Why do people always assume that a woman has to be in love to have sex??

Question

Didn't anyone think maybe she's doing it just for fun? Do you think sex is better with someone you love or someone you lust?

Answer 1

>> Why do people always assume that a woman has to be in love to have sex?? <<

THEY DON'T. If anyone does, then they have a gross misunderstanding of the vast difference between love and sex.

Sex is not "love".
Love is not sex.
Sex happens inside the bedroom.
Love happens OUTSIDE the bedroom.

Sex (or the desire to MATE) is based on the instant natural concept of ATTRACTION.

Love is the overwhelming desire to GIVE which is based on OTHER things which are EARNED OVER TIME, and is NOT necessarily based on "attraction".

While sex and love can go VERY nice together, combining and confusing them - without understanding the difference - - is when it can lead to chaos.

>> Didn't anyone think maybe she's doing it just for fun? <<

Well - LOL!! - she had BETTER be doing it "just for fun" . . .because there are ONLY TWO RIGHT REASONS to have sex . . .

PLEASURE AND REPRODUCTION.

If a woman is having (or withholding) sex for any OTHER reason . . .

• Because she thinks it's enough to earn a 'commitment'
• So that he will like her more
• So that he will call again and/or 'take her out'
• So that he will say "I love you"
• For jewlery, gifts, or money
• For more attention
• For an eventual marriage proposal

. . . . if she doesn't see the point in having sex unless there is something ELSE in it for her, then the girl is gonna eventually be disappointed . . . and/or she will not enjoy it.

ONLY A "WHORE" PROVIDES SEX WHEN (OR WITHHOLDS IT UNTIL) ANOTHER CONDITION HAS BEEN MET . . OR PAYMENT HAS BEEN MADE.

So, a woman who enjoys sex just for THE FUN OF IT, is NOT A "WHORE". . . . and a woman who does NOT have sex merely for pleasure (or reproduction) -->> IS.

Because no woman should jump into bed for SOMETHING OTHER THAN a screaming orgasm, or three. If she expects ANYTHING else and it doesn't work out the way she hoped, that's when she will try and place BLAME on the guy. . . . instead of HERSELF, for having sex for a WRONG REASON.

SEX IS BEST -->> ONLY WHEN THE REASON TO HAVE IT IS MUTUALLY UNDERSTOOD.

:)

Answer 2

I'm on the middle road with this: I think sex should be with someone you care about and who cares about you. Not necessarily love; I think in an ideal world, a girl and guy friendship would be able to endure a sexual relationship without getting weird.

Again, though, that's the ideal, not the realistic.

If and when I find a girlfriend, someone who I have a real connection with, I would absolutely go for sex. In fact, I would probably turn down a girl that was waiting until marriage, not only because I'd be sick of waiting (hell, I'm sick of waiting now) but because I don't want sex to become a reason for marriage. Marriage is just a ceremony nowadays, anyway.

After all, despite my lack of experience and utter desire, even I know sex ain't the be-all end-all of things. I want the physical intimacy more than the sex, and I think you should be able to get that from anyone who's close enough to you.

Answer 3

She is in her absolute right to do it for fun and those assuming love as must must for the sex requirement are ????

A woman is the best thing to happen to this world and man and her fun requirement is unique to her individual choice.

Sex is one of the bodies natural requirement and giving taboos to it is our problem, i think having sex gives you soul her pleasure and that pleasure keeps you on go and sex at times for lust could be all the more satisfying but sex with love is definitely a y..., yeap.

Answer 4

Yeah sometimes we do it just to do it, same as guys. But how do you feel about yourself the next day? I know it didnt make me feel good. As far as if sex is better with love or lust-depends what you are looking for. Sure when its lust it can be freakin awesome, something you think about years later still. But then when you think about it, after the sex was done-there was nothing to talk about. Sex when you're in love is more satisfying, physically as well as emotionally and to me, that makes it better.

Answer 5

It is beacuse everyone had different level of mind concept toward Art of lving and the way of life. Causing the right to be wrong and the wrong to be right confusing everyone in the pride of loving oneself and the angle toward love.

You can have sex with anyone you want but without feeling you will never enjoy of the real definitation of sex. Sex is a main role in express love and feeling toward each other. With love and feeling, it will help each other to have more faith but there are pros and cons. It like you do something without any mood...will you really enjoy it? SImple example right? take care my friend

Answer 6

hi there

sex is better with someone that you love deep in within your heart the passion makes it worth wild. but lust not in love it's just foul play unless drugs take over the emotion. sex means nothing to some people just a hit bang bye booty call. relationships now this days mean nothing it's all in for the money or bets.

Answer 7

I think women are raised beliving it is wrong to have sex, but men are raised to have sex. Kinda confusing... anyway I know there are women that do it just for fun but they are labeled as whores. Which i dont think is right. I wish there were more of these women lol.

Answer 8

When you are in love, having a fight and make-up sex is great...........but the lust sex is better.

Answer 9

women tend to get emotional and attached during sex. in fact, the ones who just do it for fun have to keep changing guys to avoid this.

we guys dont have any feelings or morals and sex is what drives us, so we tend to be more into sex for the fun.

Answer 10

I don't think you represent women. Not everyone has the same opinion as you nor do they assume women are in love when they have sex.