Is it okay for a parent to hit you because they don't like what you have to say?

Question

Okay, me & my mom get in to arguements all the time. But this funny thing is that she always starts them. It's like she gets bored & starts talking crap to me.
She tells me all this mean stuff & when i try to end it by saying, "Okay." or "Thats nice." She'll say "Quit being smart." & swat he hand back trying to make me flintch.

& if i say whats on my mind during an arguement, i don't cuss, swear, or anything like that, but if i say anything she doesn't like,
she slaps me in the eye, face, lips, head, neck, back..anywhere.
& if a tear falls out my eye, she'll say something like,
"wahh wahh cry like a little baby." i mean seriously, wtf.

One time i threatend to call the cops & she says,
"it won't do anything, im your guardianm im allowed too."

Is this right for her to do this to me?
I mean, she doesn't like hit me with belts & paddles anymore but she used too.

The hitting happens probably every 1 1/2 weeks, but the arguing is every single day.

Im 15 by the way, & im not rebelious either.

Answer 1

No, what your mom is doing is not ok, that's considered abuse. You really should talk to another adult or authority figure and get you and your mom some help, because that's not proper parenting. Good luck, and take care of yourself. You're too young to put up with crap like that.

Answer 2

Well Is She A Heavy Drinker? If So She Just Could Be Taking The Miserable Life Out Of You, But Dosmestic Abuse Is Wrong, You Should Of Just Called The Cops, Belts And Paddles That Just Outrageous, Im Only 13 And Sometimes Im Cheeky To My Parents I Dont Even Get That I Just Get Told Off, Yeah When She Said It Wouldnt Do Anythin Im Your Guirdian Im Allowed To Really She Not Because There Is Laws Bout Hitting Children, I Think Anyways But If She Is Leaving Bruises Or Marks On You Id Tell Someone Or Go Straight To The Police Or If She Tries To Have A Go At You, Just Try To Dodge Her I Cant Really Think Of Anything Else To Do.

Answer 3

Girl, its better you mom to teach you than the world to teach you. The first thing you fail here is arguing with her, whatever she tell you to do, accept and do it even if you see that its of no value. Be a good listener and listen what she say or tell you and think twice before you respond. Talking back as you had described here seems to be an insult to her as she see whats best for you. Remember mother are alway mothers, and your mom will alway be your mom. She does love you am sure, all she wants from you is to grow up as an understand and well behaved girl. Do these thing for me and see if there will be a change. When she tell anything, just do it with open heart and after you finish ask her if there is anything else she would like you to do. When she start talking to you, just listen and respond when she ask you to. If she starts yelling, just be quite and say mom, am sorry if I offended you and don't respond until she give you a chance. Don't be rude or angry just be a loving girl and smile politely. learn to say yes mom alway and see if there will be a difference.

Answer 4

My ex boyfriend's mother was just like that! It's amazing that a parent could be that immature, but I know it's possible because I've seen it. Honestly, I'd punch her right in the face. But that's not good advice. So good advice would be to tell you to call the police next time she does it...and explain to them that she does this sort of thing constantly. All she wants is attention. Get dcf involved. (but then you might end up being a foster kid...) But, if the cops don't help (like if they don't consider it abusive..) then the next time she does it, punch her right in the mouth. Seriously, or I will. People like that make me sick. Don't let her walk all over you or other people will too for the rest of your life...

Answer 5

your mom have some issues that she is taking out on you. if you want to call the cops than do so. parents are here to lead, guide, direct, teach and make safe loving homes for the children who were not asked to be born. dont ever disrespect her but maybe you can try and sit down with her and say mom can we talk and communicate to her how you feel when she does this and that. ask your mom does she love you and is that love unconditional. and start from there explaining to her how you feel when she slaps you in the face, how you feel when she calls you names, and that you feel like she picking on you for no apparent reason. talk to an adult that will go to her on your behalf. and if all that fails call the cops. GodBless

Answer 6

It sounds to me like you and your mom should go to counseling. From what you've said she may smack you for suggesting this. She is wrong if she tells you that the police won't do anything. This is child abuse and there are laws this. Call or go to your nearest police station and stress your concerns. Find out what you options are. You didn't say how old you are,but you need help.
You may not want to hear this but, the police may contact child protective services and they will remove you from your home. Your mother is a sick individual and she needs help.
I'll keep you in my prayers. Please get help before she seriously hurts you or you hurt her.
PLEASE!

Answer 7

NO it is NOT all right for your mother to hit you. Ever! Never!
Talk to someone at school about this. Your mother seems to hve some kind of issues and really doesn't know how to talk to you.
this is NOT right. As your parent and guardian she is NOT *allowed* to hit you. Hitting is child abuse and she could get into trouble for it. Sounds like it would be a good idea to get into a parenting class to learn how to channel her frustrations elsewhere.

If it gets worse or if she seriously hurts you, you MUST tell someone else.. and adult you trust. At school, or a friend who can help you.
Take care.

Answer 8

Of course it's not right, and it's not true that because she's your guardian "they won't do anything." A spanking is legal, hitting in the face and back is NOT, so if you want, call the police and turn her in. She will be arrested and you will be removed from the house, just so you know. Personally, I'm old now, but I would.

Answer 9

I just want to give you a hug!! I went through the same thing. It is not okay. She isnt dealing well with your moving into teenagerism, and growing up. She is losing her control over you and trying to beat you down to keep you under her control. You are more of an adult than she is. Remember you are not alone . I moved out to my grandmothers in my situation, finished school and moved on with my llife. I talk to her maybe twice a month but nothing that heartfelt. I have a great career and two wonderful children. I over came her , you can overcome yours.

Answer 10

Nobody is ok with what you defined until they're abusers themselves. The humans who're for spankings on the whole handiest condone a pair swats at the butt, with not anything however your hand, and handiest whilst the youngster is just too younger to be reasoned with. For your dad to be punishing you bodily as an adolescent is dull, unnecessary, and irrelevant. And it is not like he simply spanked you whilst you have been more youthful, it appears like he has abused you your entire existence if in case you have such dangerous anxiousness and "soar" at any noise. If he "comes at you" he's obviously violent and abusive. The legislation does NOT permit abuse. Again, slightly spanking right here and there for slightly child is authorized, however mother and father are NOT allowed to overcome their kids or bodily damage them. So I consider you such a lot certainly have got to inform anybody what is going down. Like a counselor at your tuition. And in which is your mom in all of this? Is she nonetheless married on your father? If so, disgrace on her for no longer protective you, and once more, you have got to get aid your self in case your mother would possibly not. She perhaps terrified of him too on account that if he beats his youngster he typically has no hindrance beating his spouse both. Or, if the 2 of them are divorced, you certainly have got to inform your mother what is going down and feature her get custody of you rather.