i wanna make boat load of money , but i keep fearing that i will lose my friends and family if i do it.. I recently discovered my bi - tch *** mom telling me when i was growin up that , you will have nobody , no matter how much money you make or who you are ,
i still remember the exact words , that fu cking ***** ...
And now i am scared because she used to say it so ****#ing often that it's in my Core Memory like it's etched .
How can i rewrite that part of my brain and think like a normal human being .
p.s : i been thru depression , anxiety problems and relationship problems everything due to ( something i discovered inthe past 1 year period ) my parents ( the way they brought me up ) .
so is this fear legitimate ? am i really gona lose my friends if i start to make a sh-it load of money because believe me i know i can , if i want to . but this fear is chaining me down . like i am in a dark room or something . I can't seem to think in an open mature , healthy way.
2007-08-26 07:08:12 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
The fear is understandable if you had abusive parents, but not legitimate. That is It can be gotten rid of by simply forgiving your parents, forgetting their mistakes concerning you and setting out anew to not repeat them with others or let them influence your life. Be happy!
Learn and remember that money can't buy happiness, good luck in your life, good health, peace and love!
2007-08-26 14:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a therapist who specializes in cognitive restructuring and/or narrative therapy.
Alternatively, you could take the simple route and just do it. Recognize a lie as a lie and move on with your life. You are an adult now. You are no longer a child. Only you can decide what you will believe and what messages you will allow to rule your life.
2007-08-26 07:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by michele 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called an emotionally abusive upbringing. See a therapist that specializes in abuse or perhaps CBT, and then work really hard at developing new ways to see yourself. You could do it yourself, but it's unlikely that it'd be as beneficial as working with a specialist.
2007-08-26 08:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Alex62 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life and death are in the power of the tongue. Unfortunately your mom spoke words of "death" over you. Parents are supposed to empower their children with their words.
You have to reprogram your mind with words of "life." Speak things over yourself until it gets from your head down into your heart- the real you.
You are the author of your own destiny. Do not let your parents' words control your future.
2007-08-26 08:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋