My Dad and his wife had planned a fish fry for like a week, and I mentioned to my Dad that my hubby and I have 10 lbs of nice big gulf shrimp in the freezer I'd be happy to boil and bring as appetizers. Dad was super excited thought it was a great idea. So this morning, he calls to make sure I'm still making it, and I said of course. 15 mins after I boil it he calls and says that "L" the stepmom doesnt want me to do it cause there will be way too much food. I said well, its already done, I'm bringing it. He replies, "well be prepared for some attitude about it". So I said well, I wont come and we hung up. Now, there will be almost 10 people there, and this shrimp cost us almost $50. What do I do? I'm always dealing with this petty BS from "L" and its getting tiresome. Do I stay home and eat my yummy yummy shrimp with my hubby and kids? Do I take it? UGH family politics suck!
2007-08-26 07:03:11 · 9 answers · asked by sterlinglaw23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Leave the shrimp home. Refrigerate it for your family later. Go to the fish fry. Be polite and respectful because of your dad. I lived with this problem from 1962 until he died in 2002. Now I stay away!! Five hundred miles away. I was kind and polite long enough. Now he's gone and it's OVER!!!!!!!
2007-08-26 07:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your stepmom wants to be in control, capital letters! Your dad seems too bendable to her wishes (there's a word for it, not for polite company). I've never heard of an occasion where the hostess said NOT to bring something! If there are leftovers, great, have some later, too much food should not not be a problem! The normal thing would be to share the leftovers, some for them, some for your family. Just an idea! Why don't you & your family go, socialise & eat plenty! Keep the shrimp for tomorrow.
2007-08-26 07:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Cam1051Sec 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same issue at home with my stepmom. We're always fighting and she calls me names a lot, and my dad hears her call me these names and he doesn't do anything. He wants to keep her around to pay for stuff. And he 'loves' her. I've been dealing with it for ten years, so. Your best bet would be just ignore it. Once you turn eighteen, pack your bags and leave without a second glance. It might be tough for you and your sister, depending on how close you were to your dad and step siblings, but in the end it's all we can ever do because we can't change people. I'm sorry about your situation, by the way.
2016-05-18 02:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the step-mom knew ahead of time that you planned on making it for the dinner but did NOT clarify with you that she would prefer you NOT bring it, then I believe it was HER fault for not calling ahead and telling you, instead of waiting til the last minute to say something. I would at least take half of it, because others will certainly enjoy it. And you and your own family can snack on the rest later. If anything, the shrimp will make the whole seafood theme that much better. As for her attitude, I would simply say, "Oh, if you would have told me sooner to not bring it, I wouldn't have bothered", Just go for your Dad's sake and kill HER with kindness. I wish I could have some of your shrimp! lol
2007-08-26 07:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, it is you and the shrimp at the party or neither at the party. Go to the party with the shrimp. There has never been too much food at any of the family functions that I have been to. Family, even with a crazy stepmom, is important.
2007-08-26 07:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mark S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the fish fry, and bring your shrimp... and your family...
Sit back and enjoy as "L" gives you attitude about it, and STEAMS as she watches the guests enjoy your shrimp, more than the fish she spent time preparing.
Everyone loves shrimp better than fish on any day!
2007-08-26 07:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by minitrail70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like there is a bigger issue here than boiled shrimp . I can't decide which one is being more childish and vindictive though without being there . Remember it takes very little effort to be the better person .
2007-08-26 07:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something my step mother would say. If your dad was acting really excited about it than bring it and spend time with him. Don't let her ruin the time you have with him. Alot of times men do what there wife's want just to keep peace they don't do it I think to hurt us. Go to the party have a blast and don't let her rain on your parade. Hope you have a blast.
2007-08-26 07:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by ~~Just me~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take and show her that she doesn't scare you!!! because she is just tring to test you!!! stand up for your self gurl!!!
2007-08-26 07:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋