My grandfather died 10 yrs ago. He lived in Puerto Rico and we went back there last week, and havent been there since he died. I was young when he died and felt like I had pretty much healed from the incident until I went back. We visited his grave and it looked abandoned and old, seeing his name there was very strange/bad feeling b/c I guess in a way I still hadnt accepted that he was dead. We decided to refurbish his grave, and in order to do so, the casket must be removed from the tomb (the tomb is above ground, Spanish style where the casket is not buried in the ground). We came to check on the progress, and it looks very nice, but seeing the tomb empty seems to hinder my healing because the casket was missing, making it seem like its just a bad dream and not a reality. Also, it got me wondering about the condition of the body after 10 yrs, things I had previously never even thought of. What are reasons for this and how can I heal from it?
2007-08-26 09:51:00 · 6 answers · asked by marm212 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
thats all natural. certain memories or seeing things make us feel this way. my friend recently died and had a firemans funeral and everytime i hear sirens i think of him and miss him. these feelings are normal and will pass when you go back home. its ok to miss him and remember him.
2007-08-26 10:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Robyn G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 56 years old and I have had trouble dealing with a family members deaths. My mom died when I was only 5. Since then I have lost all of my family including my father and both of my brothers. It's really difficult. I try to remember the good times that we had together and the precious memories. I know that we will die. The condition of the body after 10 years would be a skeleton. Good Luck
2007-08-26 17:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is very hard I lost my grandmother when I was 10 years old and it was so so hard we was very close and she was like a mother to me. I found her died and it never left me for a long time. You know grief is a funny thing. Its not that we ever get over losing a loved one but that we learn to live with the fact they are gone and the pain does get easier. take care
2007-08-26 17:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not in need of "healing"
Its normal to feel sad and depressed when confronted with the loss of a loved one. Even if that loss occurred long ago.
What you're doing is obsessing over it. Which means you will think about it and it will bother you until you're no longer obsessed with it, and then it will be over. For a time.
2007-08-26 17:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the best way to heal from it is to accept death as a normal part of life. Everybody dies sooner or later.
2007-08-26 16:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to think of things like death, life... the purpose of our lives. It's the way we think and there is nothing wrong with it.
2007-08-26 17:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by Somewhere in Time 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋