I get really jealous of my boyfriend..so much to the point that last night when I was out with him I thought he was staring at another girl and started a big fight and scene where we were and just ruined the night. I hate this about myself but my last boyfriend cheated on me soo much that I guess it's left a deep scar in my heart and I can't get over it. It's gotten to the point where my present boyfriend hardly sees his friends or goes out for me because I can't stand the thought that he might go out there and talk to a girl or meet a girl. And when I'm not with him, it's all I can think about. It's very frustrating for me and I can only imagin how frustrating it is ifor him. He does'nt even talk to other girls and I get so jealous when ever the girl that works at the corner store says hi to him. HOW CAN I FIX THIS ABOUT MYSELF?
2007-08-25 10:51:17 · 6 answers · asked by dreamangel_141414 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I understand your problem..I don't have a solution but I'll give you a star to make you feel better.
And I'll stick around for some answers, as well. :D
2007-08-25 10:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, you have to remember that he's not your ex boyfriend. What your ex did to you was wrong, but you have to let it go and move on because you might run your current boyfriend away if you continue to be jealous all the time. It can get hard sometimes and your not the only girl who gets a tad bit jealous the way you do, but if you really really trust him, then you shouldn't worry about it. I'm sure he won't hurt you like your ex did.
2007-08-25 18:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by ~booknerd14~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way, my current boyfriend of 10 years cheated on me 9 years ago, and I am still not over it. I am very insecure and I never used to be. However you can not make this boyfriend pay for last boyfriends, you have to slowly let go to your insecurities and I do mean slow. Baby Steps. Like I had to wean myself into letting him go out with out me to bars and what not, hurt like hell to know he was out without me drinking with his friends, that's how he cheated on me to begin with. Truth is hunny it never has really went away and as I said it has been 9 years. But I suck it up, because he knows the first time I even hear a rumor, he is out of my life for good. So make sure your man knows how you feel and slowly let go. Remember one thing too, he is human he is going to look at other girls, it's healthy, I am sure you look at cute boys, my saying is window shop all you want, but your purchase's stay with me. Good Luck!
2007-08-25 17:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by Italia 28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called "baggage". ...boys/men don't usually like for girls/women to have "baggage". This usually starts happening when you're older...after you've married...divorced...etc etc. You're awfully young to start collecting "baggage". Try to get over it or you'll drive him away. You don't own him...and he doesn't own you. You've got to give him some space...or he'll take it without you. If he sees the only way he can even look at another girl is to leave you...he might. Lighten up on him if you want to keep him. Jealousy has destroyed a lot of relationships.
2007-08-25 18:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by Deenie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh my god! thats awful! He must be felling awful! you must be feeling awful!!! ok so, the first thing to do is fix the relationship you are in now. tell him exactly what you posted on line and basically told me. then you just let loose. if you see him looking at another girl, dont freak!! just stay calm. then if it becomes staring, tap his shoulder and ingage him in conversation. he seems ok. dating somebody is already taking a risk so be prepared!!! just let loose be cool
2007-08-25 18:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by pickychicky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to fix the problem, that's up to you, but if you don't fix it soon you're going to drive him away.
2007-08-25 18:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋