confront the person in a diplomatic way..."i heard what you had said about me...and it is false.."...will the talk just STOP...if you confront in a nice way?????..Of course the girl will deny it or ask where did you hear that from...and you politely say.."I'd rather not say...but i did hear it from a good source"...will the crap STOP???!!! ( i DO FEEL it is jealousy)...which there is no need for that...
2007-08-25 12:28:51 · 10 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Do you want to know if the person will stop talking about you behind your back if you confront them? I don't know, depends on the person. Even if that person stops, there will always be someone else talking about you behind your back. And I don't mean that to be rude, my point is, EVERYONE gets talked about behind their backs. It's just how people are. Yes, I agree, it's usually just jealousy.
2007-08-25 12:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Usually not. I take that from personal experience, sadly enough. And of course, they usually deny it. unless of course you are dealing with a very good person, then they might admit it, and they might stop. But most people deny, deny, deny and keep talking, talking talking...Of course, if you confront them (nice or not) they may be more careful and some of the stuff may stop. Personally, I think it's worth a shot, because at least they know you know and then whatever happens after that you know is real and you don't have to wonder what kind of friend they are.
2007-08-25 19:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem at my job. I had been hearing things that were said about me by a particular person. But instead of confronting her, when I saw her, I smiled and spoke to her even if she didn't speak back, or spoke back with this "Bit** you know I don't like you tone". Why? Because she is the one with the problem, not me. Why should I waste my time and energy confronting someone that I don't even really know that well, and just work with? It probably is jealousy that you are experiencing. Don't worry about it, do you job and go home. If they are not man/woman enough to come to you with the problem they may have or imagining that they have, screw them. They will try to be your friend later once they realize, they can't get under your skin; like the girl at my job who later asked if she could be my sons godmother.
2007-08-25 21:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by lwomar 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what you can do is live your life as if you never heard the gossip...living opposite of what was said is a clear way to send the message that it was pure gossip and not true...jealousy is a horrible thing and you can't stop that...it takes a bigger person to get past the gossip and let it go...proving a gossiper wrong is the best feeling you will ever have...good luck!!!
2007-08-25 19:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by PatsyAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't stop what has already been said, because you can't take back words. Nor can you stop other people from spreading them - but it might make the original gossiper or tale-spreader think twice in the future. And to wonder which friend spilled the beans.
2007-08-25 19:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them; You know, you really need to know that around here, when people talk about others behind their back, it always gets back to the person that is being talked about. Tell them that everybody knows who the gossiper is. In fact they are being gossiped about now.
2007-08-26 00:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by guitarrman45 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends on the person you confront. If they are insecure they'll probably be very embarassed and try to avoid you. If they really don't like you then they'll continue.
2007-08-25 19:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by xx. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie "Mean Girls"...that'll teach you to talk aobut people behind there backs..its a good lesson.....
2007-08-25 19:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kay J. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say, "Sue, it was brought to my attention................................. Of course she may deny it , but at least she knows that her gossip does get back to you
2007-08-25 21:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what
2007-08-25 19:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by x3blackcats 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋