i can't stand my dad?

Question

my dad does nothing around the house, he always tells my mom, "iron my clothes wheres my dinner", "did you even clean today?". one time, my room was messy and he bagged stuff out of my room at 11 oclock at night to throw away and i was studying for exams... one time, he kept telling me my boyfriend was an asshole (and he was my ex) and i asked him if i could talk to him, (my ex) and he kept slamming my head on the floor... and idk. i'm in college now and he saw my boyfriend driving my car (my dad pays insurance, i'm a freshman) and he flipped out and told me i'm taking your car, and parking it behind the house, next time you're about to get in your car you call me. its like my mom will wanna go somewhere and he straight up will be like no you shouldn't go.

i do live on campus.

Answer 1

Ahhhhh Dads. the problem is he's your mother's husband, if she's not kicking him out your stuck with him too. It doesn't mean you have to like it though, just try to steer clear of him as much as you can, and try to be as independent as you can (it saves you from having to ask him for anything) Your in college now, soon you will have your own life and won't have to deal with him at all. I think you'll find when you on your own they change the way they think about you.
Good Luck! and study hard!

Answer 2

honey, it sounds to me your dad is very controlling. I hope he has never put a hand on you all in violent. That will scar a whole family. What your dad did about your room was a little to much. I have done Sim to my boys, But I give them a chance. The car, If it is yours he should not touch it, just stop paying insurance. My boys there cars are all in there names and if there insurance isn't payed that is there problem. Your mom, I am concerned, she needs to stand up for her self. Yes its hard, I've been there. I have a great life now. Need me contact me.

Answer 3

since you are considered an adult and you allow your father to pay for your car.... you need to move or stop being bothered
Your mom seems to believe it is ok to be treated like this.
You can not change her, you need to change you
Find some girlfriends that want to find a place to split 3 ways/ share a big room/ (Master) or find a 3 bedroom, and pay for your own insurance liablilty which is not that expensive. Now you do not have anything to complain about, Your dad is not now in control, you are
If you continue to live at home and he pays for everything
You are not in control of your life, he is and what he says, based on your mom's lack of backbone, goes

Answer 4

Your dad is what I call a control freak because he wants to control everything around him and can't stand when he is not in control. You need to get away from him as soon as you can and see if you can help your mom get out also. Call the domestic abuse line in your area to see what type of help is available to you. Be careful around your dad because next time he could seriously hurt you or even kill you. You also need to examine your choice in boy friends because people in your situation tend to repeat what they are used to. Be careful God's blessing on you.

Answer 5

I feel your pain sister, AMEN.

I guess ultimately just ignore him hunn.

He's still your dad and yeah.

Learn what you do like about him and learn not to become what you dislike about him.

Good Luck.
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Ps
Seems to me that this realy has nothing to do with what you do. It's more of a power thing he's battling with.

Answer 6

He's very controlling if not abusive. Give him the car back and move on campus.

Answer 7

you mom and you are both too old to be controlled and dad sounds like he has issues . Tell him to go f off and that until he treats you and mom nicer he will be getting a taste of his own medicine.

Answer 8

you i dont even get to go out
day or night
educational or not
im sorry for you
try to be on your own

hillary

Answer 9

hire a hitman