Im the only virgin!?

Question

Im 16 and out of my friends i am one of the only virgins and i feel so left out b/c they will talk about who they hooked up with over the weeked and i just sit there b/c maybe i kiss a guy and stuff but i dont have sex with him. What do i do? Am i a baby?

ok dont get me wrong im ready if i want to and im not saving myself or anything just havent yet

Answer 1

you should stop hanging out with prostitutes.

Answer 2

Honey, let me tell you that you are no baby. You are a class act and your friends are not. First of all if any of these friends of yours are pressuring you then they are not a true friend to you....Secondly you are 16, you are soo young and you may not see it now but when you get older you will look back and think that it is very wrong for a 16 year old to have sex.

I am 22 and I never even let a guy touch me until i was 19. And the only reason i did was because i was CRAZY about him. We dated for two years and it was a serious relationship, hence the reason i let him lol.

Anyway the point is all through highschool all my friends were doing the same stuff your friends were. I did not feel left out about what they were doing persay but more on the lines of feeling sad that I didnt have someone that I actually liked enough to do stuff with. And when i met my boyfriend i cant tell you how good it felt to give him my virginity. To actually be able to say that he was the only person to have ever touched me. If you keep that innonence you are gonna make some guy the luckiest guy in the world someday.

You are a rare find, and should be treasured. Do not give in to your friends or the pressures around you.

Answer 3

Look It Doesnt Meen Ur A Baby It Just Means You Haven't Found The Rite Guy That U Want To Give Ur Self Up To You'll Lose Ur Virginity When Your Ready And Be Careful About Who U Give Ur Self Up To As Well But Ne Ways Just Take Your Time Find A Serious Relationship A Guy U Love And He Loves You Back And When The Time Is Rite You Lose It But Until Then Just Chill About It

Answer 4

Absolutely not! I would say you are an intelligent, discriminating young woman who knows that just "hooking up" with someone over the weekend is seldom enjoyable and satisfying. Weekend hook ups are usually most enjoyed by young males, who would just as soon f**k a snake if someone would hold its head. Real sex is best enjoyed in a comfortable, relaxed environment with no time constrictions and no worrying about getting caught, as if you are doing something wrong. (And if you worry about getting caught, you are doing something wrong) In other words, when you are grown and out on your own with your own place, apartment, or whatever. Even then, don't forget to be selective. And always, always use protection. Babies happen, and not all diseases can be cured. What do you do? Just enjoy being 16, honey, this is the only time you will be. Don't screw up just because your friends do.

Oh, and by the way....some of those girls could be lying, you know, and probably don't know any more than you do unless they read it somewhere.

Answer 5

Don't think for a second that you are a baby for not having sex by age16! Be proud of yourself!

I don't know what kind of personality you have but when I make a big mistake i tend to (mentally) beat myself up over it for years afterward. I lost my virginity at age 18 which is like 100 in our generation! We cared about each other at the time and I am glad I waited for someone like that even though we did eventually break up after a year and1/2.

If I had given myself up to some random weekend hook-up, or some guy who just wanted bragging rights I would still be regretting it now at 21. I certainly don't believe in waiting until you're married (sex does give you some insight into knowing who you are and what you want) but treat your virginity as a precious part of you, even after you lose it.

Also since you aren't going around sleeping with anyone and everyone, STD'S are less of a worry and if something does come up (pregnancy, disease) you won't have to call everyone in your phone trying to find out who gave it to who and when, which = less stress. Watch Jerry Springer or Maury Povich for examples.

Answer 6

NO.

Your friends--sorry--if they talk about guys they "hooked up with" over the weekend. It sounds pretty slutty.

When you have sex you should be in total love and trust with that person and he should feel the same for you. You shouldn't have sex because he wants you to or you think it will make your relationship better.

The way I think is if you are so worried about what your friends are doing and how they see you, then you are definitely not mature enough to have sex. You need to wait until you feel you are completely, definitely ready in your heart. Don't do it just cos others are doing it. If you wait, it will be even more special. A lot of people wait until after their married.

You are not a baby. You have way too much respect for yourself. If your friends make you feel bad about doing so, then they aren't really your friends.

Answer 7

are you serious about this? :O no you are NOT A BABY. your friends aren't doing the right thing hooking up with guys over the weekend and having sex with them. your doing the right thing and keep on doing what your doing. not having sex like your friends are. if they tease you then there not real friends. and if you feel left out and don't want to have sex tell them exactly how you feel so maybe they will stop talking about it in front of you.. don't do the wrong thing and follow what there doing just to be accepted.. be mature and be ready when doing a big step like that.

Answer 8

no are you kidding me, i wish i was still a virgin. people give me **** for not being one Ive only been with two guys (I'm 16) in my life and i loved the one alot and my current bf i love more then i can explain but, if i could go back i would have decided to wait till i was sure id found the one, because listen Ive been with 2 guys! and people call me a whore n 5lut other then sex with 2 guys Ive only made out with a total of five guys over like my hole life and I'm considered a 5lut? i was dating any and all the guys i kissed or did stuff with, i think you should like take pride that you are the only virgin cause you have something they can never get back

Answer 9

You aren't a baby. It sounds like you are the only one in your group of friends with strength of character.
Young people live their young lives wrecklessly and don't realize the damage they do. Having sex when you are too young and not in love is like giving away a priceless gift that can only be given away once.
The fact that you are questioning this is cause for concern. Be strong and stick to your convictions. Whatever your 'friends' think is not important. Deep down, they realize that they have made a mistake by having sex too young, but will never admit it.
Sex is just an animalistic act when it's between two people who aren't in love.
Sex is a fantastic and fulfilling experience when it's between two people who are in love.

Just hang tough and you will be glad you waited.

Answer 10

You are smart. And I notice you say "One of the only virgins" meaning you aren't the only one. Trust me, girls that are your age and sleeping around are only causing trouble for themselves, if they dont get knocked up or infected with something, matters of the heart take in to play.

You are young. Trust me, you ask any woman out there if she has no regrets about sleeping with any boys (no matter if its 1 or 50) when they were younger, 99% will tell you they were stupid, and should have been more confident that there is something worth waiting for.

My dad use to tell me that your body is your temple and to treat it as such. You only get ONE. You can't take away getting pregnant, or catching some STD.

Just be careful, and honestly, I respect any girl that doesn't give in to the facad that having sex makes you cool.

Good luck,and I hope you realize you are being smarter than those other girls!!!

Answer 11

what is there to feel left out of , it's normal to be a virgin if not proud coz you don't want to lose it over some stranger or a loser and end up regretting it so what if your friends have lost it doesn't make you any different if not more careful and prepared and 16 is way too young to be losing your virginity, too many kids are just rushing into things too early and having babies early when they are not mature enough to handle the pressure of what a baby can give you