2007-08-25 19:17:53 · 13 answers · asked by sharad s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are going to marry and there is so much disparity, my culture, your culture, tomorrow it will be my food and your food, and the day after it will be your people told this to my people. Starting your life with divisions is not a good thing, This is not about winning or loosing, its about how much you want to celebrate your presence in this moment. its about both finding a common ground where both of you feel equal and special, denying someones past is denying a part of the person who you love. If this forms a base of your marriage find a solution to your own celebration. Happy marriage.
2007-08-26 03:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to incorporate traditions from both cultures into your wedding. I'm American and my fiance is Indian; we're planning to have a multi-cultural wedding that blends things from each culture into something unique and fun. I don't think that you should have to choose one or the other. If you do everything according to just one culture, then the family whose culture you didn't choose may be offended. If you try to blend the two cultures, then both families will feel more comfortable and appreciate your efforts.
2007-08-26 09:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean you are one culture and your girlfriend is another? In that case, you should try to follow traditions from both your cultures. If there is a language difference in your two cultures, you could even get two officiants to preform a multi-lingual ceremony.
You shouldn't choose a random third culture, unless the two of you are planning to change your whole lives aroung to suit it (like for example, you are Italian and she is Greek, but you are planning to move to Japan to live your lives together).
Or, if you can't incorporate both cultures, do a simple civil ceremony, with neither culture.
2007-08-26 02:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Every marriage involves communication and compromise. Do you have to marry by one or the others culture? Can you combine both? Can you have marriage ceremonies in both religions and celebrate both religious days? If not... can you both talk things out and work it out together? The bottom line is that it's not your decision to make and even if we were to answer you your wife has a say in things. If she doesn't agree in the choices then the marriage is doomed from the start. It is a mutual decision not decided upon easily and not taken lightly. We can't make this decision for you.
2007-08-26 02:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by mosaic 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A blend of both. It is important to have your wedding the way both of you want it. Everything has to be mutually agreed upon to have a wonderful celebration. Also ideas agreed upon by both of you will avoid you guys pointing fingers at each other if it doesn't go your way. Go on the net n find out unique ideas to make your wedding day memorable.
2007-08-26 06:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ebony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In many cross culture marriages and even here in the US... the ceremony is dictated by the Brides religion/culture.
The best answer is: Talk with your girlfriend, see what her views are. She is the one you will be married to.
2007-08-26 02:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by MJ W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to your culture but have respect for others
2007-08-26 02:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by poonaforyou_2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's best to put everything together in a 'best of both worlds' sort of way. Both of your families and their traditions deserve to be honored in some way unless there are tensions in which case it may be best to do things in the ways of your host country.
2007-08-26 18:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by ETicket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is German, and we married in the States-the country where I am from. I was going to include a lot of the things the Germans typically do for their weddings, but didn´t-hey, this wedding was in the US, and I wanted traditional US things only.
One thing that I did do, and am glad, was have the best man (who is German) read out of the Bible in Deutsch-this was for my husband´s ears, and his family, that watched our wedding live via the internet. They thought this was a nice touch.
2007-08-26 04:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Without more information it would be impossible to say. My boyfriend and I are planning on blending our religious traditions but that's about all I could even parallel for you without more details.
2007-08-26 02:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋