tattoo conflict?

Question

is it wrong of my husband to pretty much say i cant get another tattoo? i had 2 when we met and i had my tongue pierced and he knew i liked tattoos and planned on getting more as time goes on and such , im getting my grandmothers name in black and gray on my neck soon and he flipped out and said i would look like a slut with anymore tattoos and that i dont need to get any more because he doesnt like them is it wrong of me to get them anyways or is it wrong for him to act like this about it?

im getting it on the back of my neck so noone is gonna see it unless i show it to them and yes tattoos are a big deal to me and i will be getting many more and what makes me mad is he knew this at the begining of the relationship and didnt say anything against it

umm ya im not a preteen jerk im 25 and ya i dont care to spell properly when i writing on the internet big whoop who cares and im not whining i told him plainly "you knew how i felt when you met me its not my problem that your getting so uptight now and its my body and i put whatever i want on it" then he poceeds to freak out on me and get overdramatic about it

Answer 1

i wouldn't get a tattoo of a name on my neck, it's not something i find attractive on anybody... guy or girl.

you are married and marriage is all about compromise so you need to sit down and have a serious discussion about your priorities. you should write down your reasons for wanting more tattoos and be prepared with smart sensible arguments. no "it's my body and you're not the boss of me" that just sounds immature.

my husband is hesitant about me getting more tattoos but he understands that it is something that is important to me. he wants more and i have no problem with that so i atleast have something going in my favor... if he can have more so can i.

if you do end up getting more tattoos is it going to put a kink in your relationship? is it worth such a big rift? these are all things you seriously need to consider. marriage isn't easy.`

Answer 2

No one should EVER have that much say over what you can do to your own body. I have several tattoos, and like you, plan on getting more. If a man (husband or not) had a problem with that, he would do well to move on. Good luck.

Answer 3

I didn't realize pre-teens were allowed to get married nowadays (except in Alabama). You should have waited until you were mature enough to get married.

Sorry, but you come off like a little kid in the way that you whine and abuse the written language. Seriously, it sounds like you are crying about daddy not giving ice cream. I'm afraid that this approach isn't going to get you far in your effort to convince your guy of your side.

You may think I'm just being a jerk in responding here, but what I am suggesting is:
Often the way you argue/present an issue is more significant than the issue itself. Drop the issue for a while, let your mis-steps in first presenting it be "forgotten." Re-approach it later.

Answer 4

If it was something meaningless that you were just getting on a whim I would agree with your husband. But him refusing to let you get a tattoo of your grandma's name is controlling. Explain to him that it's something important to you that you really want to get done, and if he doesn't care that it's important to you he's a jerk.

Answer 5

Since you were upfront at first I say go and get the tattoo anyway! Like you said it's your body and you have your reasons so he'll just have to get over it!!!

Answer 6

have you explained your reasons to him?
if not, thouroughly explain it to him, and tell him you understand how he feels but you feel like this is something you need/want to do and tell him you are getting it.

Answer 7

id say that reqally messed up...it has alot of meaning to you and he shouldnt want to control you like that ...get it