Girls, dont like me at all WHY???????

Question

I am almost19 and I have been shy around girls ever since I can remember. I was never able to tell any of my crushes how I felt or ask them out or anything. I am going to college this fall and never had a girlfriend or even a first kiss,I am way to shy to even approach girls. I just dont feel that women are attracted to me. I dont know why. I am really athletic and built,I am good looking I think never been told otherwise, kind honest and respectful, pretty smart, can have fun doing just about anything, but I just feel like I am unattractive for some reason. I dont know how to stop the shyness either, even the few girls I knew was still shy around them. I just answered this guys question who was complaining about girls throwing themselves at him WTF, no girl has ever been attracted to me and couldnt get a girlfriend no matter what and this guy is complaining about to many girls, what is wrong with this world also never went to any dances or prom, cuz who would want to go with me no o

I think its time to hang it up and just give up on girls, I just gotta accept that girls want nothing to do with me and figure out how I can be happy on my own, cuz its been just me all along and I need to let it go now

Answer 1

Look up for a group in your area for shy people. This is the first step. If you can make it to the group and interact with others you are on your way. Also Look in the mirror every day and tell your self out loud that you are handsome and cool. If you don't believe it, no one else will. Get in that mirror and love yourself, pratice smiles that you will give to girls. You dont have to talk to them at first, but a smile and eye contact from a handsome guy will peak any girls interest!

Answer 2

It sounds like your "additional details" remark is right on target. There's nothing wrong with you that a little self-respect won't cure. You're just trying too hard.

Take some time out just to enjoy being 19 and be the best *you* that you can be.

The only advice I can think to give you for relationships is this: don't waste your time being shy. Girls really DO want to know how you feel, so be assertive and be honest. Yeah, you might get your feelings trampled once in a while, but it's nothing compared to the reward of being heard and respected. And if a girl can respect you for respecting both her and yourself, you've got a keeper. (If not, believe me she's too shallow to be worth your time. Most girls' perceptions of you change once they get to know you--it doesn't matter all that much how ripped or not you are, if we can respect you, we *see* you as attractive.)

Also... if you're hoping for a second kiss, brush your teeth daily and don't use listerine! lol, my first/only serious boyfriend always doused with listerine before kissing me, and I still shudder at the smell of it today. :) The things we put up with for love.

Answer 3

Dude! Chill, you're 19, your ADULT life has just begun! Are you going to give up on girls in your second year of ADULT life? Teenage girls from highschool are NOTHING like the girls you will meet in college or at work they are TEENS (a lot of women I've met say that they would never be teenagers again all because of the hormone issues and highschool lol). The girls you'll meet in college and stuff will be far better because they are mature. Women out of college are even better!
So what's the rush? You really gonna give it up at 19? That's like giving up on a dream just because it hasn't worked out for you in your youth. Not everything revolves around your youth. A lot of people don't meet their spouses until they are at least 25. People who get married at 20 aren't the sharpest knives in the drawer.
You know you're shy, and that's ok. A girl would rather you be extremely shy than be a player (or, I like to call him "Girl-Hops" because they "hop" from girl to girl). Girls hate it when the man thinks they are better than them. MEN don't have to feed the babies when they eventually have one!

So, now that you know that shyness isn't a bad thing, what are you gonna do about it?

The only thing you can do to quit the shyness is to quit it cold-turkey. Which means, and I hate to tell you this, but you just GOTTA walk up to a girl and start talking to her. Even if you're just askin' for the time, it will get you confrtable talking to girls. Try sitting next to a girl in class and maybe ask her if she has any idea what the heck the prof's talkin' about. You'll eventually find one that interests you. When you do.. this is the hardest part.. but ask her if she has an email address or IM or phone number or whatever you feel like askin' for. A NICE girl WON'T turn you down. Garantee. If she does, then she probably isn't a very nice girl.

Good luck with the girls! Don't ever give up!! My grownup-friend's 80-year-old grandmother found herself a new love and they got married. Just remember: The greatest things in life are the ones that are worth the long, dreary wait.
I hope this helps :)

Answer 4

It sounds like your view of yourself is the problem. If you think you are not girl worthy, they will think the same. It really is all about attitude. Girls don't want a guy that needs to be built up all the time. I think that is the problem. I would suggest working on you - taking time to see what your positive attributes are rather than the negative. If all you see is negative, that is all they will see as well - even if they think your looks are worthy. Sounds like you are trying to figure out why - which is the first step. Self help section in your local bookstore might be a positive first step. And don't worry - guys like you (meaning you sound nice and sincere - but obviously way too shy) always find the right girl eventually. Give it time and in that time, make sure you become happy with YOU.

Answer 5

Your problem is that you have a low self esteem. You don't have to be good looking, buff, etc. for a girl to like you. Maybe, it's just not time yet. Time will come when you least expect it. It could be the shyness that is getting in your way. But at the same time, lots of girls gets turned on with shy guys. Maybe you give them an impression that you are not interested. If you think that there is nothing wrong with you, keep that in your head and talk to a girl. You just have to get that shyness out of your system. Got a buddy? Ask him for help...

Answer 6

First of all you are ONLY 19. Don't approach girls as though they are a different species. Don't look at them as an obstacle either. Treat them with respect. Talk to them as you would a male friend. Do you ask every male friend out on a date? Then don't talk to or treat females like they are all there for the taking. They are not to be conquered. They will give it away if you just be YOURSELF. Girls for the most part are EZ. In step A just get some female acquaintances. In step B turn that friendship into a little more. In step C go for the gold.

Answer 7

Aw, Love, ya just gotta take a deep breath and have a little confidence, even if you're faking it. Girls love the shy type but girls hate when you ignore them. Being too shy and not approaching a girl gives off the vibe you don't like them! Give a girl you like sweet and honest compliments. That's the first stage of flirting. If you're too shy to make a move, maybe just some flirting will get a girl to open her mouth and blurt out she likes you first. Just remember, society dictates that by tradition, guys make the first move. If you don't make a move, it's taken that you're not interested. You'll be ok. You're young...courtship is an artform and you'll never get anywhere if you don't practice! Don't fear rejection. It won't kill you and there's plenty of other fish in the sea. =3

Answer 8

Maybe it's because you are shy. If you don't say anything, the we girls don't know. Or, you have to give off hints/clues. I know it can be hard not being shy around the opposite sex, but, you have to take risks if you really want to have a girlfriend. And you sound like you really do. Don't worry, I was shy around guys, till I decided, that whatever happens happens. So I took the risk. Well, I hope this helps... Good Luck!

Answer 9

you seem like such a sweet guy, if i met you i wood be so interested! Well, first a girl likes a guy who is confident and i understand that your shy, I am too, but most girls like to be approached by guys first. But you should never give up because maybe, no probably you'll meet a girl who will like you for who you are. You shouldn't have to change to have a girl like you. Maybe you can try to have one of your friends set you up and go out on a double date. If a girl rejects you, it's her loss and there are plenty of fishes in the sea. I also understand that you want a girlfriend but there is never a rush. Maybe you're meant for more and sometimes the wait can be realli worth it. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Hey you seem like a great guy!!!! You really shouldn't feel shy around girls we should be shy around you....Well trust me you will find someone if not now then when you start college. Girls in high school are um.....buttheads i should know i was one of them. I think girls in high school want guys to be the one to make the first move. That's how I thought. You should never put your self down...girls will come and be all over you just wait. Hope this helps in anyway