I am 18 and a virgin. I am a very sensible and responsible girl, so I have always wanted to wait until I was atleast 18 to take care of any "situations" that might have arose. So anyways, I am dating this great guy who I want to "be" with. But I am never in the mood. This is not like me at all. And I am kind of in the mindset lately that I would really like it to happen but I fear it wont because I don't ever feel like it. It has nothing to do with him. He is Really good in every aspect. So I guess I feel like I should be more excited about this situation especially being young, but I'm just not. I'm eager with no enthusiasm :( Any suggestions or comments? P.S. I'm pretty sure it is nothing medical that would be declining my drive
2007-08-25 17:41:58 · 7 answers · asked by Mandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, I admire your ability to wait until your ready. Very brave of you. One thing that could be your problem is perhaps that you're so used to him in other aspects (humorously, caring, and such) that seeing him in a sexual light seems odd. Much like how a person making a friend a bf or gf would seem odd. Another thing I believe is, you never really crave chocolate until you've tried it. Meaning, perhaps sex doesn't seem as enticing yet, but then again, you've never done it. I'm sure being in the mood will be much easier once you've done it and can anticipate what will follow. Now you have so many expectations and anticipations for the activity, it may be nerve racking. And lastly, please communicate with your partner. The last thing anyone needs is an oblivious lover.
2007-08-25 18:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So then i assume you arnt on any medications for depression or anxiety? Those can have a big effect. Maybe you really just arnt ready even though you want to believe you are and thats your bodys way of reacting. If you are positive you are ready you could just be really nervous and putting alot of pressure on yourself. That could effect it too.
2007-08-26 00:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by blackned_wings 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to do it, don't. When the time is right you'll know. Forcing it is the worst thing you can do. Lots of reasons to not want to, stress, not feeling attracted to him, not enough foreplay. Your young, women generally enjoy it later in life.
2007-08-26 00:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Phoebe Finch 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a guilty conscience. Sex is only for married people and you know it. He is totally disrespecting you if he is asking for the priviledge of sex with you with out marrying you first. Have some respect for yourself, don't let him have your precious self with out the commitment of marriage first.
2007-08-26 00:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It natural...maybe your under some stress, thats all.Let it happen naturally, you'll know when the right person comes along.
2007-08-26 00:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Gen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was the same way...honestly...after you do it...you'll be more into it later on...good luck sweetheart
2007-08-26 00:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by ~Kamille ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all in your head sweetpea,you want to get busy but your nervous and its killing your drive,try a beer or 2
2007-08-26 00:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋