I am still sleeping around with my baby's father even though I know he may be sleeping around with someone else. I use protection each time now because I can't trust him on the other level anymore. The only reason I am still having sex with him is because he is the only person that I feel comfortable enough to have sex with right now. But the thing is, he is not totally accepted my daughter as his. He doesn't deny her but he doesn't participate either. I know I should have let him go but I just like the GOOD's. Plus we had an understanding that we were just friends with the benefits. And my daughter came along with it. She is 4 months old now. He hasn't told his parent's about her. I know I just need to leave him alone... What do you all think?
2007-08-26 06:07:48 · 20 answers · asked by Red 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There will be a DNA test done soon. Just to get rid of any doubts that he may be having. And he will have not choice.
2007-08-26 06:17:38 · update #1
First and foremost, get a paternity test and prove he's the father. Do it for your child, not either of you; it's very important that they have a clear understanding of who their father is, even if there is no relationship between them. As for the sex, as long as you use protection and understand and can deal with the fact that he's not going to be with just you, it's fine.
2007-08-26 06:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a DNA test done and then show his parents. Leave the loser and hit him up for all the child support you can get. Then find yourself a better man that is going to trust,love and respect you.
Also I only hear one side of the story. For him I would let ya go because its going no where but I would take care of the child if it was mine after the DNA test. Good luck to ya.
2007-08-26 13:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tim Fitz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, girl, you really don't want to know what I think. Grow a brain, and do right by your daughter. Get rid of LOSER, get a DNA, if necessary, and file for child support. Just because some guy is good in the sack, doesn't make him material for anything else. Get yourself some Evereadies, and kick this guy out.
2007-08-26 13:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a support order, and find someone else with the "goods" you like. If this guy is not voluntarily acknowleging his child by now, he's not going to. He's using you and probably happy that you haven't had the court make him acknowlege his child, at least financially. Realize your mistake, learn from it and move on. This time use protection until you're sure you're with the person you want to have babies with.
Good Luck :-)
2007-08-26 13:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step away so you can both get over the break up. You are abusing each other by doing this. You are not letting yourselves be free to do what you want to do and to be happy because this is not happiness. You can get laid by anyone just about and find a few you can trust. It just takes work. And anything worth anything is going to take work. I think you need to get on with your life this is just wasting your time. Go to a adult toy shop if necessary and get child support and that way you can get the test done to prove that its his kid.
Good Luck
2007-08-26 13:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by cave wmn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are becoming to dependent on him... you and your daughter need to move on and lead a happy and independent life until you find a guy that loves the both of you and wants a committment. Plus even though you use protection there is still a small chance you could get pregnant and he apparently is the last guy you want this with.
2007-08-26 13:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People say I know this and I know that, but don't follow their own advice.
I bet he wouldn't give two thoughts to you if you didn't keep having sex. You have a child now, concentrate on her. Hope he doesn't end up being a dead-beat about his kid, though it sounds like he will.
Move on and tell him to reconsider about being a father. Accept only his presence as her father, if he even cares to know his child.
2007-08-26 13:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I think you should have some sense knocked into you. He denies his own daughter that you take care of yet you're still jumping in bed with him cuz he's the only one you feel comfortable with? There's something wrong with you. I feel sorry for your daughter
2007-08-26 13:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by Bug Fuggy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had a child and have not been married. He legally, now
has to adopt the child, for child to be his. That's not to say, in
the event of child support. He will have to "pay."
The child is the one caught in the middle of this because you
both have a rat's *** atitude. And will grow to hate you "both."
You are staying, because of having sex, and the "support."
He is staying, because of having sex, and has the atitude:
"Why buy the cow, When your getting the milk for FREE."
You both need some "serious counceling." <}:-})
2007-08-26 13:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
although this does sound like a dilemma on the maury show... its not, its real life. and i understand it is hard to feel comfortable with other men and it is hard to let go of someone who was such a good friend. in the end i think you need to let him know that he has to admit he is the father or your relationship should end (at least sexually)
2007-08-26 13:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋