My lil` sister has been hanging on w. this one guy. The other day she called me and wanted to know what I think about having sex on the first date? < now they never went out alone, only in a group> She`s been hinting to me if she could hang over at my house. I work nights. Could be to bring her date over so they could have some private time/ I don`t know, but without me freaking out on her what should I say. In my eyes I see her as my little sister- someone who always looks up to me. What`s the best way to handle this?
2007-08-26 09:17:45 · 17 answers · asked by candy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since she is your little sister then you need to be
protective of her and talk to her and explain to her
that it is not a good idea to have sex on the first
date because to me a man has to earn that before
a woman gives up the full package. Talk her in a
way that she will eventually make up her own mind
and also remind her of safe sex. Too many young
women have been hurt because a man that us-
ually gets it on the first date later dumps her for
another. Explain to her the consequenses that
could occur and leave it up to her, that is if she is
of correct age. Just explain to her you do not
want her to be hurt so that is why you are explain-
ing this to her. I know a lot of people here will
critize me for what I am about to say, but everyone
has a right to their opinion, and my opinion is that
a man should be respectful of his first date and
not ask for sex until he proves that he is worthy of
it and the other wants it at that time. Good luck.
2007-08-26 09:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is going to do what she's going to do. Whether its at your house or somewhere else. Tell her how you feel and then say yes or no. Either way I'm sure she will respect you even if you don't agree with her.
Sex on the first date isn't the end of the world a lot of people do it and never see each other again and then there are people like me who had sex on the first date and are still together 20 years later. My wife and I have a wonderful family and are now grandparents. That isn't to say that you need to take precautions for pregnancy and for STDs and be responsible.
2007-08-26 16:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by gonecrazytoday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain To Her That If She Has Sex On The First Date The Guy Will Lose All Respect He Has For Her. This Might Make Her Realise Its Not The Right Thing To Do.
2007-08-26 16:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how you feel about the situation, it's totally up to you if you want to let your sis have your place for an evening of sin...LOL but you know what I mean. The bottom line, she is your little sister and she's growing up. Sex is eventually gonna happen if it hasn't already. And if your concern is her having sex on a first date, that's not necessarilly a bad thing. I had sex with my bf on the first date and almost 3 years later we're still together.
2007-08-26 16:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that she shouldn't have sex on her first date, as he will most likely lose respect for her and even possibly go on his way after they have made love.
Speaking from experience.. I would let them have some private time in your house but say that you would feel uncomfortable them having sex there..
Or just stay in the house to check that if things do go wrong you are there for your sister.
On the other hand if she really loves him.. and shes legal.. then you could let her
But in my opinion, its a bad idea.
Good luck =]
2007-08-26 16:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by sxclxc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do NOT let her use your place unless she's over 18. You could get into big trouble as an excessory to possible illegal activity.
Also, sex on the first date is a definite dating no no.
I would be marked as a slut and a hoochie mama if I had sex on the first date and a reputation would surround me as being an easy lay.
2007-08-26 16:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jinjer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she at least 18? Then as far as I'm concerned she's an adult and can make her own decisions. I'm someone who can separate sex and love, but I understand a lot of people can't. That being said, if she's an adult it's up to her to decide what she can handle.
2007-08-26 16:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by chiapet225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she feels ready and I suppose it isnt really their first date because they have been out before but it is if you get me then I say you tell her to be careful and only do it if she comfortable.
If you dont mind her having sex in your house and then allow her over but I suppose it is up to you being your house and all.
Good Luck
2007-08-26 16:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex on the first date is just tacky at ANY age.
2007-08-26 16:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by looneybin90 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
think about this way do you want your lil sister to have a baby at that age
2007-08-26 16:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by Demi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋