I (foolishly) asked my 22 year old son if I irritated him - not surprisingly, he said, yes. Always nagging him to do this, or that, and interrupting the football match to speak to him, sort of thing. Being a glutton for punishment, I then asked how he rated me as a mother - 1 being abyssmal and 10 being perfect. He gave me 9 (on the basis that no-one is perfect). Wow!
So I invite you to 'fess up' and admit the things you do that irritate your children. It's an extremely theraputic exercise - you'll feel much better afterwards, honest! Oh, and then ask them how they rate you. Go on, live dangerously!
2007-08-26 03:09:43 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Everybody gets a thumbs up from me ('cause I'm feeling so happy). Oh, my son doesn't live at home - he's just here on leave. In spite of all my mistakes, he's a well-adjusted, thoughtful, intelligent, handsome and funny guy. I'm baised, of course, but then mum's are allowed to be, after all! It's one of the (few) perks - oh, that and worrying, of course. All part of the job description, eh?
2007-08-26 06:20:52 · update #1
I'm the thorn in their flesh, I have bogging taste when it comes to Christmas and birthday presents, I'm an embarrassment. I don't understand, I don't know anything. I don't know what it feels like BUT I am the shoulder to cry on, I'm the one they turn to when it all goes wrong, I'm the bank that never says no and doesn't charge interest, I'm the free taxi service and I think this says it all. When one daughter was getting married she asked me to go on her hen night because I WAS THE ONLY ONE SHE TRUSTED TO MAKE SURE SHE WAS ALRIGHT AND GOT HOME.
2007-08-26 08:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was rather unfortunate that I hit the menopause just as my son hit puberty. I'm afraid that he (and his dad) went through a really bad time what with me doing a Jekyll and Hide act, and him trying to cope with his raging hormones. My hormones were going off the scale, too! It was not good. However, we've all got through it, relatively unscathed. I know that my love for my son is the most powerful emotion I've ever experienced, and in spite of all my faults and failings, I would do anything to protect and help him. It's very humbling, being a mum. A huge responsibility. And we all make mistakes.
Anyway, I asked my son what he thought of me. He was pretty chilled out and said I was a 9. Could that have been because I'd just done all his washing and ironing and cooked a really brilliant roast dinner? Or am I being cynical?
I just thank God for him - that his life was the most unexpected and happy surprise in my life. What a precious gift.
2007-08-26 06:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more I irritate my kids, the more I know that I am being a good parent. I am not and won't be my kids best friends while I am raising them. There are a lot of things I do and make them do, such as clean their room, and go to church, and help me with chores. But, on the other hand, I also give them unconditional love, and forgive them for all the things they do that aren't correct. I know my kids love me. I don't need my kids approval to know that being a parent is a tough job and sometimes life isn't fair. I am sure I irritate my kids, as much as they irritate me. It will never cause the love I have for them to go away because of this.
2007-08-26 03:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by SDC 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, of course I embarrass my teenage daughter...that's my job. Don't know if I irritate her or not. The only way to find out would be to ask her right now, but she's on her lap-top. Now that would be a major irritation. Did that and I'd be lucky to score a 0.5
2007-08-26 10:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, being a parent is not trying primarily to be friends. It is directing their behavior to prepare them for life. Tell your 22 year old son to get a place of his own and watch football uninterrupted.
2007-08-26 03:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jim B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids alway rate me highly for being a non-conventional pop.
Just like them I'm into Lamb of God, Pantheras & the lot. I never bothered them, and they're always asking me why I'm such a maverick dad.
Freedom & liberty can only prevail when religion doesn't get in the way.
2007-08-26 03:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Youre only pleased cos you got a 9 out of 10.
If you hadnt you'd have kept quiet.!!
Me, Im sure all my kids are irritated to distraction with me. Its pay back time, they drove me crazy when they were little! I still lu vem tho
2007-08-26 03:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by Summer Rain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While I, we my late husband and self, were paying the bills,clothing, food, university, cars, we were 'the boss.'
Now they are over 30, and they reckon we did a great job.
I wouldn't have asked them at 16 -25 though! You are very brave.
2007-08-26 03:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I irritate my daughter but we have learned to just avoid each other when either one of us is in a bad mood...she is a woman now and sometimes more mature than I am!
2007-08-26 03:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Irritating your children is a parents right of passage! we are a comedy based family, and my children never know what I am going to say next....Keeps them on their toes! LOL
P.S. I have boys
2007-08-26 05:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋