This summer, i left Pennsylvania to go to wyoming to work as a waitress in a seasonal job at a resort outside of Yellowstone. While i was there, I fell in love with a fly fishing guide who worked at a nearby ranch, and i fell in love with my co workers (they became like my family) and the mountains. When i left i literally cried the whole way home. Now I have to return to school (i'm enrolled in a four year University) and i'm dreading the thought of it. Especially since the man i met out west has recently called my parents to ask their permission to marry me. I would rather be anywhere right now than going back to school, and doing the whole cookie cutter college thing like everyone else. I want to go back out west and follow my fisherman where ever he goes and just work at the lodges that he works at. I know the smart thing is to be in school, but i do not want to be unhappy there, but i would like to have an education someday. what should i do? i'm so confused and would love advice.
2007-08-26 10:19:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Go back to school. You might enjoy it if you focus on finishing faster to get back to your fisherman. It is hard for most folks to go back to school once they have been out for a while so it would be easier to finish now. And you didn't say if your parents jumped at the idea of you getting married. I would guess not as you likely would be packing up to follow him if they had. You have tons of time off to see him with breaks. And I'm not sure what he does when it's off season for fishing but you might want to check into that as well before you change your life totally.
2007-08-26 12:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weigh the pros and cons of each option. If you return to college and get a degree, you will be in a much better position to get a well-paying job than if you do not have a degree. Also, if you return to college, you 'll be done in just a few years with the rest of your life ahead of you. You can get a degree in something like Business, Public Policy, or Agriculture so that you can return to wyoming and work in the parks and wildlife industry and actually earn a decent income.
If you don't finish college right now and decide to go back later, you can. however, if you wait more than 5 years you'll lose all the credits you have already earned. Also, you need to consider what would happen if you drop out of college and things don't work out with this guy or in Wyoming. Another important question to ask yourself: If I drop out of school and give up all my previous life plans for this man, will I resent him later? The answer: quite possibly.
I think that if you go ahead and finish college with a useful degree, you can still go to Wyoming and marry your man. You'll just be in a position to make better money and have a plan B for your life in case you two ever get tired of Wyoming.
So...in short, I think you should do both. Finish college, then get married.
Good luck.
2007-08-26 11:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter asked you the same question how would you answer?
On the surface, it doesn't seem like a good idea to quit college and make a life changing decision for a man who may be a good fisherman, but may not be the best choice as a future provider for any family that comes later.
My advise is to continue with your education, if the relationship survives a semester away from each other, find a college in Wyoming and take it from there.
2007-08-26 10:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by Bobcat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not transfer to a university in Wyoming? My advice would always be to stay in school, but only if that is going to get you into a field you want to work in & will enjoy. I just recently made some changes as far as education goes & I could not be happier. So if you have decided on a major, look into some schools that offer the degree in/near Wyoming. I'm afraid if you leave school you'll end up regretting it & then have to basically start all over. Just consider all your options & be smart about it. Good luck!
2007-08-27 11:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can:
Finish college and maintain a relationship with him where you currently are and pick up where you left off once you have your degree.
Tranfer to another college closer to him to make things easier and take up a part time job and one of these lodges.
Put your degree on hold, get married and enroll in an online college or go back "someday" (keeping in mind that it is HARD to go back once you've given it up... I only took 2 1/2 years off and I'm haivn a hard time being in school again... though now I'm doing it for me and not just because I was "supposed to")
Keep in mind it is your life and you have to deal with the consequences of your actions, good or bad. What society says about gettign a four year degree isn't always right for everyone.
How far along are you?
I think the best option is tranferring schools. Go see a school counselor about your options there. You want to be happy...
2007-08-26 10:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the college thing, girl. You just met the dude - you would need two years of dating him anyway to see if things will be serious - and that's not long-distance dating, either.
You really need the education in your back pocket. It gives you the chance to mature, and have real life experiences too so you can bring your best self to a future marriage.
It's just too hard to go back to school after being married and maybe starting a family.
2007-08-27 03:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your education first. It won't hurt you to just finish and then get married. You need to get focused on what is important, which is making sure you have a good career in the future that can best be obtain through a college degree. The man will always be there, get your education now.
2007-08-26 10:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I speak from experience........go back to school and finish your education first. I can guarantee you will regret your decision.......perhaps many years from now.......if you choose to follow your fly fisherman. I know it hurts to be separated from him and from your western friends. Listen to your brain on this one.....you said it yourself...."I know the smart thing is to be in school" Don't do like I did.......I left school behind and ended up marrying the man I left school for.........15yrs later.....divorced, with two children to raise and no formal education. Dont do it. It's so very hard to go back to school with all the other responsibilites. Finish your schooling first.......consider it an investment in yourself.
2007-08-26 19:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could do it all over again, I would have quit school and found a job I loved and traveled. You can always go back to school or do online classes. When you are young you should have fun and explore life.
2007-08-26 16:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you not go to school where he is?
Don't give up school.
While I truly believe the two of you are in love - you never know what the future holds. You need something to fall back on.
2007-08-26 10:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by VetTech1016 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋