Every time she is in a bad mood, she verbally attacks me and I don't understand why. The things she says to me are very hurtful and demeaning such as "you've ruined my life" when I have done nothing to her. She then tells me to "stop playing the victim" when I ask my parents for advice on how to deal with her. I am almost to the point where I don't want anything to do with her anymore, but she is having my first nephew in a couple of months...
What can I do to make her stop?
2007-08-25 13:28:56 · 8 answers · asked by Peachy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
be the better person and blow it off. have a heart to heart and tell her how you feel,make sure you attack the problem not the person. i'm sure being pregnant makes her moody too so just give it time. hopefully motherhood will make her more loving.
2007-08-25 13:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but i'm just really pissed at the way your always stealing all the attention because you're always having some sort of "problem." i'm mad because you've always lied about having this cruddy life when the truth is that you had it pretty dang good. and actually, i NEVER said, "your ruined my life," i said that any time i have something good going in my life you start drama so all the attention can be on you. you actually have told me though that i ruined your life, along with mom and dad. don't you think thats the least bit hurtful? i'm scared that every time we help you out, you screw us over and i'm wondering if this time will be any different. i'm sorry but i'm just tired of waiting and hoping that you'll finally wake up and be a responsible person. you want to make me stop? then prove me wrong. prove to me that you're not going to mess anything up this time and i'll stop. i have ALWAYS supported you and this time is no different but i need to see that you're growing up now, because i don't want to have to constantly worry about if my sister is going to be ok. its very stressful and i can't deal with that right now, especially with only 10 weeks to go. i love you baby sister and i always will, i guess i just hit my breaking point and i'm sorry. stop making me the bad guy too. you really do always play the victim when actually you're just as responsible for our fighting as i am. when your drunk you say some pretty dumb things that are sometimes very inappropriate. and thats just it honey, you're not being responsible for any of your actions and thats just not ok. please try to make it work this time. <3
2007-08-27 03:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ethan's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stress or something must be making her be like that. Sometimes my sister "verbally attacks" me and what I do, is I just try and stay out of her way until she's cooled down enough. I sometimes talk to her and tell her how I feel and ask her if there's something I can do.
To make your sister stop, try talking to her. If that doesn't work then write her a note. (When doing both of these things be polite but a little assertive too.) 'Those don't work, then stay out of her way. Maybe then she will see how she's sort of hurt you and maybe she will change.
I hope things work out for you! Good luck!
2007-08-25 13:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister and I have been the say way for awhile,until a couple years ago she finally grew up! I'm almost 16 and she is almost 19 but now we never get in fights.I don't really know what it was that made her change because I seriously thought she was going to kill me in the night,it was that bad.My sister was also uncontrolable and strong you could never win.So for now you have to be the bigger person,and act like it doesn't effect you.One day she will break down and cry and notice how mean she was to you.I don't really know your whole life story but I think it goes way back,and she is jealous of something.You guys need your space!
2007-08-25 13:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my sister used 2 be like that 2.she's still a litttle b*tch w/me ocasionally.she would tell me things like"i wish u werent my sister","i wish u would change " (just cus i didnt think like her.like she would ask me how do i look?n i would tell her "i dont like ur clothes they show 2 much"on da real tho i dont like showing 2 much skin so yeah i gave her the truth.) "no1 likes u,not even the family they cant stand u" uncalled for **** that wasnt even true.she would tell me all her problems i would listen even tho at times i was sad n depressed bcus of my own probelms i still gave her the time of day something she never tried when i needed her.she has changed after we have talked about it.but she still has her selfish acts that piss me off ,she runs her mouth n tries 2 hurt me but i dont let it get 2 me anymore.and neither should u:) she is probably having problems ,u should give her time or try 2 talk 2 her.
2007-08-25 13:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by laiiila 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ifs shes older then its normal. Im just siting there and my older sister randomly says stupid insulting stuff to me. You could tell her to shut up and take her problems out on the actual problem not you.
2007-08-25 13:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly, your loved ones might have their evaluations on your particular difficulty... only take a seat down together with her ... or in case you cant cope with that .. write her a letter... clarify which you already know that your difficulty is screwed.. you dont want her to be so rude and hateful approximately it ... you're only attempting to do bettter for you and your infants and you like she might see that.. and be a sprint supportive. -Em
2016-10-16 23:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her boyfriend to quit shirking his responsibility and start taking care of her.
2007-08-25 13:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋