question about s-e-x?

Question

Hi everyone I became celibate 2 months ago because of my religion and I want to know why some people worship sex more than anything. I see my people go to extremes for it, use it for money, etc. I feel like its a waste of time and energy cause most of the time people have sex their not married to that person, love them, or heck even like them for that part its just something to do and that's bull cause if I "just want something to do" I'll read, cook, play ball, etc.. My point is whatever you do with your body affects your mind and spirit so when you have sex with anybody you have created a bond with that person thru your body so my question for you all is could you be celibate for a day, week, month? What would you do with all that downtime? How would you view your body as?

Answer 1

It is a natural impulse, the basest of urges except survival. Why shouldn't we do it? It is pleasurable, but the fact that everyone enjoys it and requires it means that people will use it to gain an advantage.
Think of advertising: no matter what it is, people will have a desire (however slight) to buy it if it "makes them more physically attractive/more trendy".
To be honest, I haven't had sex for ages, and from a guy this may sound like bull, but I don't care. When I see my girl it makes it better than if we were doing it all the time. Before I was in a relationship, I would not have sex for 6months or more (mainly due to lack of self esteem).
I know I could do it despite being more confident, and I pity the people who cannot do without it because they have become slaves to what society puts on them. Most people my age go out, get drunk and sleep with people... What's the point? I feel like I'm wasting opportunities if I do that all the time. Live life to the full, and that doesnt just mean getting wasted and having sex. It's good, but too much of a good thing is NO GOOD! =oD

Answer 2

You pose an interesting question, people really, really like sex. I actually hadn't even heard the word Celibate in lke 5 years. I think personally sex is far more fun than cooking or playing ball or pretty much most other things i can think of. I think sexual activity should be shared, not on the gangbang level or anything, but if two people of opposite sex, or the same sex happen to connect as individuals it should be shared. It's fun and a way to get close to another.

Answer 3

from a biological standpoint, people enjoy sex because the hypothalamus in the brain is the pleasure center and it is activated during sex. sex is meant to be a pleasurable experience. however, some people use those good feelings to mask their bad feelings about themselves, get validation from others, feel needed, etc. people are often celibate for a day, week, or month whether it's by choice or by circumstance.

very few people have sex on a daily basis. even some married people will state that they have sex as little as a few times a year. your question assumes that all sexually active people are so wrapped into sex that they have it everyday and are so consumed by it that they can't even have hobbies, read books, cook, or play ball. that is absurd and extreme. you have made a choice for yourself, but to start judging others as though they are inferior or stupid is ridiculous. btw, i am married and faithful so i'm not giving this opinion has a horny, bed-hopping hoochie.

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Answer 4

i appreciate your religious views and feelings and i think its wonderful that youve decided to become celibate and i also respect your first question about why you want to know why people worship sex more than anything. i can answer that, there is no feeling in the world that is better than feeling the mututal sexual pleasure and satisfaction with someone that you care about. Its theraputic, and relaxing. its satisfying and settling. As for asking us to be celibate for a week, day, month, year etc. i dont think thats fair. as ai said i completely appreciate your standpoint, but you cant ask others to follow suit. its a completely personal decision and choice. we do with it what we want, and we cant expect others to do with it what we want. different folks different strokes, as they say.
i cant speak for the people who have sex with people they dont like, thats ridiculous. i would never do that. but i enjoy sexuality and i enjoy the experience, and for me, its all about having that mutual pleasure that you cannot, regardless of what anybody says, get from anywhere else. there are different kinds of stimulants. sexual stimulants are not obtainable anywyhere but from sex/sexual activity. and some people simply cannot live without it after they have had it. or maybe i should say choose not to live without it. You, on the other hand have taken a difficult stand and should feel proud. i have 100% respect for you, however, if your question is can i be celibate? the answer is no. I view my body as a gift from god that was given to live physically in. one question... were adam and eve married? or were they just the only two people around? did they have a matrimonal ceremony? i dont think so...

Answer 5

Sex has its own place in the body. If you deny sex, you deny your body. Because your body is the product of sex, nothing more, nothing less. You cannot claim to be a celibate, as long you are in the body.

All love has its source from the sex centre. Don't divide love into categories. All love springs from the sex centre only. It depends on you, how you use it.

I view my body as the vehicle of love, and without the sex centre no love could be produced. I channelise my sex energies for transformation into higher love instead of succumbing to basic instincts.

Answer 6

People don't worship sex. They enjoy it.

Obviously you've never climaxed with another person or you'd have a better understanding of what people get out of the experience.

Giving up sex with others isn't a big deal. Giving it up with yourself AND others is.

My downtime would be spent making amends to everyone around me for being so snarky.

BTW, it's a researched fact that people who have satisfying sex 3 times a week or more have a significantly reduced risk of heart disease.

My body is my body, but if I can't enjoy myself sexually, I feel a degree of disconnect. It's not healthy.

Answer 7

I was forced to be celibate for 2 months due to medical problems resulting in surgery. Im married to the love of my life. It was not easy for me only because of the discomfort it caused my husband. I helped him with that and I was fine. As for filling the time it left. The pain pills made me sleep through most of the 2 months.

Answer 8

I love sex the feeling of bonding the aurora the caressing etc. Celibacy is for the unattached , well lately umm 5days without causes some thoughts of will power. No hardships just recognised own emotional needs.

Answer 9

Sex is the one of the most natural desires and amongst the most basic of instincts. Having a good libido is healthy and natural. With out the appetite for sex the human species would be doomed. Like Too Short said; don't..fight the feeling.

Answer 10

I could go without sex for a time... just like I could go without meals for a time. Why should I? The word celibate doesn't mean much to me and doesn't interest me. I don't care for golf so I don't go . I like tennis.I like eating. I like sex. I like visiting places. There is a time and place for everything. You decide to be celibate. That's nice. I'm going to play tennis. See you and have fun.