How can I tell my mom and dad that I think I need someone to talk to?

Question

I don't like myself very much and I fell that am a fat ugly nobody and I put myself down all the time. Today my mom asked me if I need someone to talk to and I said no but I think I do need some one to talk to about how I fell I just wana let her know I need someone to talk to I don't know how or what to say. I think she know's that I cut myself sometimes p.s. am 16

Answer 1

Firstly, at sixteen, you don't need to ask your parents for someone to talk to. Start with your school's guidance office. That's what they are there for. Go in, and start talking. You can even make an appointment if you want. Then, you can have options. If they suggest you need further counseling, they can suggest someone, and even talk to your parents for you so that you don't need to. Some problems can even be solved just by talking to your guidance counselor. If anything, it will give you someone to talk to, so that you can learn to open up.

Another good option is through your church. Your priest, minister, preacher, or whomever (depending on what type of religious meetings you attend) is more than capable of being a "go-to person" for your troubles, and that is one of the things they love to do best.

If you are afraid of meeting someone face to face, there is always the option of the help line. Many of them are toll-free, and discreet, and will talk to you about anything and everything you want to talk about, even if you just need a friend. Check these out:

Covenant House (Toll-Free)
http://www.nineline.org/
1-800-999-9999

Focus USA Help List
http://www.focusas.com/Hotlines.html
This page has different help lines based on all different types of crisis that you may be going through.

If you decide you do want to talk to your mother, simply tell her just that. "I know we talked about this the other day, but I was wrong. I do need to talk to someone. Please help." Make sure she knows its not that you don't love her or trust her, but you need to talk to someone who doesn't know you, who is unbiased, and who can help you get to the root of your problems.

Finally, but most importantly, remember that there is always God. If you are scared, or hurt, or feel unsure. If you feel like you don't belong, or have nothing to believe in, God will always listen. You can talk to Him whenever and wherever you want, and pray to him that he will give you the strength to find the answers within yourself, to grow, and to be encouraged.

Good luck, and God Bless.

Answer 2

If your mom has asked you already it shows that she cares and is concerned about you. I'm sure she realizes that there is a problem but probably doens't know how to help you. She's reaching out to you so just tell her "Mom, I need someone to talk to" or "Mom, I need help." If you really feel you can't ask her, try another trusted adult, a guidance counseler at school, a teacher, or clergy. There are also hotlines you can call. Please get the help you need.

Answer 3

Since your mom asked you, she knows there is something wrong - just tell her that you've changed your mind and it would be a good idea to talk to a counselor.
If you are cutting yourself, it is because you are trying to cover up emotional pain with physical pain...now you just hurt in two ways. Depression is anger turned inward, so you need to figure out what you are mad about, and find a way to forgive whoever did you wrong (even if it is yourself). Once you get past the anger, you will also get past the pain.
Good luck, sweetie.

Answer 4

Just sit down with her and say mom you asked me early if I need someone to talk to and I think I do. Just say you've been feeling down and getting your feelings out to someone who is not bias will help. If your self-harming then you have to speak to someone. Just be honest! It is normal for all girls to feel not prettier enough. It's good to reach out to someone though, and there is patient confidentiality so no one will know what is going on behind close doors, in less you need medication or something.

Answer 5

wow, i had a friend and she's juz like u, she thinks she's fat and ugly ( which she really isn't) she's just so upset all the time, so i asked her if she need anyone to talk to, she said she's fine, (i dun think shes fine...) Few days later, she called me and talked and cried and talked. she just wanted someone to talk to especialy her mom. so i told her to go straight up to your mom and say "We need to talk in private." or something like that. It worked...i think it might work on u as well. Dun be afraid of ur parents. They'll always support u and help u through hard times...GOOD LUK! ^^

Answer 6

I remember being in your shoes some years ago...

The good news is, your Mom can sense what is going on with you. Better yet, she is letting treatment be YOUR decision!! I would be honest with her...tell her that you want to try therapy, just to see if it helps.

My recommendation for therapy is to try to find a Psychotherapist instead of a Psychiatrist. All that Psychiatrists ever did for me was ask me how I was feeling, wrote it down, and gave me a bunch of pills. When I found my Psychotherapist, she TAUGHT me how to "fix" myself without medication. Not only did she work wonders with my depression, but the skills she taught me helped me to handle tough situations in my life.

Just remember...you aren't alone in how you feel. It hurts, but it CAN GET BETTER!! Kudos to you for recognizing that you need some extra help...it takes some people years to get to where you are.

God Bless!!

Answer 7

If she asked, she knows something is wrong. Feel free, there is no need to hide things. Just tell her "Mom, I changed my mind and I think I do need to talk to someone". She probably was longing to hear that from you.

Answer 8

I feel bad for you. I went through almost the same thing. Try talking to your mom or someone you can trust. They might be more helpful than you think. Good luck. I hope this helps.

Answer 9

Since your mom had already asked you, that means she can feel that you not okay about something. MOms are very sensitive. They are the best people to talk to...try opening up to her. Tell her that you need an ear. She will not fail you...: )

Answer 10

Hi. I'm sorry to hear this. Go back to your mom...who, obviously, sees that you are hurting. Tell her, "yes, mom, I do need someone to talk to." Perhaps if you just sit and chat with your mom she can help you. Otherwise, go to your doctor and get a referral to a mental help therapist. You need to share your feelings with someone. You should not be cutting yourself, that is a sign of low self-esteem. I wish you the best - please seek help!