i made the BIGGEST mistake of my life.
i was hanging out with some friends, and we were just at some park, not really doing anything...
but, one of my friends is friends with my best friend's boyfriend.
we were talking about casual things, until we went for a walk outside of the group, and he kissed me.
i knew in my head that it was wrong, but i kissed back anyway.
and i liked...no LOVED it.
how do i tell my boyfriend AND my best friend without them getting totally mad at me, and taking me away from their lives?
we all make mistakes, right?
2007-08-25 12:35:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just slap ur self for doing that. I hate cheats and traitors.
2007-08-25 12:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call this a mistake. This was a deliberate action on your part, even when, by your own words, you knew it was wrong, therefore you knew what the reaction would be if it gets out. You deliberately made the wrong choice, when you knew better.
The moment your boyfriend, and your best friend become aware of it, they will get totally mad at you. You are not going to escape that, no matter what you say.
However, since it appears that it did not go beyond a kiss, then I don't know how much good it will do to tell your boyfriend. It may create a problem where there may not need to be one. Is this a one time incident ? If it is, then let it die quietly. Of course, there is always the chance your boyfriend may find out anyway, but I wouldn't go looking for any more trouble. However, if you feel you have to clear your conscience, then do what you feel is necessary. Just be prepared for their reactions.
2007-08-25 20:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't say anything unless you have a REALLY guilty conscience and feel like it's absolutely ESSENTIAL that you own up.
I know that it might feel dishonest to keep this from your boyfriend, but let's face it, your boyfriend and your best friend WILL DEFINITELY get "totally mad" at you.
If I were you I wouldn't say anything to your boyfriend. Pretend it never happened and make it clear to the guy you kissed that it was a one-off and meant nothing.
If it did mean something and you start to like him, be honest with your boyfriend and gently break up with him.
If you do decide to tell your boy, make sure you let him know you thought it was "the BIGGEST mistake" of your life.
Good luck.
2007-08-25 19:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by Astrid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to tell them. Lying about it will only make things worse if he finds out later on. If you want to stay with your boyfriend then sit him down and explain what happened, but tell him you really regret it. The only thing you can hope for is that he is a forgiving person and will understand and accept your apology.
2007-08-25 19:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if your boyfriend listens to Hannah Montana, you might have a chance.
Nobody perfect!
Everybody makes mistakes!
You know you've got the best of both guys!
(not really your in a sucky situation)
hahaha... Hannah Montana funny
2007-08-25 20:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cowness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we all make mistakes, but you have to put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes; he WILL get mad and you shouldn't be angry at him for it - you'd probably feel the same way if he had cheated on you. Break it to him gently, apologise sincerely and let him know how much he means to you. Best of luck!
2007-08-25 19:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we all make mistakes. Just tell him gently. Plan a nice night.Just say "i have something very important to tell you but promise you won't get mad." Then see what happens. Good Luck
2007-08-25 19:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Roxy♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you LOVED it then you are not happy with your boyfriend, and would not have gone out with this other guy. Time to move on, your ex boyfriend deserves someone that won't cheat on him. You won't like it if it was the other way around.
2007-08-25 19:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could get your boyfriend and your best friend to hook up or better yet get together and do a little swapping and that way your all even and everything is all good.
Ready for the thumps down over here----------------->
2007-08-25 19:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by trueblueeyedguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what happened, punishment should fit the crime I say. Just be honest and you will feel better down the road what ever might happen with your BF
2007-08-25 19:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A kiss?...... you are concerned about a kiss.... did you go futher than a kiss? Don't say any thing to anyone or it will get back to your bf.
2007-08-25 19:41:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋