Christians, how do you deal with constant feelings of remorse and regret?

Question

How did you learn to forgive yourself? I'm a new Christian and going through a rough time, and would appreciate some good advice. :)

Answer 1

I, for one, do not have a feelings of remorse or regret because whatever worst or worse I have done I feel His comfort when I call on him. Always remember His promise: "FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVETH HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOEVER BELIEVE IN HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAS AN EVERLASTING LIFE." Talk to Him constantly, you're a Christhian as you said, and it requires a Christian (God's Children) to talk to Him constantly and conspicuously everytime His children are in trouble. No matter how odd the going, you must keep your feet standing. If you honor Him as your Father, donot fail him by just keeping yourself into a corner. Tell Him what bothers you, what's hurting you. You forgot to call and you forgot to ask, dont you?

Answer 2

I am not sure what you are talking about. Why would you have feelings of remorse and regret?

Since you are a new Christian shouldn't you be overjoyed that you finally have turned around, are producing fruits of repentance and have left dead works behind.

If you are suffering effects of a previous un-Christian life, be happy that though these may be painful, that there will come a time when these also will be done away with, if not in the present system of things, then in the one to come.

Here is a page on Christian good works:
http://bythebible.page.tl/Christian-Good-Works.htm

Paul's letter to Romans might cheer you up tremendously. Try reading chapters six, seven and eight.

Answer 3

Well Im not Christian, so I dont know if this answer will appeal to you, but Ill offer my suggestion anyway.

I think the underlying emotion your experiencing is shame and I went through most of my life experiencing this. What I found was that it was my own beliefs about myself that caused this. Some of these beliefs were subconscious so it took time to uncover them. I got most of my insight from reading books. I found that once I was able to put a name to these beliefs and understand where they came from, the awareness alone was enough to disolve those beliefs and the emotions connected to them. I also spent a couple of years going to a counselor and found that was helpful too.

There is rarely any valid reason to feel constant shame and remorse, unless youve caused severe hurt to someone or murdered someone. Still, making sense of who you are and what motivates you to feel the way you do is the key to being released from it. You are worthy of acceptance.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Once you except Jesus into your life, he forgives you of all you sins, however Satan knows our weakness and he will keep bringing up your past to make you feel unworthy, that is one way he messes with you, he brings up guilt trips on you.
But know this, God is truth and he said all is forgiven he forgives us as we forgive others, that is why it is important to have a forgiving heart and we are his children his love for us is unconditional- that means no matter what we have done is forgiven, and yes we are just human God knows we will stumble on the way but he is always with us and he will see us through, God will never step away from you. Don't listen to the father of lies (Satan) he don't mess with people he already has there is no reason to but as you get closer to God he does mess with you because he don't have you no more. Guilt from things in the past is just another lie, God forgave you of that and you are no longer that person. When God says's he sets you free, he dose just that, you are free of everything you have done. Trust him, he is the truth, he can not lie to you.

Answer 6

I'm a Christian Preacher and I still face those same issues from time to time. It is normal.
Some of those in church will tell you it is Satan reminding you of your past, you should remind him of his future.
But in truth you are growing as a Christian and realizing the things you have done in the past is part of that process.
I assure you that all confessed sin is forgiven and forgotten.
I assure you that God loves you.
When those feelings come upon me I sing a song of praise, offer up a prayer, or discuss those feelings with those friends and confidants that God has given me.
God Bless

Answer 7

I don't know I never have had this problem.
Just pray for forgiveness and strive not to make the same mistakes. There's no need to dwell on the past which you can not change just the future which you can.
Remember the truth will set you free so enjoy the freedom

Answer 8

Take self responsibility for the actions that give you these emotions and stop looking for an easy way out. I am an atheist and don't do anything that would make me feel this way. So either you are unethical and feel guilt and should accept you are responsible to change your OWN behaviour or you feel guilty about things that are not unethical (eg doubt, blasphemy etc) and it is the religion that is making you feel these things. Either way, religion is not the answer to wiping your slate clean - YOU are.

Answer 9

Regardless of your religious beliefs, dealing with feelings of remorse is no easy task. The best thing you can do is to force yourself to rise above them and keep going. Keep in mind that these kind of feelings fade and disappear completely with time and the right attitude. Keep going with your life, don't get tied down by negative emotions.

Answer 10

Think of your fall as an opportunity to get up and walk. Try to understand the concept of grace. It is life-changing. Here are some good studies you could go through to help you understand just how much we have in Christ. http://www.xenos.org/teachings/nt/romans/dennis/index.htm
Go directly to Romans 5, 6, 7 and 8.

God bless you,

jack