We had plans to go out tonight. I checked with him early this morning and we were on then around noon he said he wasn't feeling well and didn't want to hang out. About 5 months ago when we first started dating the same thing happened only he cancelled on me about the time I was leaving to meet him. We ended up in an argument because I thought he wanted to hang out with friends and was lying to me. So since he says he is sick today I want to drive by and see if his car is at his house or what. If it isn't then I intend to bring it up. Is it wrong of me to do this???
2007-08-25 09:09:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd check...but twice in 5 months isn't too bad to be sick. If you haven't anyother reasons to suspect he's lying, you are probably safe. BUT! As a woman, and being a woman myself, just a teeny eeny peek won't hurt! Good luck
2007-08-25 09:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by EM J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if between the morning and noon he gets "sick" then i think it calls for a little check up. So you wont look like a stalker or like you dont trust him make some soup and maybe rent one of his favorite movies and go over to his house...if hes home you can say that since he wasnt feeling well you made him soup to make him feel better and brought a movie if hes not there stay at the house and call him on the cell....casually ask him what hes doing and if he says hes home say that your pulling up to his house and to open the door...if he stutters or makes up an excuse you know hes lying and break up!
hope everything turns out ok
2007-08-25 11:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by Brizzer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I didn't see where he said anything wrong. You can't live life by "what if", you have to go with "what is". And at this point, there is NOTHING in any of that to make me think she's anymore than a friend. But you know more about this than I do. Maybe consider his reputation and his history. Does he cheat? Has he cheated? Is there some reason to think he is more than a friend to her? Either way, you guys obviously are lacking the trust that all relationships need to survive. I think you guys need a beak. But that's just me.
2016-05-17 22:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by pamela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's your boyfriend and he's not feeling well why don't you plan on stopping by to ask if there's anything you can do to make him more comfortable.
Or you could stop by with a little care package for him.
So if he's not there - you could just tell him that you came by to see if he needed anything or to drop off a care package and it won't look like you're stalking him.
And if he's not there - yeah you should be very worried.
No matter what he's out doing - he shouldn't lie to you.
2007-08-25 09:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ann Ominous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to want to check on him, nor is it right to want to check on him. If you two are having trust issues from the start then maybe the relationship shouldn't have continued. Remember the old saying, I think it goes 'Never ask a question you don't want to hear the answer to...'
2007-08-25 11:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the right to do what ever the hell you want...personally i think you should, maybe you will catch the lying son of a bi*ch, but if he is there play the good girlfriend act and bring him some soup of something, take care of him for about an hour then realize you are an untrusting girl and get outta there!
2007-08-25 09:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by chelz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well by doing this it means you somewhat don't trust him
&& you have some trust issues which I can understand
but if it's only to hang out with the guys so what...big deal at
least you don't think it's another girl =] good luck hun
2007-08-25 09:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by manda102285 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's wrong or not but it's a momumental waste of time and energy. Whether you should or shouldn't have them is for you to decide, but it's obvious you have trust issues. (Maybe your boyfriend isn't trustworthy in which case having trust issues is understandable, but the bigger question is, who needs the headache of wondering whether you're being lied to or not?)
2007-08-25 09:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him up and tell him you're bringing over some hot chicken soup. Do this for real! You'll get your answer.
Good Luck!
2007-08-25 09:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by cth5x9 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its always possible that he started feeling bad and just wants to go home and chill but since he has lied to you before it wouldnt hurt to drive by and check.if it turns out he is lieing dont let it just slide by confront him and find out why
2007-08-25 09:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by wvgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋