Why do people feel compelled to have kids?

Question

It seems to me that a LOT of people these days are one or more of the following: fat, stupid, ugly, stinky, stuck-up, crazy, pschotic, depressed, slutty, egotistical, self-centered, hateful, caustic, unfaithful, unkind, uncaring, unwilling, emotional basket cases, and/or damaged goods...

yet a lot of people still want to have them and THINK(wrongfully so...) that they will be good parents...

but after everything is said and done they will likely raise kids that are just as stupid, ugly, and unworthy but yet will be spoiled like they are something special

why is that???

Answer 1

It's partly instinctual. But we also like to think that a part of ourselves will live on after we die. It adds a little of that "point to life" that you asked about earlier. And most kids do grow up to be decent people.

I don't really know what your definition of ugly or unworthy is, but I suspect that you're a bit more generous with the term than I am.

Answer 2

I agree the world has gone insane, especially the US. Every day on the news we see a new psychotic event has happened, some father has gone crazy and blown away his entire family, then himself, or a young girl has been kidnapped, tourtured, and then killed. It's really maddening, depressing, and pathetic.

However, this is not a new phenomenon, this has been happening since the dawn of time. This is a longstanding, horrifying genocide that innocent children have been subjected to. Only with the advances in culture, intelligence and technology are children becoming better protected from the insanity of a parent who is violent towards them.

The question as to why these type of people feel compelled to procreate is a simple matter of self-awareness. You see, because many personality and family oriented dysfunctions are passed down from generation to generation, the next generation is not aware of their own dysfunction. It's usually percieved by them as normal, because it has always been that way since their own infancy. The song Down With The Sickness by Disturbed sums up this anomalie (especially the unedited version).

The ability to analyze your own normalcy is very rare in a person who is self-centered, and in the US, self-centered adults are the norm. These people have no idea they behaving outside of what clinical psychologists know to be normal.

You would think that having children would bring people to a realization of maturity and responsibility, but with some people this doesn't happen.

Many parents fail to educate themselves on parenting, which involves child psychology, and also self analysis. Maybe they just don't know that they need to change. I think the root of this problem is pride, so the child is the one who has to suffer.

I think the most evil crime someone can commit is against an innocent, helpless child that is unable to defend itself, and a punishment of death is sometimes too good for slime that do this type of thing.

Answer 3

Not all of us want children- I wouldn't put a baby into the world we have to live in today, and I sure wouldn't want my child to have to grow up with people who have attitudes like yours. Fat and ugly are very hi up on your "parental no-no's list", and those are two qualities that don't make you a bad parent...
Stuck-up and egotistical are not far down the list either, therefore, I truly hope you have decided against having children also.

Answer 4

Have you asked this to your parents or other parents for that matter?

Try asking this in the Family and Relationships Category, you'll get better opinions there I assure you.

P.S.
There are many people like what you've said I'm sure. But when I meet those who aren't, I treasure whatever bond I can make with them.

Answer 5

It's a sad sad thing. And imagine what it's like if you're relatively intelligent and decent, to try to raise your kid normally along-side these little, wicked, basket case, rug-rats. Luckily. my seven year old steers clear of the creepy-crazies and already understands that we have to pick and choose carefully, who we "play" with.

I just about died the other day reading a post about someone's 7 yr old having tantrums at the walmart. I have in depth discussions with mine about movies, books, careers, science, technology....I mean, a 7 yr old is just a little person to be reasoned with and communicating on a very high level. The lady who posted was asking if she could beat on her kid to shut him up...WTF???

Answer 6

My you show such an amazing amount of love for your fellow human being. Perhaps before pointing fingers at anyone else you should look in the mirror first because on that list I can think of a few that your question and attitude fall into.

Answer 7

i think undesirable on your babies then. i don't sense compelled to purchase my toddler presents, i desire to purchase him presents. He merits them, he's a sturdy toddler and that i like him. I take excitement in seeing his face christmas morning and whilst he opens his presents and that i take excitement in seeing his excitment whilst he performs along with his presents or reads his books. i do no longer purchase exceive quantities, i attempt to adhere to ten presents, he gets a lot sufficient from his family members. and that i do no longer spend a depraved volume of money. This 12 months he have been given 2 wood practice instruments, approximately 5 books on trains and a pair Thomas wood trains. different than that he quite don't have something. we are additionally christian and we rejoice christmas, part of it somewhat is giving and being grateful. you would be unable to truly be grateful in the adventure that your in no way given something. young ones could desire to be young ones, I hate whilst paretns attempt to take a early existence far off from them.

Answer 8

I do agree with you, partially. I've seen it myself. On the other hand, there also are a lot of good loving parents out there. Take the good with the bad.

Answer 9

its not so much lets have kids but more of lets make love. then there are times when they are not careful since as you said, they are stupid, so WOW out pops a kid. and since they are uneducated they dont know how to raise it correctly and they end up raising another stupid person to add to the world and the cycle continues and grows larger everytime. the world is doomed

Answer 10

haha I like how people are judging and also saying not to be judgemental. I
see what you mean, but there are other people who aren't trashy.
I would love to pass on my genes, my heritage, my blood

but also I really want to adopt, like I was adopted.

so many children need a home already

some people should be neutered/spayed