I've been wanting to fix my relationship between me & my boyfriend...he doesnt seem to bother about how things have been going lately...i've broken up w/him twice already...both time he ended up begging me he would change...and eventually doesnt...what should i do?!?!?!break it off? or keep on trying to fix thing....1 more thing i'm not the on and off type of girl, I HATE getting back W/my ex's....this has been the 1st time......
2007-08-26 09:00:22 · 23 answers · asked by ♥Sanny♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can not change some one but you grow together with someone and hopefully it is good for both of you some people may give in and some may not but if you both are not growing in the same direction than it is not going to work and if your significant other knows you will take him back than he has no reason to give in to you and to grow with you plus he probably does not feel very strong about you no matter what he says when he wants you back his feelings may be used to being with you or wants sex wanting with all his heart to be with you is probably not true or he is playing you and likes to venture off once and a while and play the field see what he can get and than sweet talks his way back into your life plus if you have broken up with him than deep down in side you know you should not be with him and if you do not end it or resolve the issue this could become a pattern in your relationship that never changes and even worse these might be the kind of guys you will end up choosing in the future do not be that person
2007-08-26 09:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Wayne H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sanny,
Always remember it takes two hands to clap. You may try to fix the situation or your boyfriends attitude or anything(could have been more specific about your prob with your boyfriend) but the change will only happen when your BF wants it to happen. At this time i am not here to advise you to break up or patch things up, it's your life, no one else can decide for you.
What i can help you in is by guiding you. The one thing that you need to look into is how this relationship is affecting you. Love is something that would help you grow to become a better person and not destroy you. Look into your life, think for yourself, are you growing to a better person. This will help you make a decision.
2007-08-26 09:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by patrick a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never truly change a person, either you have to accepted them for how they are or not. But if you truly love someone and they love you back, they would care about your feelings and want to work thought what ever going on in your relationship to make it stronger for bother of you. Be able to communicate in the most important part of any relationship
2007-08-26 09:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by joseph w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you think you can accomplish by not understanding that things do not change...you must decide...do you want this kind of a relationship or not....people are the way they are and things to not change...you get use to something or not....You claim you are not the on and off girl...but aren't you....
In my opinion.....if you are asking then it means you should stop.seeing the guy even avoid meeting him....get out and start a life.....if he meets or begs.you......say no more....put a stop and find something that will respect and love you.....good luck...
2007-08-26 09:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by frieda l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone!
It's obviously never going to work out.. you;ve broken up twice already!
I really don't think you should fix anything, just leave it and have fun being single for a while!
2007-08-26 09:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy will never change even if he tries. If he does change he'll slowly go back to the way he was before. Don't bother trying to get him to.
2007-08-26 09:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by multione88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nothing changes, nothing changes. He won't change until he actually changes - and promises won't do it.
You can't fix the relationship all by yourself.
Go find someone who WILL care about the way things are going.
2007-08-26 09:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you love him but some things just arent meant to be. i think 2 chances are more than enough. if you gave him a chance bc he said he would change (2times) and he didnt then that should be a red flag to you proving that its not going to happen. everyone always gets back into their old routine eventually. you are obviously to good for him and he doesnt deserve you. so, cut his *** outa your life. and DONT take him back bc it will never change.
2007-08-26 09:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by JENN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already given him 3 chances. He's out.
Move on to someone who is willing to put the same amount of effort into the relationship as you are.
2007-08-26 09:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by looneybin90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already showed you that he's not going to change... at least not any time soon.... you've been through this twice already... so i think you answer is staring you right in the face and you just refuse to look at it
2007-08-26 09:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by wise one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋