Sometimes, do you feel alone?

Question

I've had many friends die from various causes. Larry shot himself in the head. Pete died from AIDS. I won't even go into the losses from wars, or what I saw there. One of my ex-wives drank so much booze, her eyes , literally, turned yellow before she died. I have some friends, but every last one is very different from me. Most were raised in other cultures and speak different languages than myself. Sometimes, I sit in front of this computer, and it seems like mental masturbation. There is no contact, nothing real.
So, with great respect to all my fans and contacts.
I still feel alone.

please don't give thumbs down to anyone who answers any of my questions. it's what they think, it's what they are.

Answer 1

the friends that you meet here may not be "real"like you can fell them and have them hold you in their arma when you are so down like now. But we are here and I am here, and I care.

So I am holding out my arms over cyberspace to hold you close to me, and you can cry if you feel like it. Close your eyes, and imagine a hug. Just that. It happened, it is simple and you have been hugged just now.

Truly, there are people out there to talk to. I don't need to tell you what you need to do, you already know. Treat yourself as you would reat someone you love. Love yourself, and talk to someone.

The world is out there.

Answer 2

Interesting Q. I feel that sometimes. Like the screen of my monitor is the only window to the world.
Well...I'd just I made myself sound very lonely.

But when I think about it, why do we feel it?
Why do we desire to belong with others ?
To connect. To communicate. To collaborate with others.
Maybe it is an instinct, a strategy to maintain our survival.

Weren't we, homo sapiens, designed to live in a society to ensure survival? We find comfort and safety in company, because we were programmed by nature to do so.

And if we don't find such company we turn inward or toward some divine beings, and there we find another kind of company to which we can communicate when the others are not there, or not capable to understand, or to do something for us.

So if you don't wanna be lonely, then you have connect with others or eradicate the social instict that has evolved with our race for hundreds of thousands of years (I don't recommend this, really :-P, you might turn into a sociopath or something)

But why would you fear of being alone? After all a person is a person, born alone, dies alone.

I wonder if loneliness is a universal phenomenon. I mean, does animal feel it? Especially those social animals like wolfs.

Answer 3

"There is no contact, nothing real."
Welcome my friend to the "dark night of the soul" that I was experiencing last night and am destined to experience again as I am going through the death of my ego and a birthing of my spirit. Being alone is necessary to become what I must be. I accept that which doesn't make it any less painful. Heat is used to temper the sword making it stronger and you have been through a fire storm of great proportions. You also feel battered from the hammer of the metal worker. Now you feel alone which the the feel of the water that the red hot sword is plunged into to cool it for the metal worker to see the result of his efforts. Water is emotion, fluid and strong in it's own way using time to smooth the stones of it's stream bed. You are not weak my friend but strong. Feel that strength. It is there inside of you, but you must tap into it freeing it to flow. Blessed Be........

Answer 4

It is normal to be down in the dumps sometimes, but not ALL the time. Keep yourself busy with family and friends and your job. I felt that way once and all of a sudden, one day while I was driving down the road, I realized.....I am never alone. God is always watching me and if he is watching me, nothing but good things can happen that day. Ever since that day, my life took a different direction and I am so thankful he came to me and let me know , I wasn't alone. My dear, trust me, you are never alone, God is watching you, very second of every day. . . .

Answer 5

Hi! I'm so sorry for these losses you have had.

I don't know your spiritual or religious background, but since you asked this in this category, I will take the liberty of mentioning that God can really help you with this. Please take a look at this video clip:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKmdIdQg3Ks

Sometimes i feel alone as well, but I know that I am not alone, because God is with me. He is my best Friend. He is there when it's late at night and there's no friends around to talk to. He is there when I feel like no one understands me. Reach out to Him and He will be there for you.

It starts with giving our lives over to Jesus. (Again - I don't know if you have done this or not.) If you go to this site, you can learn more.

http://winkiepratney.com/tracts_by_winkie_pratney/index.html
(Scroll down to where it says "These Are the Facts." - It's a free download.)

When we give our lives to Jesus, as our relationship with Him grows He can then become our best Friend. (He desires to be that for us.) He has promised never to leave us or forsake us. He can also help you deal with these losses you have had, as well as even give you joy, peace and a new start in life.

Answer 6

Mental masturbation sounds about right. We are creatures which rely heavily on our vision and yet most of us converse with one another through non-visual methods.I don't even like to talk on phones much less use computers for human contact. We lose huge amounts of body language information which I think is helpful in making you feel close to some one.

Answer 7

There was a time when I wanted to kill myself. I thought that I was alone. I thought that I was too much trouble for other people. I was trying to think of a way to kill myself without anyone having to clean up after I was dead.

That's a lonely feeling.

So I decided to let God have a chance at me. I was led to a man who preached the Gospel out of his barber shop. He taught me what I needed to know, and then one night while I was alone, I asked for God to forgive me, I admitted that I was a sinner, and I told Him the I accepted Jesus Christ as my savior.

Once in a while I still feel alone, but it doesn't last long. God and I are inseparable. I don't even think that it's a normal Christian thing to be so close to Him. But we are close.

You could have the same thing I suppose, but only if you find yourself wanting to. If you don't want to, then I cannot help you.

Answer 8

First let me say how sorry I am for your losses, for the difficult time of it, you've had. We all need people....but more importantly, you were created with a vacuum in your heart that can only be satisfied by God. I am very often alone, and yet I can say with all honestly, that I never feel lonely...People often say to me, "how can you stand your situation?" I do not find it all that difficult...because I have a peace that passes all human understanding. Will say a prayer for you, my friend.

Answer 9

Hang in there. You have started to identify much of what has made you feel lonely. "Knowing" is what will pull you through this. You sound like you might be an old soldier who looks back a lot now that you have the time. I can identify with that. Again, hang tough, things will pick up.

Answer 10

I used to feel very alone, so I understand. You have suffered a lot of losses in your life, but you're not alone. All you have to do is ask for help and you'll get it. I'm not trying to preach to you, but try praying. God has never let me down. I'll pray for you, whether you decide to or not, so know that someone cares.