I had a baby when i was 18 and was pretty confident in myself up until i got stretchmarks on my breasts, my stomach, my hips, my thighs, and my butt.I am not big at all. I work out and would be happy with my body if i didn't have stretch marks. Now i get very depressed when i see myself. although they have faded and aren't too bad, I am afraid to date because I'm afraid a guy will see them and be totally turned off. It's taking over my life. I want to know if guys care about stretch marks and how big of a deal they are.
2007-08-26 02:07:29 · 21 answers · asked by amandacb0406 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The right guy will not care about stretch marks. You had a baby and stretch marks comes with the territory. No one is perfect. Guys get stretch marks too (& they dont even have babies.) Be happy with your body despite the stretch marks.
2007-08-26 02:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
From a mans point of view, If the man cares for you the stretch Marks will not matter at all!! I understand how you feel though, makes you not want to wear a bathing suite, or wear a low cut blouse.
The person that said to use coco butter was on the right track, however you should make sure it is 100% pure coco butter with NO additives; That works the best and fastest.
My girlfriend had stretch marks on her stomich and brests for more than 20 years when I met her,(and like you she works out almost every day and keeps her body in good shape) Every night after she got out of the shower I would rub pure coco butter on all her stretch marks and message it in real good, after two month her marks were almost completely gone. If they (stretch marks ) bother you try the coco butter, it will work!
But bottom line, if a man dosent accept you with your stretch marks, you dont need him anyway!!!! Hope this helped....
2007-08-26 09:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by tobecherokee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, only the insignificant shallow boys who are too used to reading Playboy and watching Page3.
When you find that special man, somewhere along the line you'll need to casually drop the hints that you have a child and you can also include your stretch marks. Then you'll find out who the shallow ones are.
Don't mistake surprise for being turned off, though. In fact, real men appreciate a full-grown woman - meaning one who is real and not starched onto a magazine cover.
Good Luck
2007-08-26 09:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are at an age when many people are very superficial. Most older men will recognize stretch marks for what they are and say nothing more about it. They are a somewhat unavoidable by-product of having a child. Those that do say something negative have no business being around you or your child.
My advice is to date slightly older men. 25 + because they will be more mature about things of this nature.
2007-08-26 09:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by fyrecrowe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 22, closing in on 23 and I've gained a lot of height and weight since junior high school, and I didn't even grow that fast! I've got TONS of stretch marks in the same places you've mentioned. Any boyfriend that has seen them hasn't mentioned them, but when I got self-conscious about them and asked my current boyfriend he said he didn't care about them at ALL. He knows that I'd worry about it and his comment would be dismissed because my self-counsciousness would take over. He said that he loves me, and that includes the fat around my stomach and the stretch marks and weird stuff like odd, ingrown hairs, blemishes, and stinky sweat.
To put it less grossly, the guy that really loves you will not care and most ADULT guys do not care about your stretch marks. They care about you and not necessarily how hot you are to anyone else...just how amazing and attractive you are to them.
2007-08-26 09:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by PseudoSlySpyderGuyLied 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Younger guys maybe, but not really a bunch. Mature men won't even notice it. They've seen it too many times. It's really something that can be easily overlooked and you should really find something better to worry about.
If you are physically fit with no flabs, those stretch marks are meaningless.
2007-08-26 11:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by darmonx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really not a big deal to me. If you have a kicking body you should be proud of it. You had a kid and you still like you body, as you should, be you worked hard for it. Some shallow guys will say yes and be turned off by it or by the fact that you have a kid, but its not that big of a deal. Well i could go on and on about i i love the female form but ill leave you with that.
2007-08-26 09:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by trueblueeyedguy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stretch marks and scars can be removed by massaging cocoa butter, shea butter, Vitamin E oil or taking Vitamin E capsules. More home remedies are listed at
http://www.wellnesstalk.org/stretchmarks.html
2007-08-28 09:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a particular girl once. She was 19 when I first met her. By one means or another I found that she had these stretch marks over various parts of her body.
I, as subtle as a kick in the nuts, tried to gleen from her the reason. She gave me no answers but I later learnt from another source(quite by accident) that she'd had a baby & adopted it out some months before I met her.
I took off like a rocket & have always been wary of 'single' girls with stretch marks ever since.
2007-08-26 09:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
No lol, most girls get stretch marks during puberty on their hips, thighs, and breasts...almost everyone that I've asked has them. They fade to white to the point they're almost unnoticable. I have them , the only place you mentioned i dont have them is on my stomach and butt, butt boobs, thighs, hips...yeah.
A tip for covering them is applying self tanner, they change the colour of them slightly to blend in with the rest of your skin!
2007-08-26 09:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋