hi, i was mistreated in my pass relationships, its been so long scince ive had a girlfriend im thinking now i never will again, im getting older and the thought of being hurt again is always on my mind i think now ill not even think of another relationship, i think im better off alone, evertime i tried to say hello to girls they simply just keep walking, i have tried to start a conversation,they simply just turn there back on me or walk away some girls just say im not interested u sleez without even knowing me, so i think ill just give up even trying as girls are just to stuck up they think there poo doesnt stink or something,
why are girls so hard to get to know or say hello to?
im not a ugly guy, im not fat im not a drunk yet girls think im a bad guy or something i dont sleep around i dont just want a 1 night stand yet girls wont even give me time of day, im tired of even trying these days, maybe its just been to long 4 me that ive been alone,
2007-08-25 15:35:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its been nine yrs of sitten back and waiting and trying i think ill just accept ill be alone now
2007-08-25 15:48:15 · update #1
Well if a stranger comes up to me and says hello I wont accept not cos I am stuck up, Cos I would like to protect myself from strangers. Dont go up to uknown girls and say hello. Try making friends at place u work, school etc.
I can understand how u cannot trust anyone else cos of one person. Give it more time. I took me 4 years to start trusting again. Meanwhile just dont judge everyone as bad.
2007-08-25 15:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just read the question and I'm am about into the same the past few years then I find someone who will talk to me which confuses me and I did slow down smoking during some of these times. I keep wondering as too if I have to live alone? An I don't know if I have really quit though trying?
2007-08-25 22:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but I know where you're coming from. I feel the same way except that I'm 64 y/o and physically handicapped. My wife divorced me after I became physically handicapped.
I suspect that you have the same problem that I had for most of my life. Because of my relationship with my mother ( I felt rejected and abandoned), I was too "nice" to girls and women. I did this believing that this would get them to like me.
This was the same thing I tried to do with my mother when I was a child. It didn't work with my mother and it didn't work with girls and women either.
Girls don't like or respect guys that are too nice to them. Things got better for me when I learned about "assertiveness". I read books about it, went to workshops on it, and practiced it.
The more assertive I became the more my self esteem increased and the more attractive I became to women. I can't tell you how many times that I have read and watched interviews with women who said that for them to be interested in a guy that he needed to be "confident".
If books and classes on assertiveness aren't enough, I would try to find a good counselor to help you with this.
My best wishes to you. You deserve a happy romantic relationship with a woman, you just have to learn the skills and gain the confidence to do this.
2007-08-25 22:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish it was hard for me to fall in love, but that's not the case. Of course being in a relationship won't be perfect. Some way you are going to experience hurt throughout your life. Live life and learn along the way.
2007-08-25 22:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever say never, it could, and probably will happen.
Just learn what to look for from your past relationships, and go on with your life.
You are much too young to throw in the towel.
2007-08-25 22:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by bgee2001ca 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know... but maybe the problem with you dude is that your not moving on... see, you keep on looking back on the things you have done, you keep on remebering how much hurt you had in your last relationship.... or maybe while looking for other girls you keep on thinkin bout your 'X', your looking for some qualities that your ex-girlfriend has....
cOme on dude... before entering into another relationship or looking for another girl to be with, just try to move on....
and dont keep telling yourself that youre better off alone... for nobody's better off alone in this world...
good luck dude, hope youll find your girl someday....
2007-08-25 22:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by -'i am aim'- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's when you stop trying that love pops up. Sit back and relax a bit and stop trying so hard cuz it will happen.
2007-08-25 22:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ulll fall in love one day, jut wait itll happen
2007-08-25 22:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋