2007-08-26 01:10:00 · 23 answers · asked by selenafanalways 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I took care of my dad till the end. My siblings never wanted anything to do with him accept when it came to borrowing money thanks for the help
2007-08-26 01:29:55 · update #1
I am so aorry about your loss! I know what it feels like, I am sure alot of people here feel the same. But if your father left you as beneficiary, then there is a raeson. perhaps he trusted you more. Carry out his wishes and do the right thing,.
2007-08-26 01:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the beneficiary of your father's insurance, then you own that money, not your siblings. He may have meant for you to distribute it equally, but even if he did, you are under no obligation to do so. I cannot say why he did this. He may have felt he had a better relationship with you than with your siblings. He may have made a mistake. He may have figured you'd distribute it among everyone and forgot to mention it (although this is a bad idea even if he had mentioned it).
If your dad has other assets and there is a probate going on, you may have to have the estate lawyer explain this to everyone.
2007-08-26 08:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His contact was with you. The siblings are young enough to earn their own money. You can carry on his wishes and lend them money if they really need it and if you want to see them often. However the money is yours to enjoy or to invest so have fun and be happy as this is what he meant it for. If there is any bad feelings between the siblings ask for advice or have a discussion but better still take a holiday you've earned it and he would have wanted you to. Sometimes siblings can be too demanding and as a parent you do not see the problems clearly.
2007-08-26 09:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by njss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sincerely sorry for your loss. It seems that you and your dad were really close seeing as how you took care of him until the end.
He left you beneficiary of his insurance because you were the one who was dedicated to him, unlike your siblings. It was his wish for you to have the beneficiary because you deserve it more than your siblings.
2007-09-02 11:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by infinite vortex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he wanted you to get all of his insurance money. I would take it and not say a word to your siblings, or even think about giving them any of the money. Take the money put it in the bank, start shopping for investors and buy yourself something pretty. You deserve it.
2007-08-26 09:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by MISSY E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just what it says. Your father appreciates the time you took with him and all that you did for him. I wouldn't worry about your siblings. They can hate all they want.
If you want to share any money with them, that would be up to you. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty because of it.
-Sorry for your loss & God Bless.
2007-08-30 22:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume all of you are over 18?
If that's the case and dad left everything to U, then it's yours. If he left you executrix, then U are responsible to divide his stuff the best U can. You can talk to an estate lawyer and they can give you the laws for your state.
Good Luck!
2007-09-02 23:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are several possibilities, the one i think would be the best is , mabey he felt that you were the only one responsible enough to best use this, and to care for his estate, mabey the others are not mature enough, or would do the right thing. But, i would not worry over this, i would see it for what it really is, ........his way of saying , how proud he is of you. Sorry for your loss.
2007-08-26 08:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by anthony p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, THESE PEOPLE ARE WRONG. If he had left you as the EXECUTOR of his estate, he would want you to distribute his assets as his will directed. HE KNEW WHAT HE WAS DOING. HE made you BENEFICIARY - that means he knew that you were there for him when he needed it, and they were not, and he wanted to reward you by leaving you the money. ACCEPT IT GRACIOUSLY AND WITHOUT REGRET. IT IS YOURS AND EARNED.
2007-08-26 08:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was tired of giving them money and never getting anything in return. You took care of him and he wanted you too be taken care of after he was gone. My grandfather is in the same position with his two children.
2007-08-31 20:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Tina S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋