I have a two parent household but, unfortunately ( no disrespect to the fathers that play their position I have nothing but love for you) I am the adult. I wear many hats in my situation and it's got me on edge. I would like to take a little vacation for myself nothing fancy. Just some place I can get a nice hotel room with a jacuzzi and relax. Any suggestions?
2007-08-26 10:53:01 · 6 answers · asked by JanuaryHarris 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If I may say . . . I give my hat to you for being the great multi-tasker for your family . . . yes, handling EVERYTHING is a BIG task . . . you certainly deserve some time off (Calgon - take me away - hee hee).
Perhaps, just so you have a peace of mind, go somewhere locally - so "in case" anything arises (which it probably won't), you are just a phone call and a short drive away.
Maybe on top of "relaxing" at the hotel, go to a hair salon, get your nails done, get a massage and facial . . . pamper yourself like crazy (or just pick one!) . . . how many opportunities do we get to do that!!!!
Have fun and get some good rest and relaxation time!!
2007-08-26 11:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try having your sister, your mom, or a good friend calling your house to invite you to a relaxing weekend. Make sure your hubby's around and sound really excited on the phone. When you get off, he probably will ask you "Who/what was that?" but if he doesn't, say, "That was my mom/sister/friend. She's inviting me to a weekend thing." Explain your situation and make sure you don't sound bitter about the whole I'm-always-the-responsible-parent thing because that would just lead to a fight. If he gets mad and won't let you go, try saying something like, "Honey, I know you love me and our children, but you know as well that I also support the family. I need some time on my own, and this is just 2 days." Good luck with everything ... I hope you get the vacation you deserve.
2007-08-26 11:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not go with a girlfriend? I did that with a friend. We took a weekend and went to Los Angeles (about 2 hours away). We went to art museums and galleries and to wonderful restaurants. I'm not suggesting that this is what you would want to do, but think of something appealing and do with a good friend. This has been a wonderful memory. This was done years ago and now our kids are grown. We are considering another trip in the next year.
2007-08-26 11:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i know one thing that helped me. I went on strike. If my live-in boyfriend got lazy I will just let things pile up. Garbage, dishes, everything. And worse, I would stop cooking. And I dared him to say something about it. When he did, thats when the bomb stopped ticking. Then he'll feel bad and help out more.
As for the vacation, gurl go ahead. Get your nails and feet done. Go get a message. There's nothing wrong w/ treatin yourself. Make him watch the kids, that's what he's there for!
2007-08-27 01:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by J-Wel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club. Can I go with you? LOL. My husband got laid off from his job in June and he has done basically NOTHING other than a few loads of dishes and a couple of loads of clothes (Only washing and drying, not folding/putting away) and I am working 3 jobs, and am starting a new one tomorrow. I am about ready to kick his AZZ to the curb.
2007-08-26 11:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a couple of underappreciated moms like you who need the same, go get your rest. you might get a ggod deal if you do a package, maybe more than five people. i am with you, i am so tired at the end of the day, i feel comatose. no help from father man. i am down. let me know when we leave.
2007-08-26 11:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by KARMA IS IT THOU? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋