I'm a waitress in a very good restarant and we get alot of men in, I find if they flirt and I flirt back I get great tips.....thats all it is, just flirting. Is this wrong?... Do you think Jesus would think it is okay?
2007-08-26 05:11:57 · 60 answers · asked by Fireball224 f 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
WOW......some of you have made me out to be a hooker!.....All I have been doing is being charming and witty...I never ever get sexual even in conversation!...Its just me being nice to people....Its my job to be nice, but I do feel guilty..all it takes is a smile and laughing at there jokes and in rolls the money!.....Yes I feel bad about it but what are the choses? Not to laugh and smile...I would lose my job!
Some of you people need to lighten up!
Thank-you to the rest of you.....I do have some thinking to do....although its good money....I really do feel cheap having to be fake with people.....my friend said its like that in every job....there is always someone you have to please.....ugh!
2007-08-26 05:40:06 · update #1
I made a few spelling mistakes...sorry I was typing fast!!
2007-08-26 05:46:16 · update #2
I don't see anything wrong with it. As long as it doesn't make you feel cheap, then flirt away.
My guess is that the 5 thumbs down are from people who have never been in customer service before. I'm sorry, men at a bar want to be flirted with, and they'll pay for it. I'm not being sexual, just charming. It's just like when you call your credit card company with a mistake and expect people to be apologetic...
2007-08-26 05:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 7⤋
No, it's not OK. It's prostitution. You are selling your body and your sexual attractiveness for a bigger tip. Even though you know there will be no contact, any sexual allure for financial gain is the same in the eyes of the Lord.
“You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with
the world is hatred toward God? Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God” (James 4:4 NIV).
For the love of money is at the root of all kinds of evil. And some people craving money have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many sorrows.” 1 Timothy 6:6-10
Your tips should be based on being a great waitress and not on being friendly and flirting to get more money.
2007-08-26 05:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by tushanna_m 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There are two sides of the coin that you should consider. On the one hand, there is nothing wrong with being friendly and providing good service at your job in the hope that your customers will be generous in their tips. On the other hand, if you go "too far" and your intent is to mislead a person into thinking that you have a sexual interest in them or to seek to arouse sinful thoughts in their hearts by your behavior then that is not what someone who wants to live a life that honors God should do.
2007-08-26 05:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Martin S 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I feel sorry that you put this question here too, as you are being misjudged. But since you did, here's my opinion. As a Christian, you have the Holy Spirit living in you. I have a feeling you know there's that grey line between flirting and being very friendly as part of your job. You know when you're feeling uncomfortable because the Holy Spirit's nudging you, right? So...those are your boundaries - He's letting you know. God bless you, and sorry for all the judgmental answers you received.
2007-08-26 06:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by Deb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is Ok as long as it doesn't cross the line. Being friendly and looking nice are not sinful. Showing cleavage and wearing a short skirt does cross the line. Dress appropriately, or with whatever uniform you are supplied and flirt but do not sin. God Bless You...Peace.
2007-08-26 08:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not okay to God. Manipulating a situation for self gain through flirting with the opposite sex is definitely an un-Godly like conduct and indeed a sin. No matter how "innocent" it may seem. That is a lie of Satan. Any manipulation of any kind for self gain is a sin. If you're a "True" Christian ........You would NOT act like those who are "still living in the world" who are apart from the Truth of God, and who's actions are under still the control and influence of Satan.
2007-08-26 05:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by TIAT 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a Christian, but I think it's wrong that restaurants are legally allowed to pay below minimum wage, and then expect customers to make up the difference.
I would prefer to see restaurant workers get paid a decent wage, even if that meant raising the prices on the menu 10-15%, and eliminating tipping.
2007-08-26 05:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by queenthesbian 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to pray.
Some people can flirt all day long and it never has an effect. Some people flirt and it results in an inappropriate encounter.
Only God knows you well enough to give you advice.
PS: You are not a whore because you flirt. Flirting is not misleading although a lot of guys who do not date much probably think of it that way. Flirting is not misleading.
2007-08-26 05:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if Jesus will be okay with it, but I'm not. If I flirt and you flirt back and I give you some money, I expect some good quality service. If I flirt, and you flirt back, and I don't give you any money, then I expect your number (I wouldn't degrade you into a tip-whore if I were actually interested).
Now, the question is, are you interested, or are you a tip-whore? It has more to do with your own personal values than it does with anyone elses. What do you make YOURSELF out to be?
2007-08-26 05:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
1TIMOTHY 2:9-10 says:
9 In like manner, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefastness and sobriety; not with braided hair, and gold or pearls or costly raiment;
10 but (which becometh women professing godliness) through good works.
..through good works!.I don't think that what you're doing in your work is good becuase in the first place, you have doubt.
As a christian, we women, should be modest, have the sanctity in ourselves. Tips or money can give you all you need and may be luzury, but not your purity and sanctity as a women, especially christian..
2007-08-26 05:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by _cries_ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are half way to the prostitution.
Today you are flirting to get few more cents.
Tomorrow you might get a tendency to sleep with someone to get few more dollars.
As far as I know, not only Christianity, these types of behaviour which takes you towards prostitution is NOT ALLOWED IN ANY RELIGION on the face of this earth.
SAVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU SINK.
May GOD save you.
2007-08-26 06:46:40 · answer #11 · answered by Netpal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋