So, if it isn't about race, how would you handle this situation?

Question

We are in agreement that the "racists" on this board are few, and, they are on BOTH sides. Now, with that being established, I can't help but wonder how non-racist people portray their views to their children, and, if the children end up seeing it as a race issue.
Here is my scenario: There is a child in school with yours. She is "gifted" and is studying physics in 4th grade. She is very sweet, pleasant, out going and self-confident. She is Latina, and, you suspect that one of her parents are not documented (as they don't speak English). Her mother is white- obviously from here. She seems well educated and is a bilingual real estate agent. Your child wants to invite the child over, or go to her home. Are you ok with this?

THis is a situation at my childrens' school. The mom is very sensitive to it.

NO, My daughter is a good friend of hers, but, I speak Spanish, so I can converse with her dad. I know the parents worry about their daughter being "stereotyped" because of the color of her skin. There have been a few ignorant remarks made, but, thank God only a few. I was just wondering if the status of the father would outweigh the positive attributes of the girl to the people on the board.

Answer 1

You should perform your civic duties as an American and report possible illegal activity.

Edit; by ignoring the law you're just as much guilty as the one committing the crime.

Edit; one other thing, this is not about race, it's about performing your civic responsibility and the moral dilemma you face between what goes against your judgment and what's the law.

Answer 2

See this is why I support reform without the legalization part.

We need to make the laws more sane and sensible then what we have now. When laws are insane, impractical and illogical, people tend to ignore and break them.

The problem with this situation is while the mother and child have the right to be here, the father does not. If we make an exception for some one deserving, then later down the line the exception becomes the rule and those who don't deserve it get it too. I would be in favor of some sort of guest program or temporary visa, while the family works towards a permanent one. I would be for this as long he checks in (and is check on by a case worker.) and makes sure his documentation is up to date and takes citizenship classes (learn basic English, our history, culture and laws.) and works for it.

I know it seems harsh, but not keeping an eye on who comes within our borders or tries for citizenship is a compromise of national security. Once they earn it, they can stay.

Answer 3

As a child, I had many friends in Cal. from different backgrounds.I played and went to all of their birthday parties ect. My playmates were Mexican,Black and Asian girls as well as White. As long as my mom knew their parents and that we would be supervised, I don't see a problem.
America is a melting pot of people ,it makes no sence to say that if you don't live that way.
By the way, I am 52 years old so it has been awhile since I've had playmates. I t seems this race issue has been around for a long time though.

Answer 4

My family has alot of friends of all nationalities.The gifted Latina girl you speak of would be a legal citizen if her mother is,whitch you forgot to mention made her 1/2 caucasion,If I suspected her father was undocumented it doesent make him any more special because he hides behind a child,he should get legal or he is breaking the law PERIOD!I would encourage my daughter to invite the girl over,but I have to admit I would be hesitant for my daughter to go to her house till I met her parents.

Answer 5

Here what I would do I would let my child goto play with the other child at her home or mine. I would hope the other family would feel the same way.
hate breeds hate and thats not somthing I want to pass on to anyone.
I cant find any reason not to teach my child to follow the laws of the USA. after all they are there for a reason every place in the world has laws.

Answer 6

My son is now an adult,but when he was growing up,he knew all his friends were welcome in our home,regardless of their ethnicity.
However,I would never feel comfortable sending my child to someone else's home without being in contact with the other parent first. If I could not communicate with them about the safety of my child,I would not let my child go to their home. I wouldn't expect another parent to allow their child in my home either without being able to communicate.
If the father is here illegally,I certainly do not approve of his actions,but that wouldn't prevent me from allowing his daughter in my home. And I wouldn't let my opinion about his legal status be known to my child.
My child was always free to choose his own friends,some I certainly didn't like,but eventually those friends disappeared when he decided on his own that they weren't what he was looking for in a friend.

Answer 7

I have better things to do with my time than study every Mexican. They and God know what laws they broke. They may be ok with it on earth. In the next life an illegal cannot use the better life defense erases all past wrongs.Would you mind explaining why Mexico deports around 200,000 migrants from other Latin American nations annually?

Answer 8

I don't ask to see my friends identity cards, let alone my kids friends parents, do you?

When my son was in kindergarten, I volunteered one morning each week to teach English and Spanish speaking kids to count in English. I certainly didn't ask for their parents IDs.

Answer 9

As long as the parents are morally decent people, I have no problem with it.

By the way, I like reading your post. You speak from the heart and from experience. You never let the racist people in here get to you. Even when they personally attack you. keep up the good work.

Answer 10

The people who are making illegal immigration a racial issues, are the anti-White, pro-illegal immigrant, Hispanic advocacy groups.La Raza the largest Hispanic advocacy group, means the race in Spanish.And yes it would be okay with me, if a White child wanted to invite a Hispanic girl over to their house.
P.S. I think you're an idiot, who probably hates White people.