well i met a great girl but she has a three year old son he drives me nuts i hate to say it but when he is with the fater i like being with my girlfriend but when he comes home its a nightmare i am torn between staying with this girl or leaving i really love her just dont like the kid because when i look at him i see his father in him wich he is a complete jerk what should i do?
2007-08-26 02:53:24 · 18 answers · asked by Mike R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then you are not ready to be with a woman who has a child. Let her go and stop waisting her time. Then grow up and learn how to spell correctly so that if you do ever have a child, you can teach him/her how to spell.
2007-08-26 02:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Okay, this is a hard question to answer because I really have to put myself in your shoes. I think you should spend some time with the son. Maybe go to a fair. Or go play a game of minigolf? Spend some time with him and maybe you to could grow to like eachother.
At his age he is probly [sorry I cant really spell] scared that his mother is dating people. And it wants his father. Even if he might have never met him, every child wants there 2 real parents.
Why dont you have a "movie night" with him. Go to the video store and rent one movie that HE wants. Then go home and pop some popcorn and stop at a CVS and get 1 or 2 little boxes of candy. Then have fun at home! Maybe watch the video and play a bored game? He will stop being so annoying to you if you take the time to love him.
2007-08-26 03:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are in a relationship you must consider all that is in front of you, when dating and find love and they have a child you must love their child as much or you don't love that person. You have to understand that what if you had a child and, wanted the same respect how would you feel if you were not happy with their child and didn't want to bother with them? Be honest with yourself and look beyond the child's face and who they resemble because the kid is not going any where but home with their mother.
2007-08-26 03:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by gordgato 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop judging the father. The child just manifests a representation of a past you obviously can not get over.
If you love a woman you love ALL of her and that includes any extension of her, such as a child.
If she does not leave you alone knowing how you feel about her child, I'd say you two deserve each other and the child should move in with dad.
2007-08-26 03:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by isras 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens a lot. The child is the center of the birth parents attention but not to yours. I would either accept and support the little guy or politely back out of the relationship. She will eventually understand. I have had the same things happen to me as well.
2007-08-26 03:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you shoud straddle yourself with another persons burden. I am not a fan of children and would not want to see someone who had a child. But you can't hate the child because he looks like the Dad.
I think you should find someone without a child. Nothing can make you like this child, and you can't make her choose between you and the child because you will lose (if she's a proper mother).
2007-08-26 03:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by Secret Cola Ninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this one....if you can't stand the kid now, it's only going to get worse. And if you can't love her son you're not really doing her any favors. If her son lives with here and you continue with the relationship you'll be in h*ll every other weekend, every other holiday, 1/2 the summer, etc.
2007-08-26 02:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by sam1230 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The boy should not be blamed for the fathers mistakes. Sorry, but you are acting more like the child than all of you. Be an adult and give that child the love he deserves. He is innocent in all this. Think of how you would want to be treated if you were that young again.
2007-08-26 02:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's very much a package deal. I don't date girls with kids because, what if I hit it off with both of them? Ready made family and you are stuck dealing with the ex all the time.
If you hate the kid, move on. It isn't going to work.
2007-08-26 03:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not the childs fault who his dad is...thats not fare...if you did decide to stay with her and spend alot of time with the child and play an active role in his life...he would more likely to show trates of you in him...therefore wont end up being a jerk like his dad...give the poor kid a chance...hes also your girlfriends child..who you say you love so why dont you look for the posative in the kids and look for signs of his mother in him instead...there must be some.
2007-08-26 03:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are seriously and passionately in love with your girlfriend, you will accept her son and treat him like your own. The child is innocent, his dad mayb a jerk but give them a chance. If your love is real, you & your girlfriend will pull through together. Good luck! =)
2007-08-26 02:59:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋