I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 5 months. He has been really great about wanting to spend time with me. We live about an hour away from each other and he said the distance doesn't bother him. In the begining he used to call me every day or text message me. Now, i am lucky to hear from him 3 times a week. I understand being busy and work getting in the way but a 5 second phone call isnt asking too much is it? Now this past weekend i was supposed to go to his house. He calls me 10 minutes before i was going to pull into his driveway and said that he got bad news from home and that he didnt think he would be very good company. But a girlfriend and i went to another one of our friends houses that lives in the same town as him. When i swung by to see how he was doing he wasnt home. He wasnt at work either. When we swung by again at 3:30 in the morning he still wasnt there! I need to know if i am flipping out for no reason or do you think maybe he was with someone else?
2007-08-26 02:55:01 · 5 answers · asked by lopezjri 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is the first time he has ever cancelled plans with me. he has never before given me any reason to doubt. i really want this to work with him nothing else has ever come up like this before. am i freaking out for no reason? should i ask him where he was? or should i let it go and move on in our relationship?
2007-08-26 03:02:01 · update #1
his family lives in another country
2007-08-26 03:04:46 · update #2
i dont want to mess this up
2007-08-26 04:09:37 · update #3
Don't matter what we "THINK" Look at the evidence !! Consider yourself lucky and stop being his doormat plaything. He either doesn't have time for you or you ain't that important. WHAT ELSE NEEDS TO BE SAID ??
Good Luck to you...
2007-08-26 03:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I want you to confront him and see where he was. There is no way he should have ditched you like he did and then not even be at home ALL NIGHT!. I've had alot of experience and helped alot of people with things like this and the odds are not good as to what he was doing. Generally he was doing somethign he didnt want you to know about. Why would he not be home at 3:30 in the morning, unless it was sick family related and is a possibility. If he was out all night partying or something, with the added info you gave, i'd probably assume its safe to get ready for a rough road ahead. If he was somewhere with family or something i'd probably let it get by this time. But remember hes a male. males dont do well with long distance relationships like females can because males need so much more Affectionate attention. make up your own mind where to go from here, but there are the facts. Email me if you need any other advice.
-Will
2007-08-26 10:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by William 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no rights to be checking up or trying to spy on this guy. If he's not interested in seeing you, being with you or calling you, that's his choice. You're not married to this guy so he doesn't owe you any explanation. Apparently he's tired of you. You don't have a relationship with someone just because they went out with you. If he's not interested in being with you any longer you have to accept that truth. I think you're too controlling and clingy for this guy. What part of that don't you get? It's time to move on. He's not a bad guy, you're just NOT the girl for him.
2007-08-26 10:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might have gone to his family (i.e. "home") if there was a crisis there. I wouldn't jump to conclusions before having talked with him. If he has no good "story", though, the pattern of reduced contacts over the last few weeks might indicate that he has somehow lost interest. At least he should be upfront about it, though.
2007-08-26 10:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a certainty that he is seeing someone else. You are too beautiful to put up with this kind of s#$!
2007-08-26 10:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋