plz answer this question i really need some advice now before i just drop out of school!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

i really want to go online and finish my 11th and12th grade years online but my parents don't want me to b/c they say that i need to socialize but i already have a boyfriend and we r goin to get married and don't say o you don't know that cuz i do we both have it all planned and everything and i love him very much. but i just want to go ahead and finish so i can go to college(i could "socilize there) and get my RN and start workin. how can i convince them to let me go online i have already asked them 3 times and i have even cried not on purpose though.i told them everything and they still say no you need to soclize and have memories(i think it's cuz my dad never went to prom and he wants me to go, so i can have that memory but i did go to a pre prom n 8t grade). but anywhoo i really wanna do this and i would do anything to do it(i even told em dat) so plz help and tell me what you think i should do??

Answer 1

Socializing isn't even the problem. You can't possibly learn as much online as you could in a classroom with interactive discussion. Just because you want to do it doesn't mean that it is a good idea, and your parents have your best interests in mind. This is why they don't let you do a GED instead of high school; it really doesn't provide the same educational experience. I can't imagine why spending two years studying online would be preferable to spending two years in school, and if what you have in mind is doing it faster, then you are undervaluing the process of education, which is not just quickly rushing through some facts online.

I don't know why your parents are saying what they are, but it is obvious to me that you are trying to rush into a lot of things for which you are not ready. Your attitude toward school sounds very young, even for your age, and so you probably aren't ready for college yet. The same is true of the way you sound about your relationship with your boyfriend; you sound like the average 13 year old, not someone in 11th grade. Your parents may be terrified that if you were to graduate from high school, you would consider yourself old enough to get married, and you would probably spend the next 10 years at least trying to put your life back together again after that disaster failed. I'm not saying he might not be a very nice guy, but having planned it and loving him doesn't mean that you are ready, and you are about 10 years away from being mature enough for a lasting marriage.

Frankly, what you need to do right now is to respect the fact that your parents know you and know the options, and wait until you are eighteen to make your own educational choices.

Answer 2

That is a problem... If you've asked your parents that many times and they've said no, they obviously aren't going to give in any time soon. But even so, they're your parents and no matter how much you may not like it, you have to listen to them. They actually do have a really good point though. I'm in seventh grade, and I've been home schooled since last year. Already it's hard for me to get back into social situations comfortably. But if you really do want to go that badly, maybe you should just have a talk with your parents, and tell them why you want to go (let them have their turn to tell you why they don't want you to go as well). After wards, you'll probably either, 1. Realize that your parents actually DO have a good reason for saying no and accept that, or 2. they'll see how badly you want to go, and if you have a good enough reason why, they might finally say yes. Just be careful though because sometimes if they've told you "no" to something enough times and you keep asking anyway, they'll be even less likely to say yes. So just try to show them how mature you really are, that you still can socialize even if you go on line, and that you're ready to.

Answer 3

you must first think of the reason you want to do homeschooling of any kind,like me i wanted to do this because the high school i would be going to and it literally had teens in the school who sold drugs shot up peoples homes and stuff and my mom and i, thought it would be a good idea if i did homeschooling so we can get the hell outta this place where we live...

if that is the kind of "socilizing these poeple wanted me to do and if i had listened to all of them i would possible be in with that crowed getting in trouble and stuff,and how cares of socilizing i say if you can talk to someone important like a guy or a girl, an employee or employer then you'll be fine in the world...

but you only have two years left it would be pointless to quite and start homechooling of any kind why not try taking that test to see if you are smart enough to get your diploma now, and please i am only 16 and i can tell you that you that even in my prespective of your life you let us read about you would be making a mistake in marring so young, remember we're just teens and we really do have some growing up to do so dont make some life changing discitions now wait tell you've got a job, home, car and can support your self without a man,then go and find a man...

cause who really knows how long your high school love will last...

but ultametly its up to you and your parents we can't tell you anything but give you advice and help in some cases...

Just stay two more years to go and you've already gone through the worst or high school the last two years you practicly rule the school
(and sorry for any messpelled words i am in a hurry)

Answer 4

Even if you were to do online, it doesn't mean you'd finish high school any faster. It's doubtful that you'll get them to change their minds at this point, especially since it's only 2 years left of school. Doing online, even if you work hard, you would be able to knock of 1 year maximum, but most students would probably only be able to knock off 1 semester with extra effort. Given you're expected to live another 60 years, taking off 6-12 months from your high school time is not that much. (And if you aren't able to see that, it means you are so emotional about this you aren't thinking rationally.)

If you really want to speed things up a bit, talk to the school counsellor. There may be a way for you to take some correspondence classes, do independent study (on top of your regular classes) for credits, and/or there may be some weekend and evening high school classes available. There's also summer school next year. If you don't already have a full schedule, make sure you have a full schedule.

Another alternative to is to do the regular schedule and fill your extra-curricular time with activities which will give you experience useful for admission to college and your future career.

Answer 5

Don't drop out, even if you do go online. I know somebody who said they were going to get married to there boyfriend in high school and they had it all planned and everything was great until they went to college and then everything broke away because they went to different colleges. Stay in school cuz I can tell you your senior year in high school will be the best because you get a letter jacket, get to go to all the fun parties, and rule the school. You will not want to miss out on that.
Hope I Helped!

Answer 6

My goodness, there are so many questions wrapped up in this! The maturity level of an eleventh grade student is not that of an adult. That being said, you have your life planned out and know what you want so I won't tell you that you are making a mistake. However, before you quit school, you need to look at all your options very carefully. Public high school is not for everyone. Consider all the children who are homeschooled. But you need to consider your reasons for dropping out. In your question you say your parents don't want you to drop our because of the socialization factor. Socialization is important, but your education is even more so. More colleges are open now to alternative educations such as virtual academies and homeschooling. You must be able to pass the placement tests with good standing, can you do that? If not then you need to consider what you need to learn to be able to.
Our local public high school offers tech classes to junior and senior students. One of those course packages is in healthcare. Taking this course puts you a step ahead when entering the nursing field. We also have ties to the local community college where high school students can take college courses during their junior and senior years to allow them to shorten their needed college time and graduate sooner.
These are just some of the options available. Do you know why you really want to drop out? Because I am not reading the reasons in your question, just the need to jump into your future.
Before you make this decision, talk to your parents about the reasons. If you take the time to research all your options, and then sit down and talk it out, you will have a much better grasp on what to do with your future. You will have a better relationship with your parents if you approach this with a mature outlook and handle it with facts than if you let the "I want" emotions lead you into a rash decision and possibly a mistake.
And for the record, I have three teenagers. 14, 15, and 17 years old. My oldest dropped out and is home schooled. The other two attend our local high school. We have looked at all these questions and made the decision based on what each of our children needed and wanted. Our oldest is very accelerated and public school couldn't give him what he needed to learn. So I am not just blowing hot air at you, I have already gone through this path.
Take the time to talk and really listen to your parents. They will hear what you have to say, but you need to hear what they say as well. This is a major step, don't rush into it unprepared.

Answer 7

dont drop out, i did, and there has not been a day that goes by, that i dont regret dropping out, i never invited to to the high school reunions even though i dropped out of 12th grade, i never got to go to the prom, i never will know what it feels like to receive a diploma in a formal ceremony.
i never got a graduation party, or gifts of money to start off my
future life. take the 2 years and enjoy them, go to your prom,
make the best of these years, u can never get them back, you
can always be a nurse and make money, im one now, but i would still love to go back finish high school and most of all enjoy that last year. i would love to see my old friends. pre prom is nothing like your high school prom.
finishing high school and not online is an achievement, my daughter hates her online diploma, no doors opened, no scholarship, no variety information from guidance counselors of opportunities of colleges, and still making min wage. my other daughter finished high school with diploma, went to prom, makes excellent money while attending business college. enjoying life. be smart dont drop out.

Answer 8

You have some great answers here. My advice is to read the answers which are long and thought out. These people know what they are talking about and have given you a lot to think about. I know for a fact that people change--they change throughout their whole life--but one of the biggest changing times is between 16-21. I know you feel like you know a whole lot and you love him like crazy and he loves you and you have your whole life planned out. Please don't do that. Like someone else said, if he loves you, he will understand that you need time and space to continue to grow into a mature adult. Think, think, think. Don't rush into anything and don't drop out of school. There are so many things that you will miss during that senior year.

Answer 9

You need to do research before approaching your parents again. Read some pro-homeschooling books to prepare intellectual, defensible, logical arguments. Your plan is a huge jump from what our society considers normal and is going to require a lot of patience, maturity, $$$, and a lot of EXTRA work!

The issue of socialization is really poorly handled in most schools. In life you need to work with lots of people -- different ages, different abilities, different personalities, etc. Schools and the groups within them tend to be very similar in terms of age and interest. Individual schooling really encourages strong development of your abilities and your problem solving skills, which makes you a very strong team player.

However, individual schooling is VERY LONELY. You won't be able to talk to your friends about school work, school activities, etc. Also, you're going to end up missing out on lots of little things with friends (shopping trips, parties, activities, etc) because these are usually planned and done during school hours or immediately afterwards.

Schools are very inefficient at teaching. You will be able to study and learn more individually than you could in school. And you will be able to study deeply the subjects that you care the most about which will be very helpful, especially in your chosen field of nursing.

But you won't be able to ask for much help or receive in-person instruction or guidance. You will receive little feedback, and very little encouragement.

You will have to do a lot of extra work to get into college by preparing a portfolio and taking extra achievement tests and being strong enough to take a lot of rejection in the process. And you'll need to find your own extra-curricular activities to supplement your formal school work.

Online schooling can be very expensive and is not covered by many scholarships nor can you use any college funding sources. If you opt to put together your own curriculum it can get very expensive also. You'll need books, workbooks, language lessons, science labs and equipment, computer and related equipment, printer ink and paper, etc etc etc.

At this point, without full support and with only 2 years to go (the busiest, most difficult years of your academic career) I think you need to be patient with your parents (they do love you ya know), and settle in at high school and finish with a full diploma and work hard to make a good transition into college and nursing.

And open your eyes!! Start looking for ways to make things work for your future... For example
Have you considered looking at a community college to see if you can begin taking 1-2 college courses now or receive credit for your high school courses? AP courses are a great way to jump start your way into college credit too.

What about trying for a nursing internship or volunteer work? (It looks awesome on college applications and may get your foot in the door for a job or a scholarship in the future.)

How about taking a few early runs at the ACT and SAT exams and work your score way, way up? It makes a lot of admissions people look twice to see very good test scores.

Answer 10

well i have to say this. STAY in school. two years is a long time of taking internet courses that are expensive when you could just have a free education. if you are taking course online than when will you spend time with your friends. school is a time for socializing. you get to learn and spend time with friends. you would probably get very bored with out them to talk to.