I keep on getting upset at myself for letting go of a job, even though I didn't like it and still don't. I thought I was doing this to get another job-- but that hasn't yet panned out. So, in my present position of non-employment, I keep kicking myself for letting go of the first job. What can I do to stop this, since I just continue to feel worse?.
2007-08-25 13:46:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Resolve to never do it again and learn from your mistakes.
2007-08-25 13:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Irish 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you get upset at yourself for letting go of that job.... pretend for a moment that you are not talking to yourself. Pretend that this happened to your very good friend and that friend was telling you about it, looking for your advice. What would you say? Would you beat him/her up over it? ... or would you say that you made the best decision at the time and it didn't work out as you planned. Sometimes we are very hard on ourselves for our mistakes. In any case, many times we would never dream of being that hard on our closest and dearest friends. Give yourself a break. At the time, you made a decision according to the situation at hand. After the decision, the situation at hand changed. You can't go back in time now, all we can ever expect is to make a decision and then move forward with whatever the outcome is. If you want to feel better, stop thinking of the past and what might have been if you had stayed in that job. The job is gone now so focus your attention on getting another job and going on with your life. You'll be ok.
2007-09-02 11:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by aja5505 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if all of this was happening to somebody that you love? If you knew someone who had a lot of good qualities but didn't see them, or who wasn't giving themselves a fair chance to succeed, what would you say to that person?
I'm guessing you would have a little compassion. Try to have some of that for yourself. You, above everybody, know that you are trying your best. That's good enough. Just keep doing the best you can and things will change. Just please don't give up on yourself or cause yourself pain. You've had to deal with enough. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for me because I've had a hard time having compassion for myself and I'd like to know that somebody is doing what hasn't been easy for me.
2007-09-02 12:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appreciate what you have - so what you lost or quit a job - it obviously was for the best - if you aren't happy on that job then you owe to the employer and mainly yourself to not work there.
Apprecaite what you have and find a job which will make you happy.
2007-08-29 15:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by Making a difference 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can thoroughly enjoy their job ut there shd be a certain level of enjoyment at least or else you ll be dragging yourself to work everyday which is nasty.
I do have the tendency to quit my job hastily and I feel really good abt it, like I made such a wise decision coz when one has enough of her/his job, its wise to quit, ya doing urself a favour, we cant all be money slave in this world.
You shd definitely start sending resumes around, look for a job u might enjoy, start fixing interviews and dont take it so hard on yourself. ;)
2007-08-25 14:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by Wish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey we all do stuff that we later regret, that's human, and that's why there's a thing called forgiving it was a learning experience, you learned, its over, move on with your life. your not a bad person, you didn't hurt anyone else,gust brush it off,get yourself prettied up, put your best face forward, stand up tall and be proud and go find the job of your dreams, and the life you want,!!!!!be confident, its there waiting for you to grab hold, don't be scared you deserve a good life too!!!!!!!!!!keep telling yourself all this and go get it.
2007-09-02 01:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and realize that there are people out there with no jobs, no chances of even getting a job...
Something will come your way. Maybe that first job just wasn't meant to be.
"Don't stop believin'! Let go of that feelin'!"
Sing it to the tune of "Don't Stop Believin'" by Journey.
2007-08-25 14:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
really, do ya really want to stop hurti'n, hun? Tell someone else about all of this, or give someone else a reason to really let go on you. set it up so that someone else has a reason to let you know what a lousy piece of /**& you really are. you will feel better in the end because you will be forced to defend youself to this other person, hence reaquinting yourself with your'e possitive attributes.
oops, almost forgot to mention this, for it is very important; MAKE CERTIAN THAT YOU RESPECT THE PERSON WHO IS TO BERAITE YOU.
2007-09-01 15:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by PETER F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put down the imaginary bat you're hitting yourself with!
Personally, I believe that everything happens for a reason and sometimes things get worse before they get better, "it's always darkest before dawn".
2007-08-25 13:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by Peachy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You accept your feeling because they are yours only truly feel them and when you are at the worst moment of these feeling say to your self " I let go of these feelings." and truly mean it. This is called Cognitive rehabilitative therapy. It works but first you must accept and then you must let go. It does not get any simpler than that,
2007-09-02 01:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋