boyfriend touch my boobs?

Question

i am 16, and i have small boobs so i dont feel comfortable with my boyfriend touching them because i guess they arent big enough, im not prude, and if i had bigger boobs id gladly let him touch them. but is it a turn-off or something if i don't let him touch them? do you think he will still want anything to do with me? is that being selfish if he lets me touch him, but i dont let him touch me? personally, i think he should be lucky he has someone to touch him...if you know what i mean, but thats just me...

Answer 1

He already knows you have small boobs and is OK with that. Don't be self conscious, he likes you as your are.

Answer 2

"personally, i think he should be lucky he has someone to touch him...if you know what i mean, but thats just me..."

Urg, that is such a bad attitude, I really hope you don't show those sentiments towards your boyfriend otherwise he'll be out of there like a shot. Anyways, in terms of physical intimacy if you're not comfortable doing something then that's all well and good. However, bare in mind that physical intimacy is a give and take scenario. You can't expect your boyfriend to purposefully avoid your chest area entirely during spooning/making-out/intercourse/whatever. In the "heat of the moment" hands will wander, so as you can imagine stopping physical intimacy dead because he tread in the "wrong area" is a surefire way to cause tension since he will feel as though he is stepping on eggshells. Eventually he may even stop being intimate with you entirely because the effort is too great. However difficult it may be, it will help you immensly if you learn to accept your body. You will most likely find that if your boyfriend stimulates your breasts sufficiently the size of them won't matter much.

Answer 3

Boobs are boobs. They can be great orbs in the sky shining like the full moon and they can be little stars twinkling near the horizon. Stars are little boobs. The twinkles are like the little nipples on the little boobs. Little boobs are great. Big boobs are great. Camels are great too and some of those have two humps, like boobs.

Touch boobs don't touch boobs. Don't touch do touch. Touch & see. Touch and hear. Touch and taste. Touch and smell. One sense is good and another sense is bad and another sense is don't care either way. People are crazy. Camels are much better. People have their heads all screwed up with rules about touching and tasting and smelling, but seeing and hearing is ok. Stupid, insane humans.

When the aliens land you humans will know that you are crazy.

Answer 4

First of all, Why are you saying your selfish? Thats just you trying to get him to respect your privacy. I mean if he really didnt want to have anything to do with you because of your request to lay his hands off, then he wasnt a good boyfriend to start off with in the first place. He should respect how you feel. And you dont need bigger boobs to feel confident. Im small too.

Answer 5

The size of your breasts is genetic and you cannot do anything about it.Lots of women have small breasts some even only have nipples on a flat chest.If your boyfriend touching your breasts feels good but you deny the pleasure because you are self conscious about their size just relax and enjoy and just remember for every woman that has small breasts there is a guy with a small penis that is equally self conscious about it's size.If you have a petite build then large breasts would be out of place and a strain on your back.I know of a average size woman who had huge breasts and she always had backaches from the strain of her huge breasts even if she wore a extra support bra and eventually she had them reduced surgically and now she enjoys moderate size breasts that don't cause back pain.Your breasts are what they are and if your boyfriend has no problem with their size then you shouldn't either.

Answer 6

It really depends what you want. In my opinion: If it feels nice, why not? But since you're limiting yourself with strict christian views and don't want to have sex, I need to warn you: this is a sign that he wants to get to know your body. Touching you will arouse you into wanting to have sex, and I am willing to bet it is giving him a hard on. So, be aware this will very likely lead to something else! Remember, sex is natural, and can be a beautiful expression of love.

Answer 7

I think that you are way to young to be thinking about sex anyways i think that if you want to get pregnant then go ahead and be a s1ut i got pregnant at 16 and i struggled trust me i did very badly. Lets just say that my parents kicked me out of the house and i couldnt afford anything and i had to give up my own child to a family that i didnt even know. Seriously you need to sloww down. I am now a mother of 2 and one on the way i wish i would have waited and not had the child because now that i have all of my other kids i feel horrible that i had to give up my 1st and now i wonder what it would have been like if i had kept her.
Just my story for you.
good luck in life.

Answer 8

The size of your breasts should not come into a relationship.Afterall he dated you knowing you had small breast.
Remember that you are a person and that part of the package were your breasts.
You should not let anyone touch them yet as you are a little young.

Answer 9

If he is touching your at inappropriate times or making an effort to make you uncomfortable tell him so in no uncertain terms. DO NOT punish him if he is justing trying to reciprocate feelings or trying to give you pleasure.

Inexperienced lovers go for the other's protrusions thinking that is the best if only way to give their partner pleasure, or get a reaction out of them. Explore with him and teach yourselves that the human body can be one big sexual organ and the protrusions are just apart of the whole. Before you become sexually active explore with your partner other areas that get you going faster then playing with the most obvious parts (A love bite to the back of the neck, a light touch to the side of the face, a slow and light stoke to the middle of the back, a kiss on the pulse of the wrist, etc...). There is more to physical relationships then frantic groping in the dark.

Sexual responsibility doesn't end with using protection. Discuss with your partner what makes you uncomfortable and excited. EVERY person has a spot on their body we don't want others to see or touch, but in accepting their touch in the spirit it is given helps us build trust and closeness. Placing limits based on body image alone only cheats you of a great experience. Let your partner know how you feel and give them a chance to tell you how they feel about the same area, because a healthy physical relationship should include both parties in body, mind and spirit. If either of you are just in it for kicks, just because everyone is doing it, or you feel that you should repay someone for giving you attention, then get out of the relationship fast. You do not owe anyone sexual favors just because they smile or pay attention to you.

You are both just learning about the art of lovemaking and it is not always about receiving, but also giving of yourself to that other person. A guy might love giving long sloppy kisses, but it grosses out the person on the receiving end. Instead of embarrassing the person on how they kiss experiment with a way that works for both of you. Both parties should take an active roll in play and sexual behavior.

Give yourself the chance to give and receive verbal and physical compliments from your partner, believe me it's well worth stepping outside your comfort zone.

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Stating on an open forum such as this he should be lucky to have anyone touch him shows us that you are a tad selfish and feel superior in how you view yourself compared to him. You are putting your self worth above his and if you truly love or care for him then you should never flaunt feelings such as this to him or others...It's just bad taste.

You have decided to get into a relationship, and by doing so have agreeing to open yourself to a deeper physical and emotional connection. Teasing or trading sexual favors for outcomes in your favor is just ruining the guy for someone else. Playing games with other people is just plain wrong!

Fist off others will see how you treat each other and form opinions themselves, and nothing will keep the injured partner from keeping their feelings or how they were treated quiet.

Expect the burned to warn others away from the burner.

Answer 10

At 16 I wouldn't care what he thinks, if you don't want to be touched tell him no! If you explain why your not comfortable and he moves on, then your better off without him anyway!

Answer 11

First of all, if your not comfortable then let him know that your not ready to do anything like that and tell him your not completely comfortable with it. If he really cares about you then he will totally and completely understand and he will lay off and stuff. Let him know how you feel about him doing what he does to you. Dont be scared. If he gets offended or mad or breaks up with you then it shows that he was only with you to work his way up to get in ur pants. Dont let that happen. Let him know straight up that you dont like it.

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