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my teenage son, 16. comes in and leaves lights on everywhere. goes to sleep and leaves his pc on. goes out and leaves the telly on. leaves his bedroom a tip. leaves his trainers in middle of hallway. etc etc. it causes a lot of rows and my partner (not his father) moans and says this isnt normal behaviour (he didnt live with his own son while he was growing up)
now dont get me wrong, i have a go at him and make him clear up and turn off. he also has a part time job to see him through college and on the whole is quite an amiable lad.
just wanna get others opinions please.

2007-08-26 03:48:25 · 28 answers · asked by annonymiss 1 in Family & Relationships Family

28 answers

Normal! Doesn't help your relationship with your partner though, that's a tricky one.

2007-08-26 03:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by carnival queen 5 · 1 0

My son does that and he is 11 and he gets told to switch off and tidy up and so on. He is much better at it that he used to be. I find that if you let them know you will remove light bulbs or any other offending item they leave on, they soon remember to switch off. As for trainers in the hall, just threaten to throw them out if it happens again. I think its common for much younger children to leave things at their backside but by 16 I would expect the lad to be a lot more responsible. I would moan too if it were me. Its great your son has a job and everything and is generally amiable but yes, sort out the lack of thought around the house!

2007-08-26 05:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0 0

to be honest I think it's normal you just grow into being tidy and more responible when you move into your own place I was exacally the same as your son was at 16 and bacially the same the whole time i was living at home lol, i think i lot of my friends were too and now i've been through uni and got a top graduate job in the city and have a tidy flat. I would say moan at him but not too much it isn't the end of the world if he leaves his shoes in the hall way he will grow out of it, if you go too over the top he isn't going to listen anyway, at least he isn't doing drugs or making a waste of his life then you'd have a problem

2007-08-26 03:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by bet bet bet 3 · 1 0

LOL he is quiet normal. Are you kidding my girls do that all the time and I am after them constantly to pick up turn things off etc. He is just your typical teenage child, but he does need to start being more responsible and not leaving a mess. This is what I tell my girls, its their room they can do what ever they want with it but the rest of the house is to stayed cleaned up and it works out well that way..:) Hope this helps you some.

2007-08-26 04:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sheila C 2 · 0 0

Completely 100% guaranteed NORMAL!

16 year olds are not know for their cleanliness, especially 16 year old boys! It simply doesn't seem to occur to them to do those things.

Be glad that he is in school and has a part time job. Sounds like he is on the right track. Don't sweat the small stuff Mom!

2007-08-26 03:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ellen 2 · 1 0

Yes well i am a teenager as well and i also leave lights on everywere, live in a tip, dont like cleaning up and plainly i dont actually think about cleaning up becasue i know my mess will be cleaned up. i hardly tur the telly of because i jst forget to becaiuse most of the time it doesnt strike me to turn it of and my computer is on 24/7 as well as my mobile. It is just because it is easier this way and my parent cant make me clean up becuase i plainly dont know how to!

2007-08-26 04:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Strong girl 3 · 0 0

He is a normal teenager. He will only clean up when told to. Otherwise he has more on his mind than cleaning. Just stay on him about leaving his stuff all over the house. Try to catch him as he does it and he eventually will tire of hearing it and only leave his room a sty. Keep his door closed so that you do not have to look in there or smell it and all will be well. Set aside 1 day a week that the sty must be raked out and stick to it. Everyones nerves will mellow and your relationship will prosper.

2007-08-26 03:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1 1

Yes this is normal behavior. I think you should still get at him to be more responsible and clean up after himself and turn the lights off. Either by start to ground him or take things away that he likes. You should still be proud of him for going to college and having his own job. Good Luck!

2007-08-26 03:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by MISSY E 3 · 0 0

he is perfectly normal - your partner obviously sees his own child through rose coloured glasses as he did not live with them. My children were exactly the same . I suggest you get a lock for his bedroom door and do not enter it except to throw him clean bedding once a fortnight. Throw trainers in the garden whenever you find them where they are not meant to be. aned ask for a contribution to the electricity bills. then leave the lad alone.

2007-08-26 04:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by D B 6 · 0 0

Sounds pretty much normal to me...I have 3 teenager creatures at home. At least a couple times a week I have to get on them for silly stuff. Dont worry. He will be gone too soon

2007-08-26 04:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Bob D 6 · 2 0

Well mine is 19 and I had to start training him at the age of 5.So now he is pretty good at it.At one time he was leaving a light on at night so I made him pay half the light bill.That helped too. So make him pay some of it until he starts trying to remember.First threaten him your going to make him pay some.See if that helps first.Good luck

2007-08-26 03:56:58 · answer #11 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1 0

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