My son 26,died in Feb. I can not stop crying, How can I stop being so depressed?

Question

He had a loving family and very many friends . He died fron prescription drugs .It surprised us all.

He was a jolly person ,he loved his family and they very much loved him. He also had a lot of friends. But the main thing is I am so emotional every since he died and can't get better.

Answer 1

Parents who have lost their children can get help in grief counseling groups.

They help because they know how you're feeling......and they can help you cope.

Answer 2

Losing a cherished child is so difficult, it's probably one of the most painful events that can happen to a person. I don't think that there is a standard timeframe for grieving the loss of a son or daughter. There are so many things that could be triggering your crying spells. You could try taking some time every day to write down your feelings including all the associations that make you cry. You obviously have to get this out (express yourself) but it seems you are a little uncomfortable that it is through constant crying. If this doesn't work, try talking to a therapist that has experience with greiving (don't be afraid to ask the therapist). Sudden death often compounds grieving and you may need to get some extra help. Take care.

Answer 3

I'm not a parent so I really cant say much...I don't have a clue as to the type of pain you are experiencing.....but when my grandfather passed away....it helped a lot when family and friends got together and just remembered things about him ...this pass Friday the youngest of my brothers had a heart attack .....it has really freaked me out.... at the hospital family and friends, some people he knows started to show up it was helpful dealing with it when you have others there to help support you ...however.....my mom wont leave the hospital and sits quietly ...but she has people there with and for her ...I think that's helping her......Its seems like a totally different feeling from a parents point of view then a siblings...he's doing OK for right now ..but will be having surgery come Monday on his heart....I'm sorry for your lost ....and I hope you start feeling better soon....

Answer 4

This may sound strange, but have you tried talking to your son? Gone in the physical sense does not mean gone in the spiritual sense, he is separated from you by the veil of death but you can still communicate with him through prayer just like you would pray to God, Jesus, or whoever your deity of choice is. Rest assured that he is watching over you as your guardian angel, and that he is aware of your pain, and that he is trying to help you get through it.

Make sure you won't be interrupted; turn off the phone, etc. You must open your heart & mind, and speak to him as if he was invisible and standing right in front of you. Tell him how you feel, about your pain and the loss you are experiencing every day. Tell him you love him. Listen with your heart and you will 'hear' him.

Answer 5

i am so very sorry about your loss.i know the pain of losing someone you love.you will miss him for a very long time but instead of trying to forget maybe you should remember.you said he had a loving family and friends so do something positive with them in his memory.you know what was special to him and things he enjoyed by doing this a piece of your son will live on and he will not be forgotten.i know how you feel you are afraid to let go of the grief because it feels like that is all you have left of him and you don't want to forget how much you love him.i know i felt that when my dad died but you will never forget him but you can remember him and be happy.please try this it is a great way to honor your son.God bless you and your family.

Answer 6

I have not lost a child but I have been through some other pretty difficult stuff and I have found that it helps to get with others who have had similar experiences.
As a cancer survivor (3 times) I spend time on the American Cancer Society site. Perhaps you could find an online support group for your kind of loss.
For instance, ConquerTogether is a blog site for people experiencing all kinds of trauma.
God bless.

Answer 7

Oh Cheryl I am so sorry. I can't imagine losing a child. Please accept my heartfelt hugs. You have to let yourself grieve, I know it's been awhile, but each of us grieves in different ways and different lengths of time. Are you getting professional counseling? Because part of what you are feeling is guilt for not seeing what was happening. And that guilt will eat you alive. It wasn't your fault. You can't hold on to this. Set yourself a time limit to grieve and stick to it. Plan exactly what you are going to do the day you wake up and the grieving stopped the day before. Pick yourself up and hug yourself and let the pain go one day at a time. Hugs and tears from Minnesota.

Answer 8

I'm sorry for your loss.. There are forums on the internet where you can talk to people who have gone throught similar things.. My best friends cousin at 17 just died a few months ago.. It devestated the whole family.. I know this sounds wierd but the mother actually went to one of those people who can talk to spirits and was amazed at the things she said and it brought her some peace.

Answer 9

Its going to take a while to heal because of his death. What is really hurting you is how he died, from a presciption drugs. You just going to have to take it day by day and slowly release that depression stage, because if you don't stress is going to play a role in your health. Its alright to cry, but remember your son wouldn't want you to continue to get yourself sick.

Answer 10

it's hard to not be depressed. you will always be sad becuase of a loss. don't ignore it, just get on with your life like you normally would when he was alive