Is it really a problem to find a good-looking girl? Are they in short supply or something? Women pls help!!?

Question

I have been seeing this almost everywhere I have been. Be it colleges, offices, shopping malls...

You always have guys surrounding these beautiful girls. There is so much competition. I don't know why? Though I do not have a girlfriend, I would like to have one soon. I would prefer someone good-looking myself but I can't see myself running after these pretty faces like other guys do...

Am I asking too much from my life if I said that I want a good-looking wife/girlfriend? Can any cute girl get attracted to me for what I am, even if i do not run after her with flowers and chocolates. Is there no reward for being a nice young man? Or should I again have to believe in that same old saying that "Marriages are made in heaven".

I hope I am not looking very desperate.

Answer 1

First of all, what I am about to say does not apply to all girls who are really good looking.
Personally, I would consider myself as being average looking - the girl next door type, I guess. Far from 'ugly', but not exactly model material, either.
I have had a few friends in my life who were really stunning in the looks dept. I found them to be so very superficial in many ways, except for one who I am still good friends with to this day. The others though, carried themselves like they were Gods gift to all men, and expected to be placed upon a pedestal by any guys they happened to be dating. Of course, they had a tendency to get bored easily, and quickly dumped one guy for the next, as long as the guy met, or exceeded, their ultra high standards. They, just like you seem to be, were very interested in a mate with way above average looks. No way would they date anything less than that. Of course, a guy who had a great paying job increased the guy's chances with them. Not to mention having a nice car, fashionable clothes, all the 'right' friends, and things like that. You get the picture, I think. They were interested in things of a superficial nature. But to actually commit themselves to one guy for any period of time? Hardly. Among other things, they thrived on being drama queens. So, they would start dating Mr. Right, and would brag to all their friends about it. It didn't take long before all their friends (including myself), were getting bored with hearing all about that one, special guy because that is all they ever talked about was how great their lives were, where they went shopping, what they bought (usually for an absurd amount of money, and guess who paid for their expensive tastes in fashion so very many times? You got it, their B.O.D. (Boyfriend Of the Day)! Well after they saw thay the rest of us - the 'regular' girls were getting sick of hearing about, say, 'Charles' or whoever they were seeing at that particular moment, they realized that something had to change quickly if they were to remain the highlight of all the conversations we had. And a perfect way to become the center of attention once again? A publicly staged breakup with the guy they had been seeing, and talking all about for weeks about how everything was just sooo perfect between them. Just now though, it was time to reclaim the attention that they hasd lost over time by boring us totally with "We did this, we went there, he brought me here, he bought me this ring for $400, isn't thatso sweet?" type of stuff. So, in the midst of everyone who were known to each other, that girl would stage a breakup with her guy. And it was no normal, talk it out inside a car with the windows rolled up, and just the two of them with no one esle around. No, this usually was drama queens special night out. The breakup usually started by her very vocally - so everyone could hear everything - complaining about really petty things her huy was doing which 'bothered' her immensely. The guy was usually completely dumbfounded, naturally, and didnt have much to say in return to the girs attacks on ole Mr. Right. Well, they would simply escalate from their, and eventually and more often than not, the guy would start getting really mad, and showed it by yelling back at her. A vicious cycle has begun. After this went around a few times, each time containing more, and more drama elements thrown in for the sake of keepint itinteresting, Ms. Hot babe would eventually break down in tears at exactly the right moment. This gets Mr. Right even more pisses becuse he didn't do anything in the first place, but now he is playing the lead role in her act of drama. ANd he would get really steamed, and normally start tosay things in order to try and save his very dignity which this girl has literally torn apart in less than 10 minutes or so. So he would usually start screamung at her, she woud by that time have huge tears running down her overly made-up face, and be crying hysterically and telling the guy to get away frim her right no and dont come near me again, you lying SOB. "How could you ever treat me this way, huh, how could you" I was nothing but the best girlfriend for you, and here, you just ruined everything we had all becuse of you and how bad you treat me. This led to the sobbing girl being led away slowly by a couple of synpathetic girlfrirnds who led her away from that 'horrible' guy who had hurt Ms. Princess so very much with his wicked ways. And now, the result was like this:
Mr. Right was now alone, with his jaw dropped to the ground, still trying to figure out what just went on cause he is totally lost, nd he didnt do anything nyway, so who can blame him for being confused in the first place. Next, he finds that all his friends have either left, or are talking with others and not caring about him in any way. "He'll get over it, buy him a beer, that will work" Meanwhile, every one of Ms. Princess has left the scene along with her, and she is exactly where she wants to be once again - the complete center of attention. Mr.Right, 0. MS. Princess,10, and the obvious winner of that horrible fight against a helpless girl like her. and she still wont stop sobbing. That will take an hour or two of all her friends talking to her, and encouraging her in every way possible. Putting her back up on that pedestal.
and so it goes. The next day, all the girls, and Ms. Princess are together again to give her highness moral support which she needs so bad. See what happened? Girl finds guy, they date. Girl tells frinds how great he is. Girls get tired of hearing about it. Girl senses that she is losing her place in the social circle of friends. Girl stages a fake, but real looking breakup and publicly broadcasts it. Guy walks away scratching head, but moves on. Girl, on the other hand, now has ALL the attention of every single girl friend she has, thus she is once again the very center of attention, and that is right where she wants to be. Of course, it would be long before the other girls get bored with Princess and her complaints, "I'm jsut so lonely and depressed", or,"I need to find someone who truly appreciates someone like me That translates into "I need someone who will kiss my butt, and take all the crap I give them whenever I am in the mood, or just feel like it."So before long, the cycle starts again becuse these girls could not live without high stakes drama being part of their lives, and they are always the 'victim', "don't you feel sorry for me" type of ting?
I could go on, but I am not a good writer and I bet no one even got this far in my crappy, but true, story.
Bottom line is this. Do't pick a girl for her looks unless you are willing to pay a very hih price to have the privilage of being seen with her. And you will keep paying, and in more ways than one. And you will never win. ever. These types of girls have their acts down completely. They could win acting awards for their roles. Really!
Find a nice, normal, well adjusted girl who will like you for who you are, and whorealy wants to spend time with you. Why? Because this kind of girl will truly enjoy doing things with you, and will not spend entire evenings with you talking non-stop about her, and how great she is, ans how lucky you are to have her. Find an ordinary girl with good intentions, and good morals & values There are so very many of this type of girl out there, you just have to make the effort fofinding one, then you simply have to be yourself, and dont try to impress her. It wont work. She doesnt want that. If she truly likes you, she will want to see you, and you alone with you being yourselg 100% and not trying to put on an act.You need to be yourself with her, always. Girlscan seee right through these things, I know I can.
Ive gabbed too long now, good luck!

Answer 2

The problems start once you find one.

sorry, I know you are looking for the advice from a woman, but I thought I should drop my two cents worth.

I found a good looking girl once, I married her, not because she was beautiful, but because I loved her.

Well she knew she was good looking, and I do not have her anymore, she left me for a older guy.

Word to the wise, while it is good to be attracted to the opposite sex, please take your time in making permanent decisions, they affect your whole life, sometimes in a very negative way.

also the saying that beauty is only skin deep, is for this very same reason, and more often, the ugly girls are the keepers for sure, and no one is constantly trying to take them from you.

Simply because you are not attracted to them on the outside does not mean that you cannot have a very wonderful and healthy relationship, as often the most ugly girls have the most beautiful hearts, and would do anything for you.

Answer 3

beauty is only skin deep. if you want to have a good life look for a girl who has a beautiful heart. mostly from what i have seen really beautiful ones are very conscious of their looks and are more interested in themselves than the other person. if you are lucky you might get a good looking girl with a beautiful heart. good luck. keep trying.

Answer 4

Don't be so shallow. Beauty fades very quickly over the years. It is what is inside that matters most with people.

Answer 5

every body asking for beautiful girl as gf or as wife.What is beauty varies from person to person.some times a boy falls in love with a girl whom he will regard as a beauty,but we might find her beauty.Are all women you considerd as beautiful outside may not be a beauty from within.in biginning of married years outer beauty counts,but some beautiful women have failed marriages.The thing counts is faithfulness,sweet ,caring nature.But it depends upon persom to person.any way,first make your good career,earn good money as grounds of getting beautiful lady.

Answer 6

If u lvoe a girl then i bet u'd find her the most beautiful girl in the world.

"Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder"

try to look for more than just beauty....

Answer 7

Good looking means what?

This concept varies man to man, I do not know what you are looking for but my friend if you need girlfriend then you should prove her that you are going to be faithfull towards her for you life and will give her all the pleasure and happiness that she needs. Those guyes are not running after them they are proving this to them.

Answer 8

what and your the sexiest man in the world? be humble... when your in love you will realise you dont have to have the worlds sexiest woman... good luck... dont be shallow, be attracted to the whole package and not just the face

Answer 9

I am good looking but i am not going to even think about ddating online!or dating someone i dont kno

Answer 10

You're already in trouble if all you're going on is the way a girl looks.

Answer 11

It's not the market.It's the shopper. What makes you think your it in the first place?