i love them both so much, and i think its ok. so dont anybody comment about how it's wrong. i spen half of valentines day with one and the other half with the other. but this year, they both want the whole day. they dont know about eachother, so what am i supposed to do? if i say know, they'll get suspicious. what do i do? and dont anybody say anything about how im wronge ok
2007-08-26 11:34:31 · 28 answers · asked by ♥Chloe'♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you just have both of them bring you out at the same time. Tell them the truth. I'm not saying you are wrong, but why lie. You must feel guilty if you are getting so defensive.
2007-08-26 11:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What are you supposed to do????
#1 - don't instruct us what we can or cannot say. If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen!
#2 - if you wish to be an HONEST person, you need to tell each that you are not dating him exclusively, and you're having a difficult time deciding who you like best.
#3 - you should make a list ...
put one man's name on the left column and the other man's name on the right column. Mark the good attributes of one. Mark for the other if he has similar attribute. Mark the 2nd man what attributes he has that #1 doesn't have.
Mark what you like best about each one.
Read what you have written to see which looks best once you put it down on paper.
Put a line through attributes that aren't relavent to a good strong relationship and raising children. See if there's much change.
Review your points. Do they show your reasons for liking the men are good or are they shallow???
#4 - for each of us there is more than one man with whom we can make a happy life. We need to meet one of them when the time is right for both of us to make a commitment.
If you choose only one of those men, do NOT cheat on him if you give him a commitment to be monogamous!!! Cheating makes you an unworthy mate.
Sometime you HAVE to make a choice. If you keep them in the dark, at least one will find out anyway and he'll think you're already a cheat and he'll dump you like a hot potato, so you should fess up before you're undone. guys often want to date more than one girl, but they RARELY accept that same action as OK for the gal!
2007-08-26 18:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know how old you are, but guessing you are on your own. You could tell them both you have to work (which would be really good if you could) and then set up a different day for each.
You might consider telling them both about your love life. You will lose both of them when they find out you know. Don't think it's wrong to have two lovers, but they should know about one another, just a thought.
2007-08-26 18:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by Phineas P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhh...you can't ask a question and then tell people how to think.
How would you feel if either guy were doing the exact same thing that you are doing to each of them?
Make a decision. It's the only right thing to do. Don't be so selfish. They deserve their own girl. Neither one would want you if they knew the truth so they only like you because you're living a lie.
2007-08-26 18:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by Diane P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL you are wrong haha just had to. But seriously you are hurting them both and if they find out then you will be hurt. I say this valentines day is the day you should choose..which one makes you happiest..which one is the most understanding...which one can you see yourself with forever..YOu have to choose sooner or later. BUt if you want to lie..then tell one you are sick in the morning and go out with the other..and then on that date tell them you have to go somewhere that its an emergency or that you arent feeling well and call the other one up in the afternoon and tell them you are feeling better
2007-08-26 18:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sexylova49 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YIKES!!! Well, first off, i DON'T want to tell you how to run your life. its yours alone and i only will offer a word of advice and wisdom. The heart is a precious and therefore a vulnerable part of the body. if broken, its takes a long time to mend. And you have two of them in your hot little hands. My advice? choose a side! you have to be completely honest with them BOTH and you have to choose who you feel like you would be most happy with. If you don't you'll be the one picking up pieces and it might not be one of the two young mens'. Good luck!
2007-08-26 18:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by fobabe032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fist off learn how to spell boyfriend. I'm not going to comment on how anything is wrong. But, I will tell you however, if you are going to play an adult game, you better learn how to play the rules. Good luck.
2007-08-26 18:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are both only boyfriends as you say and not in a serous relationships with either one or the other. Bring them together and have them meet see how they react and go from there.
2007-08-26 18:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by marine42 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I won't tell you that you are wrong then, but people sometimes get what they deserve in the end. You are going to loose both of them and you deserve to. I really don't mean to judge you, but I believe you should treat people the way you would like to be treated and how would you like it if one of you boyfriends had another girl?
2007-08-26 18:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see hmmmmmmm it looks like you need to make your mind up and see what you can do to make it work .What you need to ask is how can I make up my mind and be with only one man at a time . Why ruin peoples lives when they can find a real honest person out here that will love them and only them , not someone like you ! I pray to GOD that they find out like tonight that you are a hypocrite !!!
2007-08-26 18:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋