes/no here)
You: I may not go if no one asks me.
Him: (this is where the guy asks you to the dance, or blows it. If he doesn't get the hint, then keep reading)
You: Maybe I could just hang out with you and see a movie (fire pistols, listen to music, torment zoo animals, or whatever you like to do)
Him: Yeah, let's go throw plastic bananas at the gorillas in the zoo!
2007-08-26 12:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could tell him about the dance at your school, and say that you would want to go w/ a guy, but there aren't any good guys at your school, and since you trust him enough, maybe he could go w/ you. Try not to make it too obvious that you like him.
2007-08-26 12:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by lalala <3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want to find out if he has a girlfriend just play like you have a friend thats shy and she wants to know if he has a girlfriend and she said if you do she doesnt want me to let you know who she is because she will be uncomfortable
2007-08-26 12:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by meka_dms 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋