Hi people, i am encountering some problems with my gf about her religion, christianity. i really wish to know more about the facts that whether we can be together or nt?Cos she told me it was written in e Bible that christians and non-christians to be together.I love my gf a lot, hope u guys who are knowledgable abt these issues, provide me with some advice.Thx!!!
2007-08-25 17:54:26 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The bible does say that man and woman can not be unevenly yoked but I have seen many couples that are happy together. I think true love conquers all!
2007-08-25 18:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by DrMichael 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes they can. Whether they should be together is the question that only God can perhaps answer. A marriage might not be sanctified by a church or synagogue or mosque if both parties are not of the same basic belief. Christians usually profess a lifestyle based on their beliefs. If the nonChristian does not accept this lifestyle choice which could include anything from nonsmoking to church on Sunday, this could make for problems later on down the line. The nonChristian might become a better person as a result of their association with the Chrisitan (one would hope so); however, the nonChristian should feel comfortable and accepted among people who believe and act the way they do without feeling pressured. For this reason, relationship counselors advise that couples preferably be in agreement on their religious beliefs.
2007-08-25 18:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by reasonfaith 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Believers are not to be with non-believers. This is based on 2 Corinthians 6:14.
The only time it's acceptable is if in a marriage, one spouse converts to Christianity and the other is willing to accept that spouse's decision to be a Christian, then the two can stay together.
Read 1 Corinthians 7:10-16 to get a better understanding regarding this matter.
2007-09-02 07:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paul wrote, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?" (2 Cor. 6:14, KJV). Based on that passage, many people believe that Christians and non-Christians should not marry. Peter acknowledged the Christian woman were married to non-Christian men, and gave the following advice, "Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives." (I Peter 3:1-2) Mohammad allowed the followers of Islam to marry Christians and Jews ("people of the Book"). Problems will come up around things like attending church, commitment to Christ and church, whether the children should go to church, be baptized, etc. And the truth is a lot of churches do not treat women very well if they come to church without their own man attached, which causes the women to feel sad and rejected, and then start feeling jealous of the women who do come to church with their own man attached. I know a number of people who have worked good out marriages between Christians and non-Christians.
2007-09-02 17:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by javadic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can be with her; you're with her right now, so obviously it's physically possible. The question is whether you can be together while maintaining a true Christian relationship in God's eyes, what that really means, and whether you think that matters. There is no simple answer to this question that won't be met with great objection, but in my opinion, only a relationship between two faithful people of the opposite-sex can be a true Christian relationship according to biblical teaching. To me, this is a vital component of a marriage, but of course, I'm not the one in the relationship, and in the end, it's your call. Good luck.
2007-08-29 10:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy Johnson 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are asking if Christians can date/marry non-Christians? Well, as a Christian, we believe that no...you should not. The proper morals of a Christian girl, according to the Bible, would include no sex before marriage, for one thing.
It can be complicated for you to understand, because while it may come across as such, it is not meant to be a slam against the unbeliever.
2007-09-02 16:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a couple of things to think about.
first ..for a true christian ...God is the center of their life ...not their partner...can you deal with that?
second...no matter what you may have been taught ...or believe now ...this is the truth...Christianity and Jesus Christ are for real.
Jesus really lived ...and died on a cross ...he died a horrible death ...so that we would not have to...we are all sinners ...if you lusted ...you sinned ...if you lied ....you sinned...
if you broke a commandment ...you sinned.
God said clearly in the bible...no sinners will be allowed into heaven.
but he also said that if anyone will confess that they are a sinner ...and ask God to clean the sin from their heart and mind ...He will do it ...and anyone who believes God and does this will be acceptend into heaven when the time comes ...and will not have to suffer as Jesus did.
you will probably not notice major change immediately ...or maybe you will ...but once you say the words ...God hears them ...believe me ...he does hear.
and he will begin the process of changing your heart and your mind ...it is worth it not just for the ticket to heaven ...but because over time it will make your love for your girlfriend that much better.
God's way ...is the best way ...it says in the bible that God is love...that is his personality ...he created love ...and he wants to teach you how to love better and better...if you pass up the offer ...you miss out on a huge gift...not to mention missing the rest of eternity with the girl you love.
think about it ...all you have to say is ..God ...if you are real ...and what this guy says is real ..show me. it is simple ...but
if you say it and mean it ...you will get answers.
open your heart ...you will be amazed.
2007-08-25 18:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
the bible teaches that it's not good for a christian to get with a non christian because it will cause many problems. it doesn't mean that you will go to hell if your a christian and you marry a non christian, it just warns of the problems that will follow. especially when you have kids and one of you want them in church and the other is teaching the opposite of what they are learning in church. it will always be a fight about something. however if the 2 of you truly love each other and think that you can make it work and make some compromises, then go for it, give it a try, you'll never know for sure if you don't try. but in my honest opinion(i'm a christian) i have many strong reasons for believeing, i feel that perhaps god put this woman in your life for a reason, i think that he is calling you, and by sending you someone thats a believer, that you love so much, she can teach you, and help lead you to god. god does these things for a reason, he wants her to influence you, and show you how to start a beautiful relationship with him. she is like your angel, in human form, god uses people all the time to do his work when he wants someone to come to him. i know it will be hard for her to know in her heart that the man she loves doesn't believe and when he dies , he will go to hell instead of heaven to be with her eternally. and please, what ever your decision is about converting, don't ever try to take it away from her, it's not fair to her, let her be who she is, and let her love god...and love you too. good luck, i'll pray for you both, god bless.
2007-09-02 12:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian. I've been with a non-Christian for years. Our relationship is based on mutual respect and understanding. Some people find it difficult to be with someone who doesn't share their religious beliefs. I don't.
Often, difficulties arise in religiously "mixed" relationships when children are born, so if things start getting serious, it's best to address these issues in advance. In which belief system will the children be raised? Yours? Hers? Both? None? These issues will come up if you choose to have children.
2007-08-25 18:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by solarius 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I think it is good that you want to change yourself in a positive way for your girlfriend. I think you should talk with her about the matter if you haven't already. See what she thinks about it. I personally would be with someone that believes the same things I do and will encourage me in my relationship with God. Couples should help each other grow into better people. Maybe you should go to church with her and attend some services. I encourage you to love God and to give your life for Him. I know this may sound creepy but trust me it isn't. Also judge yourself and your love for her. Is it real love or just feelings? Are you willing to change for her? Are you willing to do anything? Even give up your life for her? This is what I believe true love consists of. I don't mean this to judge your relationship. That's not my purpose. Think about it more. Now if she starts to stray fomr God because of the relationship, then I think it should end. If I cared about someone I wouldn't want them to end up leaving God for me. That's not healthy. Now if there are problems now, the problems will most likely grow if they are because of a difference of beliefs. If in the end the relationship must end, then it must end. It may be difficult but there will be someone else better for you. Also think if you plan to marry her or if this is just temporary. If it's temporary, then I say move on to someone that you will stay with for the rest of your life.
2007-09-02 14:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by Ramuel G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. When a Christian gets with a non-Christian it is called being "unequally yoked" and it isn't permitted according to the Bible.
It would be beneficial to your relationship if you bought yourself a Bible and began studying it.
Here's the best one that I have found:
Life Application Bible ~ New International Version.
This Bible has commentary on each page to explain what the scriptures mean in an easy-to-understand way.
2007-08-25 18:04:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋